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Posted by muffled on February 12, 2007, at 12:44:02
I such a moron. My T I think is trying to connect more w/me in some ways I think.
And I am trying to separate away from her, cuz she going away a long time.
So this is all making me mighty uncomfortable.
I am tickled my T is making this effort.
I am terrified my T is making this effort.
I wish to assume my identitiy of perfect well adjustedness.
I wish to be the real me's.
I want to hurt her.
I want to hug her.
My Toughie wants to meet T face to face.
But I trust/don't trust T.
My small one wants to explain stuff.
Nasty won't let her.
Don't understand this stuff.
Presumably this is all terribly educational.
From what I have read here on babble, I not the only one.
((Babble))
((((((Babblers))))))
Muffled
Posted by one woman cine on February 12, 2007, at 14:12:55
In reply to Sigh, posted by muffled on February 12, 2007, at 12:44:02
Treat yourself well -
take care of you -
you are uncomfortable, but you can get through it -
emotions may feel overwhelming but they will be over at some point - cycle of life and all (what comes up, must come down)
I hope you can feel better about the separation.
Posted by happykat on February 12, 2007, at 15:30:23
In reply to Sigh, posted by muffled on February 12, 2007, at 12:44:02
((((((((((muffled)))))))))))
You have a way of putting into words what I feel. Therapy is sooooo hard sometimes. But especially when you have to separate from them at times. Can she call you while she's away. Just to check in? Or at least provide you with a backup (even though I know it's not the same)
Thinking of you and hoping you're doing o.k. Be well muffled! Stay safe!
Regards,
kat
Posted by Gee on February 12, 2007, at 15:49:24
In reply to Sigh, posted by muffled on February 12, 2007, at 12:44:02
Can you explain to your t that you're pulling away because she's going away? I totally understand how hard this is on you.
(((Muff and all her little ones inside and out)))
Posted by canadagirl on February 12, 2007, at 17:18:28
In reply to Sigh, posted by muffled on February 12, 2007, at 12:44:02
You're not a moron, and what you're feeling is pretty much par for the course. You have a caring relationship, and will be without that for a time, and of course it's hard. Just do the best you can. No one (your inner people, or your T) is expecting "perfect well-adjustedness" - (that would take all the "fun" out of therapy, wouldn't it? :-)
Posted by annierose on February 12, 2007, at 17:30:01
In reply to Sigh, posted by muffled on February 12, 2007, at 12:44:02
Just curious, did your T tell you why she was going away for 6 weeks? Is she having a baby?
It is a long time. That is for sure. And I understand the mixed emotions. That is normal. Once my t asked me what I was feeling and I said, "I'm not sure if I love you or hate you at this moment." She laughed because that is so common - but few probably express it so plainly.
We are here. Camp Comfort is always open. And I'm sure your t left you a name of someone covering for her while she is away.
I'd be sad too.
Posted by Deneb on February 12, 2007, at 22:37:03
In reply to Sigh, posted by muffled on February 12, 2007, at 12:44:02
(((((((((Muffled))))))))))
Sorry your T is going away. Maybe write stuff on Babble instead of talking to T.
Deneb*
Posted by muffled on February 12, 2007, at 22:51:38
In reply to Re: Sigh, posted by one woman cine on February 12, 2007, at 14:12:55
> Treat yourself well -
>
> take care of you -
>
> you are uncomfortable, but you can get through it -
>
> emotions may feel overwhelming but they will be over at some point - cycle of life and all (what comes up, must come down)
>
> I hope you can feel better about the separation.
>Thanks for the reminder OWC, you are right, I WILL do OK.
I loved the what comes up must come down!!! LOL.
Thank you for your support. It helps.
You take care too,
Muffled
Posted by muffled on February 12, 2007, at 22:54:07
In reply to Re: Sigh » muffled, posted by happykat on February 12, 2007, at 15:30:23
> ((((((((((muffled)))))))))))
Thank you ((((HK))))
> You have a way of putting into words what I feel. Therapy is sooooo hard sometimes. But especially when you have to separate from them at times. Can she call you while she's away. Just to check in? Or at least provide you with a backup (even though I know it's not the same)
Not sure what she got planned. She can't call cuz she going far away.
Therapy is NUTS, if you'll pardon my pun...!
> Thinking of you and hoping you're doing o.k. Be well muffled! Stay safe!Thanks Happykat!
Take care,
Muffled
Posted by muffled on February 12, 2007, at 22:56:59
In reply to ((((((MUFFLED)))))), posted by Gee on February 12, 2007, at 15:49:24
> Can you explain to your t that you're pulling away because she's going away? I totally understand how hard this is on you.
>
> (((Muff and all her little ones inside and out)))I kinda all over Gee. Nothing new I suppose. I don't do goodbys well. I usu just walk away.
My latest plan is to cancel last appointment B4 they go, to avoid any messiness....Thanks for acknowledging my little ones, they liked that :)
Hope you doing OK too Gee.
Take care,
Muffled
Posted by muffled on February 12, 2007, at 22:58:57
In reply to Re: Sigh » muffled, posted by canadagirl on February 12, 2007, at 17:18:28
> You're not a moron, and what you're feeling is pretty much par for the course. You have a caring relationship, and will be without that for a time, and of course it's hard. Just do the best you can. No one (your inner people, or your T) is expecting "perfect well-adjustedness" - (that would take all the "fun" out of therapy, wouldn't it? :-)
LOL! Therapy fun! OMG! :-)
In our dreams eh!
Sigh, but thanks for making me feel like mebbe I not such a weirdo.
Take care,
Muffled
Posted by muffled on February 12, 2007, at 23:04:01
In reply to Re: Sigh » muffled, posted by annierose on February 12, 2007, at 17:30:01
> Just curious, did your T tell you why she was going away for 6 weeks? Is she having a baby?
She going on a big trip (w/hubby and kid) to a far away place. I am very happy for her. Its a big deal for them. Her 'babies' pretty much grown up! :-)
>
> It is a long time. That is for sure. And I understand the mixed emotions. That is normal. Once my t asked me what I was feeling and I said, "I'm not sure if I love you or hate you at this moment." She laughed because that is so common - but few probably express it so plainly.Good for you for point blank saying it! You must be a refreshing client to have! :)
> We are here. Camp Comfort is always open. And I'm sure your t left you a name of someone covering for her while she is away.Thankyou.
> > I'd be sad too.Yeah....
Anyhow, we get to walk on this THurs! Yay! And I going away for a coupla days w/my family. Staying in a hotel and everything. Free little soaps! Free shampoo! Kleenex! Tea! Yahoo! We livin large round here!
Take care you!
Muffled
Posted by muffled on February 12, 2007, at 23:05:42
In reply to Re: Sigh » muffled, posted by Deneb on February 12, 2007, at 22:37:03
> (((((((((Muffled))))))))))
>
> Sorry your T is going away. Maybe write stuff on Babble instead of talking to T.
>
> Deneb*Thank you deneb. I think thats a good idea.
Your really working hard at being the best you can be Deneb. I admire you, and will try and do the same.
Take care eh,
Muffled
Posted by Scentedgarden on February 13, 2007, at 17:07:14
In reply to Sigh, posted by muffled on February 12, 2007, at 12:44:02
Posted by Dinah on February 13, 2007, at 17:43:54
In reply to Re: Sigh » annierose, posted by muffled on February 12, 2007, at 23:04:01
I'm glad you're getting away for a trip too, Muffled. :)
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