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Posted by fairywings on August 26, 2005, at 9:45:03
I started with a new T last night. He was the guy my p-doc recommended. He was really nice, actually took notes - the downside of that is I can't get younger every week! He asked a lot of questions, but skiped around a lot, do they do that to throw you off? I had a bit of a migraine going into it, so my thinking wasn't as clear as it might have been, and I hadn't taken my Adderall, so double whammy, oh well. He was okay with me giving him a one page "synopsis", and he read it, he didn't make me read it to him.
I think it will work out with this guy. He's nice, listens, asks good questions, the session actually ran long, he didn't take any phone calls (LOL), he brings his dog to work ; ), he asked me if I had any problems or concerns with him or any questions about him or what goes on in therapy, and then he had me call to schedule the next few appts. if I wanted to continue to work with him. I scheduled them today.
One question I need help with, I'm such a whimp. He was burning a candle, and it was SO strong! I wanted to ask him to put it out because they really make my headaches worse, how do I phrase that?
fairywings
Posted by gardenergirl on August 26, 2005, at 14:47:07
In reply to New T, posted by fairywings on August 26, 2005, at 9:45:03
Sounds like a good T. I'm glad you are feeling comfortable enough to go forward with it.
As far as the candle is concerned, how about: "I'm quite sensitive to strong smells, and while the candle is a nice scent, it is too overwhelming for me. I would prefer if you would not have it lit when i am here."
??? Seems perfectly reasonable to me. I would respect your request and be pleased that you were able to express it.
gg
Posted by Daisym on August 26, 2005, at 16:02:13
In reply to Re: New T » fairywings, posted by gardenergirl on August 26, 2005, at 14:47:07
I'm glad you liked your new therapist. That is a good start. It sounds very different from the previous start.
As far as asking, how about: "I don't want to be rude or start off sounding demanding but candles tend to give me a head ache and then I can't think. I hope it is OK to ask you to blow it out." How could you be refused??
It says something that they have a candle burning though...:)
Posted by Dinah on August 26, 2005, at 16:49:15
In reply to New T, posted by fairywings on August 26, 2005, at 9:45:03
This one sounds a lot more considerate and client centered.
I think it's perfectly ok to politely point out that you tend to get headaches with strong scents and his candle is unfortunately triggering them.
I get positively nauseous around strong odors, and I wouldn't be able to do therapy with them.
Posted by fairywings on August 26, 2005, at 17:15:17
In reply to Re: New T » fairywings, posted by Dinah on August 26, 2005, at 16:49:15
Hi GG, Daisy, and Dinah,
Thanks for your replies. I think it will be much more positive with this T. I think he's going to be more accepting, kind, and caring.
Thanks for your suggestions about the candle. I guess it is pretty silly not to be able to tell him it bothers me. I'm sure he'd more than understand. I have some that smell really good, and they're lightly scented, maybe I'll take him one.
fw
Posted by Tamar on August 27, 2005, at 5:26:09
In reply to New T, posted by fairywings on August 26, 2005, at 9:45:03
He sounds good, Fairywings. I've got a whole different picture in my mind compared with the first time you met with the previous therapist.
About the candle: I think he'll understand no matter what you say. I'm sure he won't be offended, or even particularly surprised.
I really hope this one works out!
Posted by fairywings on August 27, 2005, at 8:00:41
In reply to Re: New T » fairywings, posted by Tamar on August 27, 2005, at 5:26:09
> He sounds good, Fairywings. I've got a whole different picture in my mind compared with the first time you met with the previous therapist.
LOL, OMGosh, they couldn't be more different! I had to laugh the first time I went back to the ex T AFTER I'd told my p-doc I'd NEVER see him again! And then, 2 days later I was back, and my p-doc was probably scratching his head, thinking "WTHeck?!" Oh well..... My perogative I guess. Anyway, the first T and my p-doc were polar opposites as persons, now the current T and ex T seem to be opposites in style, which should be better for me - no more clenching my teeth at night, at least not because of him! LOL
> I really hope this one works out!Thanks, I appreciate that, me too! ; )
fairywings
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