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Posted by daisym on August 6, 2004, at 16:30:16
I know it's early but I'm feeling lost so I'm looking for playmates in Open. It's 2:30 pacific time.
Posted by 64bowtie on August 9, 2004, at 7:40:25
In reply to I'm in Open, posted by daisym on August 6, 2004, at 16:30:16
(((Daisy))),
David Peck, my mentor and friend, had clients that were victims of childhood sexual assault, create the child as a disembodied entity across the room (out-of-body guided-imagery). David would ask the client in a very soft voice,
"Do you see that hurting child across the room? Tell me, do they look safe and comfortable? What do you want to say to that child that is you? Can you say it to them right now lovingly, with love in your heart for them and the pain they enduered? In your mind, Go ahead and tell that child you love them and they will be OK and grow up to be you. Tell them you will take care of them and love them no matter what". ...followed by a couple of minutes of silence.
I am here for you, toooo
Rod
Posted by antigua on August 9, 2004, at 11:05:11
In reply to Re: I'm in Open - maybe this will help » daisym, posted by 64bowtie on August 9, 2004, at 7:40:25
What you wrote appears to me to contradict what you have written elsewhere. This implies that your mentor DID want the person to resolve their childhood trauma. After the minutes of silence were the patients "cured?" Now that would be incredible and I would certainly go for it! Seriously.
Honestly, am I missing something?
I've done lots of exercises like this w/my therapist and through EMDR, and it certainly does help but they are just one part of the whole process.
Also, I am interested in your idea of the child growing up to be that person. For me, I don't want that child to grow up to be me, I want for the adult me to take the best parts of that child before she was damaged by the abuse and help her to grow into a better me today.
Thanks,
antigua
Posted by 64bowtie on August 9, 2004, at 21:16:22
In reply to Re: I'm in Open - maybe this will help » 64bowtie, posted by antigua on August 9, 2004, at 11:05:11
(((Antigua))),
> What you wrote appears to me to contradict what you have written elsewhere.
<<< I don't know how to address your concern over your understandings of what I posted.
> This implies that your mentor DID want the person to resolve their childhood trauma.
>
After the minutes of silence were the patients "cured?" Now that would be incredible and I would certainly go for it! Seriously.
><<< David practiced that the person does the healing so he would make every tool available to them for their quest. He was a master coach, I suppose. Overcoming the trauma was always couched as a process, not an event. Even the tears at the end of the [out of body guided imagery] wasn't the end. What the client took with them was a technique useful anytime circumstances conspired to high-jack the emotions. They are then guirded for warefare with their bad feelings, behaviors, and motives.
> Also, I am interested in your idea of the child growing up to be that person. For me, I don't want that child to grow up to be me, I want for the adult me to take the best parts of that child before she was damaged by the abuse and help her to grow into a better me today.
><<< Sounds like you feel your adult person is somehow bad. When you look in the mirror, do you see what I see, or do you see the damage? I submit that seeing the damage, is seeing a distortion, since that's not what the rest of see. Is that wise to continue down that road, assuming that you are wearing your damage when you aren't in the current tense? What benefit will that assumption be for you to continue? I'm OK if you see a benefit, just please share it with me.
<<< None of this is crossing-swords with you. I'm four-square on your side.
Rod
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