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Posted by canadagirl on March 14, 2007, at 20:34:57
OK I just posted on the thread above I was bored with therapy and knew I was done, but yet why do I sometimes feel like going back and putting myself through more of the same? I really have other things I want and need to do, on that night, other than that. And I have to arrange childcare, etc. it really is a hassle. I like the therapist, but I feel like I function OK on my own. So why do I feel like going back? For what? What would I do when I got there? Probably nothing. I don't understand it. I am trying to read up things in the archives etc but can't find this one. Any thoughts?
Posted by Dinah on March 14, 2007, at 22:46:10
In reply to Why do I want to go back?, posted by canadagirl on March 14, 2007, at 20:34:57
Welllll. This is just a guess, because it's hard for me to imagine being so bored that I'd be willing to terminate, although I am bored sometimes.
But therapy is a unique experience. Having a place to go where you are the focus, and your needs are what matters, and someone listens to what you say. That's an appealing thing.
And your relationship was real in a way. Even if you don't need or want to pay for continuing that relationship, it is only natural to have longings for it from time to time.
And maybe there's hope that something different will happen if you go back. Like I'm feeling so bad right now, and I really want to call my therapist. I know that calling him won't help me feel any better, and I can't really spare the time or money to schedule an extra appointment, and it wouldnt' help if I did. But there's always that hope...
Posted by canadagirl on March 15, 2007, at 7:16:12
In reply to Re: Why do I want to go back? » canadagirl, posted by Dinah on March 14, 2007, at 22:46:10
Yes thanks Dinah I think you are right; I am bored with therapy but what I really need is to have him on call, just briefly on occasion when I want to reconnect, and then forget about it the rest of the time. Wouldn't that be great. I guess I'd have to get a job that would support keeping him on 24 hour standby for my whims :-)
By the way, I think if you feel the need to call your T even if you don't think it will do "anything", call him. That's what he's there for and your needs are important. If you're feeling bad, that's all the reason you or he needs, to make the call.
Posted by JoniS on March 15, 2007, at 7:53:24
In reply to Why do I want to go back?, posted by canadagirl on March 14, 2007, at 20:34:57
I agree with Dinah too. And I would add that I think I want to go to T even when things are going well, because I actually FEEL things. I seem to be closest to my emotions, and most likely to be accepting of myself deep down.
Dinah, I hope things go better for you today. I can relate.
Joni
Posted by canadagirl on March 15, 2007, at 16:17:29
In reply to Re: Why do I want to go back?, posted by JoniS on March 15, 2007, at 7:53:24
Thanks JoniS, it's good you go when things are going well for you, and can get in touch with your emotions. I just can't feel anything when I'm there, if things are going well. (hence, the boredom.) Also the method is "gestalt", a little different, very unstructured and sometimes, it seems to me too contrived.
Posted by Iwillsurvive on March 15, 2007, at 21:49:52
In reply to Why do I want to go back?, posted by canadagirl on March 14, 2007, at 20:34:57
Mebbe its just the connection. Our connection w/T is often quite unique and strong.
I know some contact, or e-mail their T's from time to time after termination, and some T's are OK with that cuz they understand.
Some don't :(
I hope your T does, and you feel you can occassionally contact him.....
Also, some quit therapy for a time, then come back...
Take care
Posted by canadagirl on March 17, 2007, at 17:11:59
In reply to Re: Why do I want to go back? » canadagirl, posted by Iwillsurvive on March 15, 2007, at 21:49:52
I'd love to do the email thing, but not with him. I did do therapy by email once and it was wonderful. It was so fast and easy to resolve things that way. But unfortunately that e-therapy provider is no longer accessible.thanks for the suggestions.
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