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Posted by antigua on January 27, 2006, at 7:15:38
AS I mentioned earlier, I am going to my mother's for the weekend and I'm going to tell her generally what my father had done to me and how it has been a secret between us for all these years. How I felt if I told her, she would think I was disgusting and wouldn't love me. I've been holding this back for a long time.
I never, ever thought I would be in this place. I feel strong, but very nervous (klonopin!) and hope it goes well. I am going to tell her Sunday morning so we have time to deal with it before I leave on Monday. Hey, but if it doesn't go well, I may be home Sunday afternoon!
My goal is to not to be accusatory or defensive, just to let her know I've harbored this secret that has caused all sorts of destructive behavior on my part (drinking) and although I don't expect anything from her, I just need to get this out.
I hope it goes well. She seems more stable now, but you never know. I haven spent parts of three sessions going over this w/my T and she agrees with my plan, so wish me luck.
I'll post when I get back.
thank you for all your support,
antigua
Posted by ClearSkies on January 27, 2006, at 8:34:43
In reply to Wish me luck!, posted by antigua on January 27, 2006, at 7:15:38
Keep yourself safe and strong, Antigua. I'm sending my positive vibes your way.
ClearSkies
Posted by Daisym on January 27, 2006, at 10:20:28
In reply to I hope all goes well » antigua, posted by ClearSkies on January 27, 2006, at 8:34:43
Good Luck!!
With my whole heart, I hope she responds with tears and hugs and you find peace in this. But if she doesn't, the relief of unloading the secret will still be immense. You are so brave.
I'll be thinking of you.
Daisy
Posted by Dinah on January 27, 2006, at 10:38:09
In reply to Wish me luck!, posted by antigua on January 27, 2006, at 7:15:38
You sound ready for whatever happens.
Will you be seeing your therapist soon to process it?
Posted by B2chica on January 27, 2006, at 12:53:28
In reply to Wish me luck!, posted by antigua on January 27, 2006, at 7:15:38
i wish i was as strong as you.
i'm proud of you!
You go! and remember, your not responsible for whatever reaction she has, just absorb it and know you did what you had to do no matter what. this is about YOU not her.
i'm sending you good vibes and good wishes! >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>(((((((((hugs!))))))))))))
b2c
Posted by gardenergirl on January 27, 2006, at 15:46:58
In reply to Re: Wish me luck!, posted by B2chica on January 27, 2006, at 12:53:28
You sound ready, and what an important and powerful thing for you to do.
I wish you the very best and hope it leads to even deeper healing.
(((((antigua)))))Let us know how it goes, of course.
gg
Posted by JenStar on January 27, 2006, at 16:15:32
In reply to Wish me luck!, posted by antigua on January 27, 2006, at 7:15:38
good luck. I hope you are able to say it and get it all out. Her reaction is not something you can control, and it might be disappointing, but you will at least be proud of YOU and the fact that you got this far. :) Good luck!
JenStar
Posted by Poet on January 27, 2006, at 17:48:41
In reply to Wish me luck!, posted by antigua on January 27, 2006, at 7:15:38
Antigua, you are strong. And have a right to be nervous, but even with hands shaking you will be able to do this. You are strong and way braver than I am.
Good luck. I'll be thinking of you.
Poet
Posted by happyflower on January 27, 2006, at 19:01:12
In reply to Re: Wish me luck! » antigua, posted by Poet on January 27, 2006, at 17:48:41
GOod luck, let us know how it goes. (((((Antigua))))))
Posted by Damos on January 30, 2006, at 15:51:29
In reply to Wish me luck!, posted by antigua on January 27, 2006, at 7:15:38
You're a brave, brave lady and I really hope it went okay. I really just hope you are okay.
((((((((((Antigua))))))))))
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