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Posted by fallsfall on June 16, 2005, at 16:46:27
This is the first time in 2 years that I have been more than 2 minutes late (and that was only one time) in 2 years.
I set my alarm for 8:15PM instead of 8:15AM.
He called me at 10:10, wondering where I was.
My daughter was still asleep - her US History final started at 10:00. I got her out the door and then called him back, and we did a phone session for the remaining 25 minutes.
I'm crushed (but I mistyped it to be closer to "cursed" twice before getting it "right") that I missed a session. I value my sessions so highly, I'm so disappointed that I couldn't see him today.
And today was our 2 year anniversary. We didn't celebrate the 1 year anniversary because we were in the middle of a wicked fight and I didn't want to celebrate at all. But right now things are going really well. I hadn't decided whether to bring donuts for the celebration or not. He has been a bit confused about why I would want to "celebrate" a therapy anniversary.
Maybe this is my way of saying that we don't have to celebrate. Maybe that was just something I did with my former therapist. After missing it two years in a row, there doesn't seem to be much of a precidence for the future...
I told him about some dreams (that had kept me sleeping because they were interesting). And after we hung up I did some journalling - maybe to make up for missing half the session.
He's willing not to "interpret" my oversleeping, and to just see it as one of those things that happens. But I'm not so sure anymore... Tomorrow should be interesting (thank goodness for 3/week!!)
Posted by Dinah on June 16, 2005, at 17:33:12
In reply to I overslept and missed therapy, posted by fallsfall on June 16, 2005, at 16:46:27
I think whether oversleeping is just oversleeping is something you can probably best decide for yourself.
I once missed most of an eight o'clock session. I knew it was eight, I had told my office I could be there by nine-thirty. Yet for some reason my brain read that as therapy at nine. I was about half there when he called, and I ended up with about twenty minutes of the session, so I didn't blow my entire fee.
I wasn't particularly angry with him, nor did I have any real reason other than absentmindedness.
The fact that it was an anniversary might have different implications, though.
Why doesn't he think therapy anniversaries are important? Job anniversaries are often noted. And therapy is hard work.
Posted by caraher on June 16, 2005, at 18:10:56
In reply to Re: I overslept and missed therapy » fallsfall, posted by Dinah on June 16, 2005, at 17:33:12
I only had that happen once, and it felt terrible! The phone ringing... the realization of what time it is and what you missed... AAAAAAARRRRRGGGHHH!!! When it happened to me there was no special occasion, but I do recall that I really looked forward to it, that I felt I really needed to go.
Which is probably related to sleeping through it :(
Posted by Aphrodite on June 16, 2005, at 19:19:16
In reply to I overslept and missed therapy, posted by fallsfall on June 16, 2005, at 16:46:27
What a terrible feeling that must have been! I'm encouraged, though, that he thought enough to call and check on you. That's a great trait. I'm less enthused about his confusion about therapy anniversaries. I think a lot of people on this board celebrate them -- it can't be that unusual! Are you still going to belatedly celebrate tomorrow?
If your unconscious was playing a part today, I hope you and your T are able to find the reason and learn from it.
Posted by gardenergirl on June 16, 2005, at 22:42:08
In reply to Re: I overslept and missed therapy » fallsfall, posted by Aphrodite on June 16, 2005, at 19:19:16
Oh gosh, falls. That's such an odd thing to happen. It's hard to figure out what the reason is. I went through the exact same thing recently...I really did feel that I just couldn't get out of bed, and sleep was way too important. But I also felt a bit like a turd for missing like that. And we did talk about what it might mean that I missed like that. It's hard to sort out what is just a physical thing or mental slip (I've done that before with the clock) and what might be anger or some other therapy related feeling.
You've had a lot going on lately, so a mental slip (and typing "cursed...that cracked me up) is perfectly understandable.
I hope sessions continue to be productive for you.
And happy anniversary. I'm a bit jealous as I really don't know exactly when I started, not even the month. Hmm, that's probably significant. Or it just reflects how rotten I am with time and dates.
gg
Posted by Jazzed on June 16, 2005, at 23:52:01
In reply to I overslept and missed therapy, posted by fallsfall on June 16, 2005, at 16:46:27
I hope you didn't kick yourself all day for missing. Glad you have tomorrow. I love evening appts. because I'm not good with mornings.
Try not to be too hard on yourself!
Jazzy
Posted by fallsfall on June 17, 2005, at 6:24:49
In reply to Re: I overslept and missed therapy » fallsfall, posted by Jazzed on June 16, 2005, at 23:52:01
So I won't miss therapy today.
And I had another dream worth analyzing...
Should be a jam-packed session.
Still mortified about missing yesterday, and yes, I did kick myself all day about it. So I did lots of journalling and thinking and it was really quite a productive therapy day.
Posted by Tamar on June 17, 2005, at 17:02:30
In reply to Re: I overslept and missed therapy, posted by gardenergirl on June 16, 2005, at 22:42:08
> But I also felt a bit like a turd for missing like that.
Either the t-word means something different where you're from than it does round my way, or you really are exploring new ways of expressing yourself! And this from someone who f*rted!
You know I'm kidding on, right? And actually I particularly love naughty words and I find it very difficult to restrain myself on babble. But you go, girl!
Posted by gardenergirl on June 17, 2005, at 21:24:55
In reply to GG! Talk about 'spressing yourself! » gardenergirl, posted by Tamar on June 17, 2005, at 17:02:30
That's funny. I said I felt like a turd to my T when I missed an appt. He "translated" it for me.
I say that without realizing it. Ever since I saw the building in Tokyo on the bay with the giant golden turd on the roof.
Or spilled ice cream cone, depending on your psyche. Or burning torch, as the architect intended.
It looks like a turd.
gg
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