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Posted by happyflower on January 31, 2006, at 20:25:13
Tomorrow is my appointment and I don't know what to say (which is rare for me). Do I sit there and look at him, the floor, or out the window?
Happyflower doesn't want to talk anymore. :( I hate feeling like this. Feels like going to a funeral. :( I just want to cut off my tongue and give it to him as a present.
Posted by Susan47 on January 31, 2006, at 20:34:08
In reply to Feeling speechless, posted by happyflower on January 31, 2006, at 20:25:13
Yeah, I know what you mean. I know what you mean. I looked at his walls a lot. Wishing he would just love me. Or kill me. One or the other, 'cause loving him was just hurting too much, all he had to do was tell me this was it, he's sorry he can't help me and he doesn't think I should see him anymore, and I would've died inside. .. do you think we feel this way because we're afraid we're going to die without them, because it sure felt like I was. If I couldn't phone and there was never any answer, I mean, if he didn't HAVE a phone, if there was no way to even fool myself into pretending he still exists, if he died ...
Posted by Dinah on January 31, 2006, at 20:47:30
In reply to Feeling speechless, posted by happyflower on January 31, 2006, at 20:25:13
Sometimes when I feel like that ahead of time, I end up having my best sessions. Because I'm going in with no preconceived agenda, and the session can go where it may. Which is sometimes in a direction I wouldn't have chosen to go, but that is quite rewarding.
Posted by Poet on January 31, 2006, at 21:32:20
In reply to Feeling speechless, posted by happyflower on January 31, 2006, at 20:25:13
Hi Happyflower,
I'd tell him that you don't feel like talking and see what he says.
Personally I like to stare at my shoes. The view out her window is of a parking lot. If the view is nicer than your shoes, I say the window. I'd never sit and stare at my T. At the picture next to her on the wall, but not at her.
Poet
Posted by Daisym on January 31, 2006, at 23:03:48
In reply to Re: Feeling speechless » happyflower, posted by Poet on January 31, 2006, at 21:32:20
I take in my journal pages when I feel like I won't be able to form coherent words or sentences.
I've learned when I say, "I don't have anything to talk about" he says, "that usually means you have a lot you need to talk about." *sigh* one of the dangers of going a lot. They know you.
You'll be OK. Just be honest and don't hold back.
Posted by fairywings on February 1, 2006, at 9:54:15
In reply to Feeling speechless, posted by happyflower on January 31, 2006, at 20:25:13
Hi hf,Maybe just tell him how you've been feeling about other things, or things that have come up. Are you mad at him? Do you feel rejected? Do you want to tell him you're mad at him? I felt this way one time, but then thought about the money and session that would be gone afterwards, and I wrote out how I felt.
fw
Posted by LadyBug on February 1, 2006, at 14:51:12
In reply to Feeling speechless, posted by happyflower on January 31, 2006, at 20:25:13
Posted by happyflower on February 1, 2006, at 18:02:46
In reply to Re: How'd it go Happyflower??? (nm), posted by LadyBug on February 1, 2006, at 14:51:12
Well we talked about everything BUT my connection to him. He kept asking me if there was anything else I wanted to talk about. LOL But I came up with plenty of stuff to avoid talking about what we probably should have.
But I did have a good session, he sort of reviewed me, validated my successes, and talked about my marriage, trumpet playing, and lots of other stuff. He actually led the session this time instead of me. I know the subject will come up again, I do need to talk about this.He actually put me in a good mood. Sometimes it is feels so good to talk to someone that I have so much in common with. But someday it will have to end, and that will be a sad day in my life. But my bond that I feel with him will always be with me, so it isn't all sad.
Posted by muffled on February 1, 2006, at 21:42:49
In reply to Feeling speechless, posted by happyflower on January 31, 2006, at 20:25:13
> Tomorrow is my appointment and I don't know what to say (which is rare for me). Do I sit there and look at him, the floor, or out the window?
****Ha! Stare at his crotch!!!!!!!!!!That oughtta makehim blush! Ha!
Muffled
Posted by muffled on February 1, 2006, at 21:43:52
In reply to Re: How'd it go Happyflower???, posted by happyflower on February 1, 2006, at 18:02:46
Glad it went well for you HF :-)
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