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Posted by Tabitha on October 30, 2003, at 19:07:18
Well maybe not yelled, but I definitely raised my voice. I've never done this before. It felt kind of good. Usually I either cry or show no emotion except vague crabbiness. We actually resolved the issue-- about my gender issues-- she thought I was stuck in hating men and being victimized and not open to change-- I thought I was bravely airing my anti-men thoughts, hoping for help getting free of them. She told me to use different words to make it clear I realize I'm making assumptions that might not be correct, so she can better respect my feelings and I'll sound less victim-like. I thought it went without saying I was open to changing these thoughts-- after all I've joined her mixed gender group,and I'm talking about my reactions. She didn't give me the benefit of the doubt. I think she actually apologized, along with pointing out that I was assuming she should just know that I was open to changing my beliefs, even though I stated them without the weasel words. It felt like a good session. I've been mad at her over this subject for weeks.
Posted by Dinah on October 30, 2003, at 19:19:58
In reply to I Yelled at my Therapist, posted by Tabitha on October 30, 2003, at 19:07:18
Sounds like it cleared the air. :)
I love a good air clearing therapy session.
How is group going?
Posted by Tabitha on October 30, 2003, at 20:21:08
In reply to Good for you!, posted by Dinah on October 30, 2003, at 19:19:58
Group is going well. It feels safe and stable already. I cried-- I was the first one to cry. Yay me. There should be a prize.
She told me to start keeping a journal so I can keep track of my negative assumptions that turn out to be not true. Usually stuff like thinking someone is mad at me then finding out they weren't.
This is a much better group than the ones I tried years ago. Not much conflict, and people seem to process it well. Nobody stands out as an irritant-- we're all functioning about the same level.
Posted by Medusa on October 31, 2003, at 2:32:24
In reply to I Yelled at my Therapist, posted by Tabitha on October 30, 2003, at 19:07:18
Posted by Dinah on October 31, 2003, at 6:51:29
In reply to Re: Good for you! » Dinah, posted by Tabitha on October 30, 2003, at 20:21:08
Sounds great Tabitha. It must be feeling safe if you were able to be vulnerable.
You've almost got me feeling brave enough to venture into that territory. I think it's great that you were brave enough to take a chance.
Posted by fallsfall on October 31, 2003, at 7:13:56
In reply to Re: Good for you! » Dinah, posted by Tabitha on October 30, 2003, at 20:21:08
Don't you just hate it when your therapist insists that you are thinking something that you aren't? Gee, is that called invalidiation? It's enough to make you yell at them! I'm glad you did. And now things are BETTER - because you yelled. Pretty strange, huh?
I'm glad your group is going better. It takes a little while to settle in. You must be feeling less like you are the black sheep in the group. I'm glad.
Go Tabitha!
Posted by Poet on October 31, 2003, at 10:40:04
In reply to Re: Good for you! » Tabitha, posted by fallsfall on October 31, 2003, at 7:13:56
Posted by Poet on October 31, 2003, at 10:41:24
In reply to Re: Good for you! » Tabitha, posted by fallsfall on October 31, 2003, at 7:13:56
Posted by Ç®ëëþý Tabitha on October 31, 2003, at 15:54:04
In reply to Re: Good for you! » Tabitha, posted by Dinah on October 31, 2003, at 6:51:29
try it, Dinah. You might find you are stronger than you think.
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