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Posted by Deneb on March 19, 2007, at 22:44:55
I asked my pdoc when she thinks she will stop seeing me and she said she's going to continue to see me.
I have long term problems and she's going to stick by me.
I wonder if this means she will see me for years and years?
Deneb*
Posted by Cecilia on March 20, 2007, at 4:12:13
In reply to My pdoc said she won't leave me, posted by Deneb on March 19, 2007, at 22:44:55
Plenty of us, including me, have been told this by T's who later dumped us. It's just something they tell them to say in T school to get the client to trust. It has nothing to do with reality. They can't predict the future. If they could they'd be billionaires in the stock market instead of having to sit and listen to people tell them their problems. Cecilia
Posted by Cecilia on March 20, 2007, at 4:19:55
In reply to Re: My pdoc said she won't leave me, posted by Cecilia on March 20, 2007, at 4:12:13
Sorry to be so cynical and discouraging. I'm just still so angry at the T who treated me so horribly. Hopefully yours is one of the good ones, Deneb. I've been told they exist. Cecilia
Posted by gazo on March 20, 2007, at 9:07:01
In reply to Re: My pdoc said she won't leave me, posted by Cecilia on March 20, 2007, at 4:19:55
Celia does have a point, they can't predict the future and so events *could* happen which would end the relationship. A competant T would help you transition to a new T and make sure you would be seen by someone. Not all T's are good ones.
I wouldn't just pin all of my hopes/fears on one conversation about it. I think it is important you continue to discuss your fear of abandonment with your T.
SOmetimes issues do take years, other times not so long. Maybe by the time therapy ends, short or long, you won't need her or fear her leaving you.
At some point, in order to get over your fear, you will have to learn to take the risk and trust someone.
Posted by Dinah on March 20, 2007, at 9:14:45
In reply to My pdoc said she won't leave me, posted by Deneb on March 19, 2007, at 22:44:55
I'm glad she's telling you you can count on her being there.
There is no way to predict the future, but she's telling you that she won't willingly walk away from you while you're in need of her, and there's no reason to disbelieve that. Hasn't she been with you for years already from what I understand?
Posted by Iwillsurvive on March 20, 2007, at 11:41:49
In reply to Re: My pdoc said she won't leave me » Deneb, posted by Dinah on March 20, 2007, at 9:14:45
My T has reassured me MANY, MANY, MANY, times that she will not just dump me.
There would have to be something big to mmake her dump me.
She said she cannot guarantee she will never hurt me, cuz people hurt people they care bout lotsa times, just human nature. But then we would work through it, and thats how it works.
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