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Posted by muffled on December 4, 2006, at 11:20:19
Haven't seen ya in ages.
Everything go Ok?
Muffled
Posted by B2chica on December 4, 2006, at 11:55:57
In reply to B2Chica!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!How goes it????????, posted by muffled on December 4, 2006, at 11:20:19
Hiiiiiiiiii (((((((((((muffly))))))))))))
things going suprisingly well. i'm quite big now and i'm determined not to go buy a new winter coat for just a few months (due first week in feb) so i stole hubby's coat today.
i'm mostly a lurker now on babble. i mostly frequent meds board but sneak in here every once in a while (mostly cuz it can be pretty triggering here). so i only read a few posts.
i finally had to tell new T that i do have some csa issues cuz i was having anxiety fluxes thinking about (baby)delivery and all the people in the room 'looking and touching' and possible "tools" used during.(slight massive freak out) i do feel better now that i told her (but i gave her no real details-and i think she's gonna wanta push for those) but i only see her about once a month (all we can afford right now), so i don't think it's such a good idea to get too into it. but at least she knows and she did mention that i should tell obgyn so she knows too. she mentioned we could write a letter together to give to her. i might do that.i'm kinda glad you did the shout out to me :) i really didn't think people would remember me, it's been what...almost a year since i've been here.
i miss all you SO much. but i'm just amazed at how well i feel (mentally) since i've been prego. i have a few blue times and a few racing mind days but nothing severe and nothing long. also, i seem to handle my anxiety a little better since i know i can't take my xanax.....ohhhhhh do i miss my xanax.......man, i read Llurpsie's posts above, i admire her for approaching her parents. in think in a way i can live vicariously through those that do. i know i will never do that, but i feel like those who do are so much stronger for doing so. i'm very glad that it turned out so well for her.
how's muffled doing?
you are just always so full of spunk! i think i miss your posts most of all.
i hope life is well for you (and little muff).MISS YOU ALL!!!!!
B2c.
Posted by muffled on December 4, 2006, at 12:10:23
In reply to Re: B2Chica!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!How goes it????, posted by B2chica on December 4, 2006, at 11:55:57
Yayyyyyyy!
SO glad you posted!
SO glad things are going well for you!
Yeah, might be good to dicuss that you have a 'history' so they can be prepared for that.
But I see absolutely NO reason to go into ANY detail. It would be pointlessly upsetting I would think.
Have you discussed how you want to do the birth? Any anethesia? Meds? C-section? etc.
I used laughing gas, but all it did was make me hyperventilate!!!!!LOL!
Anyways, now I an old lady looking back, I think ANY way of doing birth is fine. Whatever is best for baby and Mom. There is no shame in drugs or c-section. Its not some endurance challenge. Its just a time for your wee one to come join you on the outside! The easier , the better as far as I am concerned.
Mebbe you'll be one of those people where the baby practically falls out!(Have a friend like that!)
Also, I wouldn't worry AS much about drugs in later pregnancy if you really need them. The effect of your own cortisol if you are anxious alot, has an effect too. So you could check with your OB I guess. Though it sounds as if your handling things VERY well. GOOD FOR YOU!!!
How can you tell I'm exited for you! Babies are SO amazing. Little miracles. And your gonna be a great Mom, I just know it. Enjoy! Hope to 'see' you again B2.
Take care,
Muffled
Posted by toojane on December 4, 2006, at 12:24:06
In reply to Re: B2Chica!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!How goes it????, posted by B2chica on December 4, 2006, at 11:55:57
>so i don't think it's such a good idea to get too into it. but at least she knows and she did mention that i should tell obgyn so she knows too. she mentioned we could write a letter together to give to her. i might do that.
B2Chica, PLEASE PLEASE do tell your OB about your trauma history. Birth can be very triggering but there are LOTS of things that can be done to either avoid or ameliorate triggers. Not talking about it, hoping that it won't be an issue, is a troubling strategy. I have severe PTSD and told my midwives and doctor and because they understood what I found distressing they were able to do everything possible to help (like make sure no male doctors or nurses came anywhere near the room).
Posted by B2chica on December 4, 2006, at 12:48:10
In reply to Mother muffled replying!!!! » B2chica, posted by muffled on December 4, 2006, at 12:10:23
i am definately a technology girl! non of this natural stuff for me! i WANT DRUGS!
only c-section if necessary but LOTS OF NUMBING DRUGS! :)
laughing gas...did that help? sounds fun to me...i'm game.
ya, a friend of mine had her baby in april and she only had 6 hours of labor and everything was So smooth, but i have "looser" printed on my head so if it can go wrong...it will...
my luck it will be 32 hours of labor! but after all the uncomfortableness and pain, discomfort of pregnancy i can't wait to get this little one out.about the mom thing. i'm just scared to death i'm gonna repeat patterns. but i'm hoping that i'm aware enough of them that i don't. plus my hubby lead a 'perfect' childhood and his family is very close so i'm hoping that they are enough of an influence on me that i can get help from them.
i just don't want my little girl to be emotionally messed up cuz of me... i worry lots bout that.
Thank you SO MUCH for your WONDERFUL support.
i pop in about every couple weeks or so, so i'll be back before holidays!
THANKS MUFFLED!
b2c.
Posted by B2chica on December 4, 2006, at 12:53:01
In reply to Re: B2Chica! Please read » B2chica, posted by toojane on December 4, 2006, at 12:24:06
Thanks for the reply toojane.
i've found out the hard way that pushing things away only make them pile up in the end. so i too think it's wise to mention this to obgyn...plus i've seen her for like 12 years and she is WONDERFUL! and i trust her so much, so i think she will be grateful that i tell her (though she may have some idea already), this way she will know for sure.
Thank You what's hard is that i actually have more trouble with females being "in and out' than males...and there just aren' t many male OB nurses. so it may be a tough ride for me.sorry for your struggles with your PTSD.
i hope things are better for you now.
b2c.
Posted by Gee on December 4, 2006, at 15:28:21
In reply to Re: B2Chica! Please read » toojane, posted by B2chica on December 4, 2006, at 12:53:01
You will be an amazing mother!!!! I have no doubts. You'll do your best, and all kids end up with some kind of baggage. But I really doubt you'll repeat the pattern.
It's so good to know that you're around. I miss you!!!!
Posted by LlurpsieBlossom on December 4, 2006, at 22:15:39
In reply to Re: B2Chica!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!How goes it????, posted by B2chica on December 4, 2006, at 11:55:57
>she mentioned we could write a letter together to give to her. i might do that.
That sounds like a good plan. Congrats on doing so well. You sound really happy and like you're anticipating good things :)> i'm kinda glad you did the shout out to me :) i really didn't think people would remember me, it's been what...almost a year since i've been here.
Nah, impossible. I've only been posting 6 mos, and I remember you!
> i miss all you SO much. but i'm just amazed at how well i feel (mentally) since i've been prego. i have a few blue times and a few racing mind days but nothing severe and nothing long. also, i seem to handle my anxiety a little better since i know i can't take my xanax.....ohhhhhh do i miss my xanax.......
me too, and I've never even taken xanax *lol*> man, i read Llurpsie's posts above, i admire her for approaching her parents. in think in a way i can live vicariously through those that do. i know i will never do that, but i feel like those who do are so much stronger for doing so. i'm very glad that it turned out so well for her.
((((((((B2Chica)))))))))thank you for reading. that means SO much to me. you have no idea. I am not sure what the hell happens next, but I'm still here, aren't I? and you admire me (crap. you made my eyes start secreting saline. I'm a mess!)
> MISS YOU ALL!!!!!
> B2c.Miss you too :)
did you find out if you're having a boy or girl?sending you happy thoughts and hoping that your tummy still lets you get around okay.
-lurped
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