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Posted by Nathan_Arizona on May 28, 2007, at 17:43:58
Today seemed to be just like any other day in therapy, although I was a little more anxious than other days.
A lot of really good stuff has been happening in my life and frankly, it freaks me out and it causing almost generalized anxiety. I keep waiting for the other "shoe" to drop so to speak.
I also have deep feelings that I don't deserve it you know?
Well anyway, I am going out with a wonderful man that I have known for years, but about three months ago we started dating.
I told my therapist that I was thinking today "that of all the people that fate could have brought back to me, it brought XXXXX" and I was very grateful.
My therapist said "I don't know how you feel about this, but I would really like to give you a hug on the way out."
I said sure, and on the way out we hugged.
It was nice.
Even though I am still going through termination, it is still nice to have my T.
I wish everyone could go to him.
Posted by zenhussy on May 28, 2007, at 18:04:13
In reply to Well, after 7 years, we finally hugged each other., posted by Nathan_Arizona on May 28, 2007, at 17:43:58
Posted by LadyBug on May 28, 2007, at 21:03:45
In reply to Well, after 7 years, we finally hugged each other., posted by Nathan_Arizona on May 28, 2007, at 17:43:58
Ah, hugs are great. I've only had one that we talked about first, in 10 years. It was the night before I went into the hospital for 2 major surgeries. It was about 7 months ago. It was the best. We can't take it for granted can we? Nope!
LadyBug
Posted by muffled on May 28, 2007, at 22:58:33
In reply to Re: Well, after 7 years, we finally hugged each ot, posted by LadyBug on May 28, 2007, at 21:03:45
Posted by muffled on May 28, 2007, at 22:59:26
In reply to Re: Well, after 7 years, we finally hugged each ot, posted by LadyBug on May 28, 2007, at 21:03:45
Posted by LadyBug on May 28, 2007, at 23:40:07
In reply to Well above for NA, but sure LB too!!!:-) (nm), posted by muffled on May 28, 2007, at 22:59:26
No worries Muffled ;o)
Posted by Nathan_Arizona on May 29, 2007, at 6:08:45
In reply to Well, after 7 years, we finally hugged each other., posted by Nathan_Arizona on May 28, 2007, at 17:43:58
WHen do you stop needing your T?
I thought I was well on my way to termination.
However, it was sooo nice to go into his office as anxious as I was, and be soothed. And this was independent of the hug.
Hmmm.. I think I'll keep things as status quo for a little while.
Posted by gazo on May 29, 2007, at 8:35:46
In reply to Thanks all, but it does bring up a question for me, posted by Nathan_Arizona on May 29, 2007, at 6:08:45
being so early in the process i haven't talked about stuff like termination (the thought sometimes triggers me)... in fact, i refuse to talk about goals yet, because that implies endings. When we do, what i want is to leave it open ended. i don't want to have a "last session" in the forever sense. i would want to just move the sessions apart more and then just whenever... no big goodbye.
Posted by LlurpsieNoodle on May 29, 2007, at 16:14:29
In reply to Re: Thanks all, but it does bring up a question fo » Nathan_Arizona, posted by gazo on May 29, 2007, at 8:35:46
I am going through termination right now.
parting is such sweet sorrow. I am going to another T right away, though, so at least I can discuss the pain of termination with someone else.
best,
_ll
Posted by zenhussy on May 29, 2007, at 20:35:52
In reply to Thanks all, but it does bring up a question for me, posted by Nathan_Arizona on May 29, 2007, at 6:08:45
Posted by Dinah on May 30, 2007, at 10:00:28
In reply to Well, after 7 years, we finally hugged each other., posted by Nathan_Arizona on May 28, 2007, at 17:43:58
That is very sweet. :)
It sounds like a good solid relationship.
When you think of terminating, are you consider it a forever sort of termination? Or are you thinking more of it as coming in when you need it rather than regularly?
Posted by Nathan_Arizona on May 31, 2007, at 11:35:50
In reply to Re: Well, after 7 years, we finally hugged each ot » Nathan_Arizona, posted by Dinah on May 30, 2007, at 10:00:28
Well, I had been debating a more permanent termination. Therapy costs a lot of money, I'm feeling pretty steady, etc...
But I think the best thing for me will be to not terminate at all, and to just keep the door open.
I can't believe I have even come to the place where I am ready to even talk about termination. It's been such a long long road.
I'll just have to see how I feel when we meet again in two weeks.
Posted by Dinah on May 31, 2007, at 11:50:04
In reply to Re: Well, after 7 years, we finally hugged each ot » Dinah, posted by Nathan_Arizona on May 31, 2007, at 11:35:50
That's a good point. Immediately after an unsolicited hug (and the first one ever) is probably not a good time to decide.
In fact an unsolicited (though he of course asked my permission) hug was probably the catalyst for my recent reattachment to my therapist, solidified by the fact that he got through flooding to see me.
It's one of the reasons I asked about seductiveness. Of course, I'm not saying either of our therapists intended to be seductive. But in my case at least, it kind of pulled me back in as I was edging away.
As you know, I am firmly in favor of forever therapy, but even at those times lately where I could see a day where I wouldn't need him on a regular basis, I can't imagine saying goodbye for good.
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