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Posted by LlurpsieNoodle on April 23, 2007, at 13:38:28
Feelings.
so I guess we all have them, or we're supposed to.
I find it difficult to have feelings. I don't like to admit to having them in many circumstances. I don't like their consequences, in many circumstances.
Is there such a thing as healthy numbing of one's feelings. I'm thinking of the distracting things that I do. like my craft projects which are soothing, but not really addressing the problem.
vs.
journalling about source, experience, and consequence of having some feeling or emotion, which seems to actually make a difference.
Is it wrong to neglect the latter for the former. Do I have to be in a "strong place to do the latter" I guess it just needs to become a habit.
I guess I'll get out my journal now. it is from Target. got it in the kids section. hello kitty with stickers for emotions. excited. grumpy. sad. flirty. frustrated. you get the picture.
Now back to that journal. if I know it might make me feel better why do I avoid it.
And I know the answer to that question.
it has to do with FEELINGS.
ugh
Posted by jammerlich on April 23, 2007, at 14:20:22
In reply to coping vs. numbing vs. dealing, posted by LlurpsieNoodle on April 23, 2007, at 13:38:28
You see, I really have no feelings about feelings becuase doing so would mean I acknowledge feeling something.
I don't mean to make light of things, Llurpsie. I just wrote that because I do understand. They are SO hard to deal with. And I know writing helps, but I still avoid it like the plague. I guess it's because it's just as hard for me to face them myself as it is for me to share them with others. And when I think about why that is, I figure it's because I think what I feel is bad and I don't want to see all my badness there on paper. Too dangerous.
Maybe it would be easier to start if you just tell yourself you have to write for 10 minutes, or something. And it doesn't matter what you write. It's OK if you just say, "I'm writing to fill this pink Hello Kitty page because my friend, Jammer, suggested it. I wonder how Hello Kitty got her name? I have a kitty, too. But he's a he, not a she. When I come home, I say "Hello, Kitty" to him. Do you think he feels emasculated because the famous and powerful Hello Kitty is a girl?" At least it's a pressure-free way to get started.
If that works, tell me. Then maybe I'll try it. My T keeps suggesting I write. Pshh....damn feelings.
Posted by canadagirl on April 23, 2007, at 21:29:08
In reply to coping vs. numbing vs. dealing, posted by LlurpsieNoodle on April 23, 2007, at 13:38:28
What I've always been told is, feelings are neither right or wrong, they just are. Therefore if they just are, then we need to accept them as part of us sometimes. Not that we need to act on them if they can be dangerous, but to allow ourselves to feel. To feel is to begin to heal, what do you think?
Posted by gazo on April 24, 2007, at 15:12:36
In reply to coping vs. numbing vs. dealing, posted by LlurpsieNoodle on April 23, 2007, at 13:38:28
well...yeah.. i do think it's healthy to numb feelings sometimes. It's what we do to protect ourselves. i think it's better to learn to deal in other ways, but if numbing gets you through then i don't see it as unhealthy entirely.
your writing kinda sells you out kid. you think you don't have feelings but i hear them when you write.. i do the same thing. That's why a journal or babble are so important.. the feelings seep out between the words.. and sometimes other people can see them.. hopefully your T.
i think you're an awesome writer BTW. Very funny a lot of the time... even when things are hard.
much love and peace
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