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Posted by Racer on January 27, 2005, at 17:04:47
If you've been following the serial melodrama entitled Racer's Course, you'll probably understand why it's hard for me to make a decision about this. But I think it might be that I need to look at finding another therapist.
There are a lot of reasons for this, but it all comes back to feeling as if SparklingBright isn't quite the right fit for me. I know that things have changed since I started seeing her, but I also know that I'm not feeling any relief with her, not opening up on things that are really central to me, and am holding my emotions pretty damned closely inside me. And right now, I *need* to talk about things related directly to my AN, and whenever I bring any of them up with her, I find that i have to break concentration to explain them to her. That's not helping my confidence levels.
She is very sweet, and I like her, but I don't feel safe bringing out emotions with her.
So, how do I know if it's time to start looking?
And worst of all, those voices from the Agency From The Planet Distortion keep sounding in my ears, telling me that I'm so screwed up that nothing and no one will ever be able to help me because I'm unwilling to make any effort, etc. I'm beating myself up for not somehow MAKING it work with SparklingBright, as if recognizing that it isn't working is a sign that I *am* as screwed up as those idiots told me I am.
I don't know. Can anyone help?
Posted by Fallen4MyT on January 27, 2005, at 17:20:44
In reply to How to know if it's time to change therapists?, posted by Racer on January 27, 2005, at 17:04:47
I dunno bit if you have to explain things and have the session taken up with that and are with holding..seems to me its time. I have always known you to be a very smart person and it seems like if it doesn't fit....you need to quit and see someone who fits...after some time cause as you know they do not always fit right away....I babble too much I am sick hope this makes some sense...but how can you do work when you withold?
Posted by daisym on January 27, 2005, at 20:44:10
In reply to How to know if it's time to change therapists?, posted by Racer on January 27, 2005, at 17:04:47
Racer,
I know you didn't have too many choices not so long ago, so before you make a change, is this issue solved? If it is, I think you trust your gut. You've had enough therapy experience to know what feels right and what is working. She may just not have enough experience for the complexities you present her with. This doesn't mean she isn't good, just young yet.
I think you can't listen to those old evil voices. Leave the fault squarely with them. Given what you've been able to do since being away from them, I think that is evidence in your favor of wanting to get better, being willing to work, etc. etc.
I know this is hard. I wish you had an easier path to walk.
Posted by mair on January 27, 2005, at 21:34:09
In reply to Re: How to know if it's time to change therapists? » Racer, posted by daisym on January 27, 2005, at 20:44:10
Racer -I'm not sure I have the best perspective about this because it's taken an age for things to start working with my T - I'm been seeing my T light years in relation to how long you've been seeing sparkling bright.
You do know what works for you; I just wonder if your expectations about how long it should take before you feel comfortable expressing your emotions are unrealistic.
It's a tough call, because it doesn't necessarily answer the question if you can't ever see yourself getting "there" with her. I've said that countless times with my T; and I still say it and feel it and believe it. On the other hand I have to admit that I can talk to her now about topics which would have been untouchable before.
Maybe my T has just conditioned me to be comfortable moving at a snail's pace.
Mair
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