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Posted by Dinah on April 24, 2005, at 20:43:59
A while back there seemed to be a lot of posts about sexual feelings towards therapists. Then there seemed to be a period where there were a lot of therapists who were operating on the fringe or beyond of professional ethics. Right now there seems to be a lot of pain at separation.
I think that's a really difficult topic for me, as I really and truly have no intention of ever quitting therapy. It's not that I'm as dependent on my therapist as I used to be. I'm not. It's not that I think about him constantly. I don't. But I think he serves a very valuable role in my life that is otherwise missing and that someone like me needs.
So talk of termination scares me sometimes, and sometimes I don't reply empathetically and sometimes I don't reply at all.
I just wanted to apologize for any empathetic lapses on my part, particularly on this topic.
Posted by alexandra_k on April 24, 2005, at 20:57:59
In reply to The board goes through cycles, posted by Dinah on April 24, 2005, at 20:43:59
(((Dinah)))
Thats ok hon.
I have trouble with some topics too.
Especially the ethical boundaries topic.
Only time I have gotten a civility warning on the psych board I do believe...
You know...
I do believe...
That if I could...
I would have the same attitude as you.
I would be quite happy being in therapy forever.
I life long process of self-development.
And why not?
But ssssh.
Don't tell anyone ;-)
(Especially not the funding peoples)
Posted by Dinah on April 24, 2005, at 22:06:05
In reply to Re: The board goes through cycles » Dinah, posted by alexandra_k on April 24, 2005, at 20:57:59
It'll be our secret. Shhhhh... :-)
I'm not quite sure it's self development though. More like self preservation. In the past two weeks +, closer to two and a half weeks by the time it's over, I'll have seen him only once.
And I really feel the difference. I feel overemotional, unreasonable, and very very childish.
Of course, I've also been overburdened at work, coupled with sick as a dog. I'd have to repeat the experiment without those other variables to say how much of it is therapy. But I think therapy has a lot to do with it.
Posted by alexandra_k on April 24, 2005, at 22:49:55
In reply to Re: The board goes through cycles » alexandra_k, posted by Dinah on April 24, 2005, at 22:06:05
> I'm not quite sure it's self development though. More like self preservation.
Oh no no no. 'Self development' repeat after me (100 times till you believe it) ;-)
> And I really feel the difference. I feel overemotional, unreasonable, and very very childish.Sure. Thats how I feel much of the time...
> Of course, I've also been overburdened at work, coupled with sick as a dog. I'd have to repeat the experiment without those other variables to say how much of it is therapy. But I think therapy has a lot to do with it.Yeah. But feeling sick and overworked is no fun either. Don't underestimate the power of that. really.
Posted by daisym on April 25, 2005, at 0:23:05
In reply to The board goes through cycles, posted by Dinah on April 24, 2005, at 20:43:59
I'm glad you posted that Dinah. I feel the same way. I want to be supportive and I do go through periods of time when I can be. But mostly, losing my therapist seems like it would be the end of the world, nearly as bad a thing as I can think of right now. And this worries me a great deal, as I know that the ultimate goal *is* to separate and move on.
I want to believe that my therapist will be gentle about it, as he is with everything else. But I'm guessing no matter how much experience he has with this, it will be painful. How can it not be?
I really feel for those going through it, planned or unplanned. Perhaps this is the real value of CBT -- short term and limited feelings.
Posted by Shortelise on April 25, 2005, at 0:56:54
In reply to The board goes through cycles, posted by Dinah on April 24, 2005, at 20:43:59
I don't know about anyone else, but I certainly am aware of the effort it can take to reply. All the more reason I appreciate it when people are able to reply. If anyone here expects you, or me, or any of us to reply no matter what, well, I hope s/he will take a moment to rethink that.
Dinah, you're a peach. Really. I truly understand that you might want and need to see your T for the rest of your life, and I respect that, and hope you are able to.
Honestly, I don't feel this is anything that needs an apology. To me, and please correct me if I'm wrong, it feels like you needed to tell what your feelings about termination are. I respect that too.
I am happy to read you when you write, and I accept everyone's choice to be silent sometimes.
((Dinah))
ShortE
Posted by messadivoce on April 25, 2005, at 1:48:42
In reply to The board goes through cycles, posted by Dinah on April 24, 2005, at 20:43:59
Dinah, I concure that there's really no apology neccessary. I think people whose words mean the most are people who know when the best times is to talk, and when to be silent. I know when I read something you've written, that it's well thought out.
I myself go through times on this board when I just can't reply. I can't muster the energy, or I know I have nothing encouraging to say because I'm in a dark lonely place myself.
I'm coming out of a cycle like that, and now the hurt and indignation is wanting to be heard LOUD. :-(
Posted by Dinah on April 25, 2005, at 8:13:24
In reply to The board goes through cycles, posted by Dinah on April 24, 2005, at 20:43:59
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