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Posted by rainyday on March 12, 2004, at 13:24:17
My T has shared her experiences with therapy with me, and it sure does open your mind. Here is someone helping me glue all the bits of myself together to make a whole person, and she is getting help herself.
She is also involving me in doing a spa party for a local womens' shelter. (I am a consultant for a home party company.) She'll be doing some counseling about self esteem and I will teach them a little about aromatherapy. It feels weird to work alongside someone who is in turn working on my head. I like it, but my "friendship" feelings are battling with the check I write her every week. It also feels weird to be helping women when I myself need help.
Is this mixed business of helping and being helped the norm?
Posted by crushedout on March 12, 2004, at 19:33:48
In reply to Your T's therapist, posted by rainyday on March 12, 2004, at 13:24:17
rainyday,i could be wrong, but this sounds to me like what's called a "dual relationship" and i think it's unethical or at the very least ill-advised, because of just the sorts of feelings you mention. it's very confusing for the patient and can give the T a conflict of interest which could interfere with your therapy. perhaps others know more about this and can elaborate on the problems with it.
> My T has shared her experiences with therapy with me, and it sure does open your mind. Here is someone helping me glue all the bits of myself together to make a whole person, and she is getting help herself.
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> She is also involving me in doing a spa party for a local womens' shelter. (I am a consultant for a home party company.) She'll be doing some counseling about self esteem and I will teach them a little about aromatherapy. It feels weird to work alongside someone who is in turn working on my head. I like it, but my "friendship" feelings are battling with the check I write her every week. It also feels weird to be helping women when I myself need help.
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> Is this mixed business of helping and being helped the norm?
Posted by terrics on March 14, 2004, at 13:56:32
In reply to Your T's therapist, posted by rainyday on March 12, 2004, at 13:24:17
I don't think so. My T. is like that. I think we started on the wrong foot. About the check thing....We have had some sessions when I should have gotten the check. Be careful not to get hurt. I know my T. has a way of taking advantage of people. I do not think she even knows it. terrics
Posted by lonelygirl on March 20, 2004, at 0:58:41
In reply to Re: Your T's therapist » rainyday, posted by terrics on March 14, 2004, at 13:56:32
Weird... I can see how this would be kind of unethical, but at the same time, I sort of wish it could be like that with my psychologist. I think I would truly like have him as a friend (not that he would want ME as a friend), and I am absolutely captivated when he says anything about himself or his own experiences. Sometimes, he tries to parallel something in his own life with something that I am talking about, and I like it.
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