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Posted by whisper55 on March 19, 2004, at 14:41:09
My therapist in the beginning told me to call her
when ever. I did many times and to many I find out, she scheduled me every other week and that upset me she said all her clients changed to that. I have been so sad and depressed and called her this week and schedule a phone session, she agreed but hit me over the head about it, that in all her 25 years of practice nobody ever called that much and it had to stop and I wasn't making changes so the therapy was a failure, not by me she said her end and now I fel like a fool.
She wants me to still come in on monday and bring a calender, get out and go to support groups more
she may as well added and stop bothering me. I froze with hurt and pain I know that my inaction is my fault so much so it overwhelms me. I am not sure what to do and feel awkward having to go monday. Any input is appreciated.
Posted by Dinah on March 19, 2004, at 18:16:55
In reply to Ouch!, posted by whisper55 on March 19, 2004, at 14:41:09
Ouch is right! I can't believe she would let so long go without telling you something is wrong and then dump it on you at once!
How long have you been seeing her? Do you feel like you've made any gains in therapy? If you want to continue seeing her, you might consider this over the weekend and have your counterarguments about the usefulness of therapy lined up.
Don't feel bad about the telephone. It's her job to clearly define the boundaries. You have no way to know what is acceptable other than what she tells you.
Do you feel like you want to continue with her at this point?
I am really sorry, Whisper. I know I've been really upset when my therapist just questioned the usefulness of therapy for me.
Posted by Fallen4myT on March 19, 2004, at 19:33:38
In reply to Ouch!, posted by whisper55 on March 19, 2004, at 14:41:09
Aw I am sorry I would hurt on that too...I think go Monday and see what happens maybe start it out with I am sorry you felt I called you too much I wish you had said something sooner...and see where she goes with that..keep us posted?
Posted by Speaker on March 20, 2004, at 11:16:14
In reply to Re: Ouch! » whisper55, posted by Fallen4myT on March 19, 2004, at 19:33:38
I'm so sorry! I agree that if she felt you called too much she should have stated that sooner...I wonder if thats where she thinks she failed? I agree with the other posts that I would go in Monday and ask why she has waited to DUMP all of this on you at the same time. Let's cut back on phone calls, then lets cut back on therapy and take one step at a time would seem to be more helpful...I think she owes you an explaination! This had to be shocking and hurtful...take care of YOU :).
Posted by pegasus on March 21, 2004, at 1:05:23
In reply to Ouch!, posted by whisper55 on March 19, 2004, at 14:41:09
Ugh! Why are there therapists that do things like this. I think it sounds really unfair to you. You're just going along doing therapy as best you can and then all of a sudden you find out you were calling too much and you can only see her every other week and she thinks your therapy has failed !?!?! Geez.
I'm wondering whether something big has happened in her life, if she's suddenly cutting back all her patients to every other week with no warning. That's a pretty unusual schedule for therapy (at least - it's unusual for a therapist to have *all* their patients going every other week). If so, she's certainly letting it bleed into your therapy, which seems pretty inappropriate.
OK, maybe I'm not being all that helpful. I'm just mad at your therapist on your behalf.
- p
Posted by terrics on March 21, 2004, at 10:18:08
In reply to Ouch!, posted by whisper55 on March 19, 2004, at 14:41:09
I feel sad for you. Your T. is not acting professionally. She should have found another approach like sitting down with you and discussing the phone calls. Good luck Monday. terrics
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