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Posted by Poet on January 5, 2004, at 18:02:55
Last night a bottle of wine and an ambien didn't put me to sleep. Tonight I'm trying two ambiens, no wine. My interview is tomorrow morning 9:30 (central time) and I can't look like a zombie.
I really want the job. It isn't a major step up, title or money wise, but I can do it, I want to do it and I just took a bunch of writing courses that will help me do it well.
Please don't tell me to call my therapist, she has already told me that I have to keep repeating to myself "I am unhappy at work, I need to take risks, and I need to stop blaming myself when I don't get the job."
My brain is just repeating, failure, failure, failure. I have such an intense fear of failure, I don't fear change. I fear being stuck in my current job and feeling worthless and useless forever.
Any support, kind words, prayers, are appreciated.
Poet
Posted by Dinah on January 5, 2004, at 18:33:09
In reply to Job Interview Tomorrow- emotional mess, posted by Poet on January 5, 2004, at 18:02:55
Hi Poet,
I'm sending calming thoughts your way, and I'm visualizing you walking into that interview tomorrow with your nervousness not at all noticeable, conveying your ability to this job.
Then with any luck, they'll be smart enough to see it and snap you up!
And if they're not that perspicacious, it's not a failure on your part. It's way more complicated than that. From what I understand, applying for *one* job is just a part of the whole job hunting experience. If you don't get this job, you haven't failed - you just haven't finished your job search yet.
Now. Deep breaths. Review your homework on why you'll be a great match for this job in this company, get a good night's sleep and a good breakfast, and maybe some visualization exercises. You'll do just fine.
Posted by Karen_kay on January 5, 2004, at 19:20:51
In reply to Job Interview Tomorrow- emotional mess, posted by Poet on January 5, 2004, at 18:02:55
First thing's first.... If you don't get the rest you need try yellow concealer under your eyes in the morning. It will hide any dark circles or hint of lack of rest :) And pinch your cheeks :)
Now, try to get some sleep.. And stop repeating failure to yourself. You most certainly are not. Look at how many times you have picked yourself up and tried again! I have good feelings about this one for you. I really do. And you should too. You are qualified and deserve this position, so you will get it! Now, when you lay down tonight think sweet thoughts about how much you will enjoy this interview. When you go into the interview, think nice thoughts about how overqualified you are and how lucky they are to have you there applying for this job. The rest will fall into place! Try to think positive, hun! I have faith in you! And good luck, though I KNOW you really don't need it, this job is in the bag! They'll set you up for a second interview tomorrow :)
Karen
Posted by DaisyM on January 5, 2004, at 22:29:04
In reply to Job Interview Tomorrow- emotional mess, posted by Poet on January 5, 2004, at 18:02:55
Poet,
A certain amount of nervousness shows how much you want the job and that should be flattering to the potential company. Tell them: "I want this so bad, I'm really nervous!" They will appreciate your honesty.
Deep breathing creates the same brain waves as REM sleep so you will feel rested and relaxed even if you don't sleep well. Do this tonight and tomorrow morning.
Pick out something to wear that you feel good in, wear your favorite "professional" shoes and take along a private "good luck charm." Mine is a Snoralax card from Pokemon my son gave me years ago. LOL. If you look good, you will feel good and it is easier to fake competence when you are stressed.
It isn't the end of the world if you don't get the job. Getting the interview in this day and age is HUGE...and impressive. I get over 200 resumes for single jobs when we have openings and we are a little tiny company. Congratulate yourself on this fact.
Knock 'em dead!
Posted by Poet on January 5, 2004, at 22:38:14
In reply to Re: Job Interview Tomorrow- emotional mess, posted by Dinah on January 5, 2004, at 18:33:09
Thanks for the calming thoughts. I listened to my self esteem guided imagery CD and I am feeling better. Still nervous, but less so.
I'll eat breakfast so my stomach won't be rumbling. If my hands are shaking, I'll blame it on the freezing weather where I am.
Thanks for your support. I'll let you know how I think it went.
Poet
Posted by Poet on January 5, 2004, at 22:45:29
In reply to Re: Job Interview Tomorrow- emotional mess » Poet, posted by Karen_kay on January 5, 2004, at 19:20:51
Karen,
Thank you so much for having faith in me. I hope my interviewers psychically picked up your positive vibe and they will set up a second interview right there and then.
Hopefully I will sleep, I took an ambien and will take another if this one doesn't kick in. I hope my dreams are of success.
I've got some concealer and where I am it's freezing cold so I will have redness in my cheeks even if it's just windburn.
I'll let you know how it went.
Poet
Posted by Poet on January 5, 2004, at 22:57:21
In reply to Re: Job Interview Tomorrow- emotional mess » Poet, posted by DaisyM on January 5, 2004, at 22:29:04
Hi Daisy,
Thanks so much for your support. I like the clothes I decided to wear, and my shoes look great with them.
I've been trying to think of what to bring as a good luck charm. I have two heart pendants, one my husband gave me that I'll wear close to my heart, the other I'll slip in my pocket.
If my hands are shaking tomorrow, I can say "it's really cold outside (which it is) but I think my hands are shaking because I really want this job."
I will try to sleep and to deep breathe.
I'll let you know how it goes.
Poet
Posted by Karen_kay on January 5, 2004, at 23:50:30
In reply to Re: Job Interview Tomorrow- emotional mess » DaisyM, posted by Poet on January 5, 2004, at 22:57:21
Posted by Medusa on January 6, 2004, at 1:56:54
In reply to Job Interview Tomorrow- emotional mess, posted by Poet on January 5, 2004, at 18:02:55
Be easy on yourself ... don't try to pretend anything, just find the part of yourself you like most and share a bit of it with them.
I'll be thinking of you today... let us know how this went.
Posted by fallsfall on January 6, 2004, at 8:27:56
In reply to sending you positive energy Poet!, posted by Medusa on January 6, 2004, at 1:56:54
Go for it, Poet!
Remember, too, that you are interviewing them. You want to be sure that it is the right position for you, and that you will feel comfortable with the people there.
Good luck!
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