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Posted by crushedout on February 15, 2005, at 22:07:56
Over this woman I dumped on Sunday. I miss her so much. I pine for her. I have a date tomorrow night with the new one and I'm really looking forward to it. But since Sunday I've been missing the other one so much. And I feel so so so so sad. For her and for me.I really believe I did the right thing AND it hurts like h3ll. Does that make sense?
I wonder if this is bringing up feelings of when I left my T three months ago. That was another time I did what I thought I "should" do but not what I wanted to do. It's really hard.
Posted by Susan47 on February 15, 2005, at 23:43:59
In reply to I'm heartbroken, posted by crushedout on February 15, 2005, at 22:07:56
I think I can relate. Anytime I've felt heartbroken over a guy, it's been because there was something missing in me.
Posted by daisym on February 16, 2005, at 0:26:26
In reply to I'm heartbroken, posted by crushedout on February 15, 2005, at 22:07:56
What you say makes total sense. Sometimes it is really hard to do what you know is the right thing, yet feels bad.
The good news is that time heals the hurt, especially if you made the right choice for both of you.
Hang in there.
Posted by crushedout on February 16, 2005, at 0:30:52
In reply to Re: I'm heartbroken, posted by daisym on February 16, 2005, at 0:26:26
so much for me being a good person. i posted on an anonymous website to her. i half hoped she wouldn't see it. but she did, she figured out it was from me, and then she contacted me.even though what i posted did not suggest that i wanted to get back together (only that i missed her) now she's acting like it's going to all work out and i feel like a total schm*ck. i'm completely jerking her around. why couldn't i just let her move on?
i feel really ashamed of myself for doing this.
:(
Posted by gardenergirl on February 16, 2005, at 15:20:25
In reply to i screwed up, posted by crushedout on February 16, 2005, at 0:30:52
Sweetie, please don't feel ashamed. It sounds like you have some mixed feelings about this situation. Mixed feelings can lead to mixed behavior. I certainly don't feel like you are intentionally manipulating her. I think you like the idea of love and you know, we all want it. But when part of you is saying...eh, this isn't the right one, it's hard to let the idea of love go sometimes.
Take care,
gg
Posted by crushedout on February 16, 2005, at 17:59:25
In reply to Re: i screwed up » crushedout, posted by gardenergirl on February 16, 2005, at 15:20:25
thanks, gg. it helps to hear you say that.i know i'm not screwing with her intentionally but i feel like i'm messing with her head and it's not fair to her. but, well, i dunno. i guess i'm sort of doing the best i can. i do want love a whole bunch. and she seemed ready to give it to me, without going through any of those initial stages. which is appealing and it's also a bit suffocating.
hoo, well, we'll see what happens tonight with the saner one.
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