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Posted by Poet on April 5, 2007, at 21:20:29
Before she said it she said *now I know you're going to want to cross yourself...* (Cross myself does not mean a religious gesture, it's when I tightly cross my arms across my chest when I feel threatened.) I didn't cross my arms, but I grabbed a pillow just in case I needed to use it as a barrier between me and her.
I told her that I trust her more, still to a point, but that point is getting further and further away.
She says she sees me being relaxed with her and more open. Then she asked me a harder question which is am I taking that feeling of trust/being open with me or do I just have it in her office? I said I didn't know, so I suppose that'll be next week's session.
Poet
Posted by Iwillsurvive on April 5, 2007, at 22:28:08
In reply to T Thinks I am Trusting Her More, posted by Poet on April 5, 2007, at 21:20:29
Thats good to think your making progress Poet!
How goes the job?
Take care.
Posted by Daisym on April 6, 2007, at 0:18:45
In reply to T Thinks I am Trusting Her More, posted by Poet on April 5, 2007, at 21:20:29
I'm glad you are able to trust her more. I think she has earned her stripes! Making it a transferable skill is tricky, isn't it? I know for me, I'm never sure who to trust, if anyone, with my inner life. Therapy sorts of leads us to believe that everyone will be kind and accepting of our quirks. But that just isn't true. So we have to choose wisely, in revealing ourselves. But at least it is a start - being more trusting in therapy.
Good for you. You are doing really hard work.
Hugs,
Daisy
Posted by gazo on April 6, 2007, at 0:22:09
In reply to T Thinks I am Trusting Her More, posted by Poet on April 5, 2007, at 21:20:29
That is great! Trust is such a difficult thing sometimes. i'm trying to figure that out now. It's a good thing though. Do you feel good about it?
Posted by Racer on April 6, 2007, at 1:21:26
In reply to Re: T Thinks I am Trusting Her More » Poet, posted by gazo on April 6, 2007, at 0:22:09
It's because of me!
:-D
OK, I'll take off my Narcissist costume now...
I'm glad for you, Poet. But I have some bad news for you: if you keep going this way, getting a job, trusting your T, all the rest, you know what will happen? You will need a new identity -- you won't be able to maintain that negativity and you won't be able to call yourself those nasty things anymore. You'll have to change your name to Mary Sunshine, and get some birds to sing when you come into the room!
I'm glad you're trusting her more. I hope it feels nice for you, too.
Now go cross yourself...
Posted by Poet on April 7, 2007, at 12:50:47
In reply to Re: T Thinks I am Trusting Her More, posted by Iwillsurvive on April 5, 2007, at 22:28:08
Hi IWS,
Trust is a very strange feeling for me, this will take some getting used to.
Work is going good, thought I did freak out on my second day. I got there and the office was locked. I waited in panic for 10 minutes. Bad day to forget both my cell phone and clonazepam. I panicked because that's what happened before they fired me at the last job: I showed up and the office was closed, no one told me everybody was taking the day off.
Anyway, I found a pay phone and left new boss a message that I had been there and was going home to get my cell phone. I wasn't about to explain why I didn't just sit on the floor and keep waiting. I went home and got my cell phone, took clonazepam and called my T on the way back to the office. She understood why I freaked.
From now one both clonazepam and my cell phone are in my purse before I leave the house.
Poet
Posted by Poet on April 7, 2007, at 12:53:56
In reply to Re: T Thinks I am Trusting Her More, posted by Daisym on April 6, 2007, at 0:18:45
Hi Daisy,
Making a trust a transferable skill seems impossible. I will never trust my family that's for sure. WIth friends, it's definitely choose wisely as there is a fine line between quirky and crazy. Neither of which I am, right?
My T has earned her stripes and a badge of honor for putting up with me for all these years.
Poet
Posted by Poet on April 7, 2007, at 12:56:06
In reply to Re: T Thinks I am Trusting Her More » Poet, posted by gazo on April 6, 2007, at 0:22:09
Hi Gazo,
Trusting my T does feel good (don't tell her though, okay, I like to be difficult.) I have noticed that I don't cross my arms as much as I used to, I've even been leaning on the arm of the loveseat. Relaxed? Me? Strange, but good feeling.
Poet
Posted by Poet on April 7, 2007, at 13:01:12
In reply to I know why!, posted by Racer on April 6, 2007, at 1:21:26
Hi Racer,
If I could type with my nose, my arms would be tightly crossed. Mary Sunshine? I'm afraid if I told Dr. Clueless I'm hearing birds chirping, she'd put me on some new meds, quick.
Trusting my T feels nice, taking that feeling outside her office I don't know about. Though I trust you, that's a start.
Poet
Posted by Happyflower on April 7, 2007, at 16:36:08
In reply to Re: I know why!, posted by Poet on April 7, 2007, at 13:01:12
Hey, Great news poet! ;-). Trusting feels good and is scary at the same time, but it is a major step with your T. You should be proud of yourself.
Posted by Poet on April 7, 2007, at 18:54:16
In reply to Re: I know why!, posted by Happyflower on April 7, 2007, at 16:36:08
Hi Happyflower,
I am proud of myself, but I keep thinking, why did it take so darn long? Trusting sure does feel good and scary at the same time.
Poet
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