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Posted by All Done on April 29, 2006, at 2:30:24
I'm thinking about you. I'm sorry it's such a rough time, but I hope you can talk to your T soon after he gets back.
I know it's hard, but maybe try to focus on something else until he gets back. (I know. I'm the wrong person to be giving that advice.) I'm just worried that everything's going to seem worse because you haven't and can't talk to him at the moment. I know all too well how easy it is to come up with worst case scenarios when there's no one to help you see that maybe it's not as bad as you think.
I'm sorry if you don't want to hear any of this. You can just ignore me.
But I hope you're okay.
Hugs,
Laurie
Posted by Dinah on April 29, 2006, at 9:14:55
In reply to Dinah, posted by All Done on April 29, 2006, at 2:30:24
Thanks, Laurie, for thinking of me.
I did indeed think the worst. We ended up going on a fact finding search this weekend and I called him to tell him not to bother calling me (since I had no privacy) and couldn't get his machine. I was positive he was blocking my calls! :)
He called back just as I was trying to walk out the door with the reasons he hadn't returned my call (he was busy, etc.), told me of course he wasn't angry with me, but that he really "wanted very much to tell me that he couldn't deal with" my bringing up things from long ago (last few months) in connection with his not calling me and didn't want to be responsible one way or another for any decision we made. And I didn't really have time to explain how that couldn't possibly be true, whatever his desires. He also added some of the stressful events he was dealing with to explain I guess why he couldn't deal with me on top of everything else. I really feel for him, honestly.
It may have upset me last week that he felt he "couldn't deal with" me, but I'm well on my way to indifference thanks to Risperdal. As long as I stay on that, I should be able to get through nicely until I see him Tuesday. Especially since we're out of town and investigating the new place. I think he works for my husband's company tho, because they really want him to move, and he's really making it easy for me to decide to make an offer on a house if we like this place at all. Or maybe even if we don't. :)
Dinah
Posted by madeline on April 29, 2006, at 10:16:54
In reply to Re: Dinah » All Done, posted by Dinah on April 29, 2006, at 9:14:55
I really glad he called and at least got to explain why he hadn't.
My mind tend to assume the worst as well.
Please take care of yourself.
I'll be thinking of you
Maddie
Posted by fallsfall on April 29, 2006, at 10:28:53
In reply to Re: Dinah ? All Done, posted by Dinah on April 29, 2006, at 9:14:55
(((((Dinah)))))
He's not helping you. I'm so sorry.
Posted by Dinah on April 29, 2006, at 19:41:43
In reply to Re: Dinah, posted by fallsfall on April 29, 2006, at 10:28:53
I have to admit that telling a client you just can't deal with them right now is probably not something he was taught in therapy school, but it is praiseworthily honest I guess. I worried that I was too much for him, and he admitted that right now I was.
Oh joy.
The good news is that we like this new place, and really are about ready to make an offer on a house. The bad news is that what should be a good thing just makes me want to break down and sob. In fact it's only thanks to Risperdal that I'm not.
I really thought I'd have forever therapy.
Posted by Dinah on April 29, 2006, at 19:43:18
In reply to Re: Dinah » Dinah, posted by madeline on April 29, 2006, at 10:16:54
I guess my worst thinking wasn't confirmed. He hadn't blocked my number. But a pretty bad fear *was* confirmed.
Oh well. I guess that's his to deal with, and if he terminates me it's probably for the best, tho it will hurt like h*ll.
Posted by annierose on April 29, 2006, at 20:48:45
In reply to Re: Dinah » fallsfall, posted by Dinah on April 29, 2006, at 19:41:43
My T would say there is usually a silver lining in most changes --- look for that!
I'm sorry you seem so unconnected to your T these past few days. I know how unsettling that can be.
Posted by fallsfall on April 30, 2006, at 9:16:56
In reply to Re: Dinah ? fallsfall, posted by Dinah on April 29, 2006, at 19:41:43
I know you thought you would have forever therapy. It is sad when those kinds of dreams don't come true.
Personally, I like the idea of you getting out of the hurricane zone. And hubby's company will pay for the move, I assume?
I'm glad you went to see the new place, and that it doesn't seem as awful as you imagined.
(((((Dinah)))))
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