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Posted by Jazzed on June 17, 2005, at 20:55:41
Two issues:
#1 is that I'm having so much anxiety that I feel like I can feel every nerve in my body. I have a high level of anxiety anyway, but after my Adderall wears off it's worse. I don't want to stop the Adderall though, so what I'm asking is what type of therapy is best for this, AND should I ask my p-doc for meds? The thing that bothers me the most is that I have psoriasis, and it seems to have been a bit worse since I started the Adderall again and the anxiety is worse once it wears off. I usually just have it on my elbows, but now it's on my face and neck!!!! It's also on my legs, and I can't seem to get rid of it. Dont' know if that's the anxiety, I assume it is, or the swimming, or both. I know this isn't the meds board, but what meds are good for this? I have taken Xanax b4 and it made me really tired, Lexapro made me tired and ravenously hungry, which won't work for me. I can't gain any weight, and I have to be able to/and want to continue to exercise.
Issue #2, and I know you're tired of hearing about it!
Okay, so I'm being a big dumb a** ,and going back to the T that I didn't like at all. The one I said I wouldn't see if he were the last T on the face of the Earth! I know it sounds completely stupid, and I know you're probably all shaking your heads at me in disbelief/frustration. BUT, when I read how much pain everyone goes through, and how difficult termination is, and how deep your feelings run. I just don't want to go through that! I don't think I can do that! I've had feelings of transference before and it took my mind away from my life, away from my marriage, away from my prioirities. I don't want to go through that pain and anxiety again. It scares the heck out of me. I'd rather have a T that I don't like quite as much as a person, but can respect as a T, and someone's who is a bit abrasive, than go through the pain that I hear some people have to go through. Does that make any sense at all?
I'm sorry to beat this to death, but I really want to know. Also, my appt. is tomorrow at 10 AM, so I'll have a better idea of how it's going to go.
Jazzy
Posted by happyflower on June 17, 2005, at 21:01:32
In reply to Anxiety, posted by Jazzed on June 17, 2005, at 20:55:41
> > > I'm sorry to beat this to death, but I really want to know. Also, my appt. is tomorrow at 10 AM, so I'll have a better idea of how it's going to go.
> Hey Jazzy, which appointment is tommorrow? I responded to your earlier post above too.>
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Posted by Dinah on June 17, 2005, at 23:59:58
In reply to Anxiety, posted by Jazzed on June 17, 2005, at 20:55:41
I like the feeling of connection. I wouldn't have gotten anywhere without it. But that's just me. I tend to work for others where I might not for myself.
I will admit that it makes it hard to be objective about what's best for me. When it might be beneficial to get outside input, that sort of thing.
Posted by daisym on June 18, 2005, at 0:06:43
In reply to Re: Anxiety, posted by happyflower on June 17, 2005, at 21:01:32
I sometimes channel my anxiety into baking or cleaning. My kids love that. Other times I can't get a handle on it and I need to try to calm myself, which usually means touching base with my therapist. I've found that if I just cave in and do that, I'm better for awhile.
I doubt anyone here will critize you for choosing to go back. I can't tell you how many "I hate therapy" posts I've made and I always go back. I just am a little sad that all you've picked up here is the pain of becoming attached to your therapist. A friend of mine, who is an analyst, said to me today that if you can't get attached to your therapist, you aren't really doing therapy. You've hired an advisor or a life coach, and that is just fine. But it isn't a soul connection that helps you make substantial changes in yourself so that you can live fully and happily. Not everyone needs or wants this kind of a connection. But I will tell you that it is those profound, fleeting moments of perfect attunement that make you realize that happiness might be worth fighting for. It makes you want to be understood and emotionally connected outside of therapy. It gives you hope.
As much as I rail against the boundaries of therapy, especially right now, I am grateful and humbled by the deep connection that has grown. I've never felt this before. It is almost (almost!) completely safe and it is for sure as safe as I've ever felt with anyone. No matter what else happens, I have the memories of those moments that I will always cherish.
I guess what I'm saying is that most of the time I will tell you that the pain is worth it. I don't think that all the time, but when I'm forced to really weigh things out, I realize that I do believe it is. And deep inside, I know that most of my pain is not caused by therapy or my therapist, it is just released and directed at him.
Good luck tomorrow. Let us know how it goes.
Posted by Aphrodite on June 18, 2005, at 11:20:27
In reply to Anxiety, posted by Jazzed on June 17, 2005, at 20:55:41
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> BUT, when I read how much pain everyone goes through, and how difficult termination is, and how deep your feelings run. I just don't want to go through that! I don't think I can do that! I've had feelings of transference before and it took my mind away from my life, away from my marriage, away from my prioirities. I don't want to go through that pain and anxiety again. It scares the heck out of me. I'd rather have a T that I don't like quite as much as a person, but can respect as a T, and someone's who is a bit abrasive, than go through the pain that I hear some people have to go through. Does that make any sense at all?
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>Maybe we should start a thread about the good things about connection and attachment. There are many, but you're right, it's scary. I think it all depends on what you want. If you want objective input, I see nothing wrong with that and going to a T with that style. It's whatever works for you, and no one here will criticize that. However, if deep down you would rather have a psychodynamic sort of T with a connected relationship and are afraid of it, you may want to think about taking that risk. You could even ask this T about the therapeutic relationship. Find out his take on it.
Good luck, and I wish you luck with whatever you choose!
Posted by jazzed on June 18, 2005, at 11:33:18
In reply to Re: Anxiety » Jazzed, posted by Aphrodite on June 18, 2005, at 11:20:27
It's whatever works for you, and no one here will criticize that. However, if deep down you would rather have a psychodynamic sort of T with a connected relationship and are afraid of it, you may want to think about taking that risk. You could even ask this T about the therapeutic relationship. Find out his take on it.
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> Good luck, and I wish you luck with whatever you choose!Thanks Aphrodite. I am very afraid of attachment, but went to see that guy again today, and it went really well. I think very definitely that this will work.
Jazzy
Posted by Tamar on June 18, 2005, at 12:09:31
In reply to Re: Anxiety » Aphrodite, posted by jazzed on June 18, 2005, at 11:33:18
> Thanks Aphrodite. I am very afraid of attachment, but went to see that guy again today, and it went really well. I think very definitely that this will work.I'm so glad to hear it went really well, and that you think it will work!
Was he different from last time? What was better this time?
Tamar
Posted by Tamar on June 18, 2005, at 12:14:10
In reply to Re: Anxiety » jazzed, posted by Tamar on June 18, 2005, at 12:09:31
> Was he different from last time? What was better this time?
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> Tamar
>Ah, I see you've started a new thread below. I'll reply to that!
Tamar
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