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Posted by cerodwen on July 17, 2003, at 16:02:44
when I am in my therapists office (or talking to my mom) we tend to discuss things that need to be done sometimes, like I need to do some homework or I need to clean my room or Just something that is giving me a lot of anxiety and I want to get it done but I'm procrastinating.
When I'm in the office, during the conversation, it is easy enough to say yes and nod okay I will do that or yes I can do that but then when I'm not there and I'm at home these things are so much harder to do i lose all my focus and seem to have no will power. I guess to sum up I am have having trouble relating the good ideas from session to actions in my life.
My current situation: I went and saw my therapist last afternoon, and she was full of good ideas for things that could help me, like studying with someone else or asking a housemate for help but then she said, you say you can do these things but is that theoretical or reality and I'm like... it depends on where i'm at mood-wise.
but I am so freaked out about my midterm tomorrow I know I will fail and I just can't study because there is too much to study and now I'm freaking out and don't want to go to lab. which is a big deal to miss lab. it's in 2 hours and i have to prep and my brain is all weird and i'm getting dizzy every time I stand up and I'm just like it's 2pm and i've been in bed all day why even try to redeem this stupid sucky day.
although i know somewhere that if i go to lab i'll feel better and even if i fail this midterm i can still pass the class and passing is better than failing even though its not my initial goal of an A... sometimes its just so hard to even get out of bed though.
Posted by noa on July 17, 2003, at 18:15:30
In reply to making plans in therapy, posted by cerodwen on July 17, 2003, at 16:02:44
I relate--putting things into action is always so much harder than thinking of helpful ideas.
Posted by Penny on July 18, 2003, at 10:27:18
In reply to making plans in therapy, posted by cerodwen on July 17, 2003, at 16:02:44
I totally understand. When I'm feeling down, I can't even focus. I can't concentrate. I have no motivation. And all the good ideas in the world don't make a difference.
Not to mention the have-tos: I *have* to study, I *have* to go to work so I can pay my bills, I *have* to get that project done on time. Telling myself that doesn't help things one bit, yet I can't seem to stop.
One thing that HAS helped, a little eensy weensy bit, has been to tell myself that I CAN take one small step. I have to not look at the big picture - not look at EVERYTHING I need to be doing. It's too overwhelming and just makes me feel worse. Instead, I'm trying to learn to break it down into little pieces - as small as they need to be so that I can do at least something. Then, if I only get one piece finished, at least I've had an accomplishment.
I know that doesn't help much with things like studying for midterms and trying to make yourself go to lab...
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Posted by Dinah on July 19, 2003, at 15:54:53
In reply to making plans in therapy, posted by cerodwen on July 17, 2003, at 16:02:44
I must confess to being an extremely difficult person. Whether it's my therapist or my doctor or the nutritionist, if they ask me to do something I don't think I'm going to do, I always just say I could lie and say I'm going to do this but the fact is that I probably won't. You'd think they would appreciate my honesty. But they don't. My therapist at least has gotten used to it. :)
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