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Posted by judy1 on June 10, 2002, at 14:46:26
I just wanted to express my gratitude and hope you didn't take it the wrong way in my post to Wendy. This has been such a one-way street, I wanted to see how you were doing. Is your therapy going well? Don't feel you need to answer, I just wish I had some way I could give back the support you've given me. Take care, Judy
Posted by terra miller on June 10, 2002, at 16:37:14
In reply to Terra, I hope I didn't embarrass you..., posted by judy1 on June 10, 2002, at 14:46:26
> I just wanted to express my gratitude and hope you didn't take it the wrong way in my post to Wendy. This has been such a one-way street, I wanted to see how you were doing. Is your therapy going well? Don't feel you need to answer, I just wish I had some way I could give back the support you've given me. Take care, Judy
I'm not embarrassed. Sometimes I embarrass myself because I just keep talking and talking.... :-)
Frankly, this exchange has been helpful for me to know that I am still a sane person. It's kept me grounded. In my 3D life, I have recently had to go to court to file for a protective order against the spouse (a MAJOR feat considering my main form of coping is to h-i-d-e.... learned a long time ago) So now I have to go to court in three weeks for the hearing to see if they'll make it permanent (it's temporary until then.) My therapist will be there, so it should go well. And recently I have had to listen to my inlaws/family gossip about me and know that I can do nothing about it.... which brought on some sort of switch last night because I woke up this morning totally disoriented (an obvious sign.) Oh, and to add to that my mother is coming to visit in a few weeks..... haven't seen her in a couple of years on purpose.. talk about stress! and my therapist is on a week's vacation. :-) (However, I will say that I am handling this week without having therapy incredibly well... which shows me that I am starting to take care of myself on some level.)
So, you see, it helps to get out of myself and talk to other people. It's very grounding. It looks like we have helped each other. :-)
Thanks for asking.
Terra
Posted by judy1 on June 10, 2002, at 20:27:49
In reply to no sweat » judy1, posted by terra miller on June 10, 2002, at 16:37:14
I wanted to share my first marriage with you- it was to a medical doctor who beat me on a regular basis and was incredibly compassionate to his patients. Of course I blaimed myself for everything and left and later divorced with nothing- I had put him through school, etc. I envy your relationship with your therapist, I'm sure it means a great deal to have her support- not just emotionally, but to be there physically for you is wonderful. I know how difficult this is, so I hope you follow the advice you gave me and be kind to yourself too. I also wanted to add that I remarried, have 2 beautiful children and an incredibly kind husband who is completely confused by my behavior. My therapist has an open invitation to him, but I'm not ready. So I guess I'm writing this to show that I didn't replay a pattern from my life- there must be a part of me that is sane- just wish it would stay around all the time. Something else- my shrink with whom I've developed a trusting relationship does not believe in DID- he came out and said that, which is fine with me. I do believe in it, just don't want it. Do you think it's unusual for a 40ish shrink not to believe in DID?
Does your therapist think it's a good idea for your Mom to come? Was it your idea?
Take care, Judy
Posted by terra miller on June 10, 2002, at 22:18:20
In reply to Re: no sweat » terra miller, posted by judy1 on June 10, 2002, at 20:27:49
>I'm sure it means a great deal to have her support
<giggle> my therapist is a guy. :-) i know, i know.. you'd think i'd be seeing a lady. i don't get it either, except that my emotions overwhelm me so much that it helps for me to see a man because he isn't prone to get as emotional if that makes sense.
>my shrink with whom I've developed a trusting relationship does not believe in DID- he came out and said that, which is fine with me. I do believe in it, just don't want it. Do you think it's unusual for a 40ish shrink not to believe in DID?
yes. but i think there are some that haven't experienced a client with that and so it's easier to discount it's existence. my pdoc was very candid that he had in the past other clients with DID and how much it effected their normal daily functioning. (ie: he takes it seriously.)
I'm glad you have developed a trusting relationship. Sometimes you can do really well to talk about everything else and just not touch the subject that you don't agree on. That's how I feel with my pdoc. He's not perfect, but when it comes down to getting my meds (which is what I hired him for), he believes me and my side-effects and is willing to work with me to get it right. If he does his medical job well, then I'm happy. But if my therapist didn't diagnose me properly, then I would have a problem.
> Does your therapist think it's a good idea for your Mom to come? Was it your idea?
Honestly, I don't know. I know we've talked about it. But my head just starts to spin when I try to remember what we talked about. I've learned to go with the flow and that, based on past experience, I tend to rise to the occasion and take care of myself. So I have to trust that will happen again, even though I don't see how I'm going to pull it off. I usually end of daydreaming and .... you get the point.
Thanks for your kind words.
Terra
Posted by judy1 on June 11, 2002, at 16:33:06
In reply to more therapists and stuff :-) » judy1, posted by terra miller on June 10, 2002, at 22:18:20
When is your therapist returning? (I hope soon) Sorry about the mix-up on the sex issue- I think you had told me before that you had a male therapist. I saw my therapist today and told her I was reading the book you had recommended (it turned out she had written a review in it!, I saw her name but zoned) Anyway I told her when I was reading a case study that I dissociated and hurt myself, we decided to wait a while before I do any more reading. About my shrink (a male)- I've posted several times here about an ex-shrink that crossed boundaries in a big way- so this one has really helped me trust again. Although at times I get triggered and blast him (even though I don't think it's him my anger is pointed at), and he sometimes gets upset and then I write about a dozen e-mails apologizing. He does do therapy and meds, and the therapy part has been difficult because his experience is with PTSD and veterans while my therapist mostly has clients with DID. So I accept that I'll probably get further with my therapist, but my psychiatrist has an important role too. Hope you are doing well- Judy
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