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Posted by Dinah on December 4, 2006, at 21:45:44
To try going more often rather than less?
Obviously I'm not finding therapy as potent as I'd like right now. I'm currently using that to back off, but maybe I could try turning it around instead.
Or would that just be too dumb for words. Setting myself up to be hurt again.
(P.S. The internist I found to replace the internist who moved after Katrina is moving, despite the very good reasons she gave me when I first saw her as to why she wouldn't be moving. Everyone leaves.)
Posted by Dinah on December 4, 2006, at 22:42:25
In reply to Would it be too stupid, posted by Dinah on December 4, 2006, at 21:45:44
This is a lousy month to think about that, since it's Christmas and things will be so messed up anyway. I'll think about it later.
Posted by annierose on December 5, 2006, at 6:48:51
In reply to Never mind, posted by Dinah on December 4, 2006, at 22:42:25
It's hard to know what just the right amount of sessions would be ideal.
I know that twice a week seemed like I was always lost. But three times seems too much (at times).
Maybe you want something from your t that just isn't there - or you only see ocassionally --- but you keep wishing for it anyway.
Posted by Dinah on December 5, 2006, at 8:34:49
In reply to Re: Never mind » Dinah, posted by annierose on December 5, 2006, at 6:48:51
Oh, I hope not Annierose.
Maybe it's just because I'm overall feeling down right now, but that seems just too sad.
Posted by All Done on December 5, 2006, at 9:41:13
In reply to Never mind, posted by Dinah on December 4, 2006, at 22:42:25
> This is a lousy month to think about that, since it's Christmas and things will be so messed up anyway. I'll think about it later.
Hi, Dinah. Maybe this month would be a good time for talking to your T about increasing the number of sessions (as opposed to actually increasing just yet). It's probably a decision best made by the both of you instead of trying to make it alone. Plus, it would give you an opportunity to let him know what you're needing from him right now that you might not be getting.
Lots of strength through the holidays, (((Dinah))).
Laurie
Posted by happykat on December 5, 2006, at 12:31:35
In reply to Never mind, posted by Dinah on December 4, 2006, at 22:42:25
Dinah,
Will your therapist let you add in a few extra sessions here and there to give you a bit of a boost?
It doesn't sound stupid to me. It sounds smart.
>
> (P.S. The internist I found to replace the internist who moved after Katrina is moving, despite the very good reasons she gave me when I first saw her as to why she wouldn't be moving. Everyone leaves.)<But the STRONG stay! Which you are! :)
happykat
Posted by Dinah on December 5, 2006, at 12:34:59
In reply to Re: mind » Dinah, posted by All Done on December 5, 2006, at 9:41:13
We did talk about it today, and surprise! he's in favor of it. We talked a lot about why it scared me.
I've got to say that I have a most unusual therapist. I'm positive of that.
I reminded him that at one point in therapy we squabbled or he got annoyed or something, and he told me he thought we were seeing too much of each other. I asked him if that was at three times a week. He said he didn't remember, but not to worry. That if he felt that way, he'd be sure to tell me. I told him it wouldn't feel very good to be told he couldn't stand seeing me more than two hours a week. He said it might not feel good, but surely it would be better than keeping it in.
I'm not so sure.
He also said he's still looking for a real job. That he's always looking for one, but how often had he actually taken one? And that if he did take one he'd still want a small private practice and he'd still want me to be part of that.
Sigh.
I'm not so sure.
But he is unusual, don't you think?
Posted by Dinah on December 5, 2006, at 12:36:53
In reply to Re: Never mind » Dinah, posted by happykat on December 5, 2006, at 12:31:35
I think we might give it a chance, but I also think my self preservation instincts are more to blame than the frequency of therapy for my disconnect with him. :(
On to find another internist, or at least to stock up on prescriptions from this one.
Posted by Dinah on December 5, 2006, at 16:18:53
In reply to Re: mind » All Done, posted by Dinah on December 5, 2006, at 12:34:59
To be fair, he did say I was extrapolating the part about him not being able to stand seeing me more than two hours a week, and that wouldn't be what he meant.
Posted by annierose on December 5, 2006, at 16:41:37
In reply to Re: mind, posted by Dinah on December 5, 2006, at 16:18:53
I didn't mean for my post to seem so obscure. Maybe it was pure projection. Heck, I don't know. Your instincts were right. You talked to him about your feelings. I hope going more often helps. It does help me feel connected, just poor.
Posted by Dinah on December 5, 2006, at 16:48:08
In reply to Re: mind » Dinah, posted by annierose on December 5, 2006, at 16:41:37
No, it wasn't pure projection. Something is missing, and I hope that I can get it back this way. Because honestly... Well...
I know it sounds pathetic. But the relationship I used to have with my therapist is one of not so many at the moment reasons to want to live. Not reasons to live, but reasons to *want* to live.
But the more we talked, the more I realized that what was missing was probably security and trust on my part.
Maybe T3 was right. I can never forget what *did* happen.
Why does that seem more like a curse than an observation?
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