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Posted by Racer on November 29, 2008, at 11:18:42
I've just gotten through two days of Family/Holiday time. The first was fine -- dinner with my mother, who knows and won't say much of anything. I ate too much, but not in a terrible way -- I did feel as though I could have hibernated for the winter, but from anything like an objective viewpoint, I didn't overeat significantly.
Last night, though -- more family, in-laws of cousins, etc, and Comments Were Made. I'm a picky eater, and I don't "try something just to be polite." (I figure my usual involuntary response to certain tastes/textures is hardly polite -- involving an inability to swallow or avoid unswallowing -- so I'm actually being more polite this way...) What's more, the parts that were good, I kept eating just because they were good -- and felt horrible. Physically horrible, AND emotionally horrible about having eaten it all.
So, since holidays are often difficult for those who experience eating disorders, let's brainstorm here a bit about how to handle it? What are some strategies that we've come up with that work, and what are some situations that we struggle with consistently?
In my case, it's Family Stuff. And as I get more tense, I get more crazy about the food. Not my mother, but everyone else.
Strategies? The only thing I've found to do is repeat the phrase, "I'm a very picky eater." And if that comes across as not very polite, too f--in' bad, right?
How about everyone else?
Posted by Poet on December 3, 2008, at 13:45:58
In reply to Holidays and eating disorders, posted by Racer on November 29, 2008, at 11:18:42
Hi Racer,
I hate being pushed to eat, especially when I'll just head to the bathroom immediately after leaving the table. Then, of course, later when I'm home and I'm hungry, wondering what my husband thinks about that I ate alot, but am hungry later. He's never brought it up, thank all the gods and goddesses.
My sister does not have an eating disorder (that I am aware of, then again she doesn't know about me, either) she is a vegan. She eats no meat or dairy products. My mother thinks it's odd, but it's perfectly acceptable for my sister to eat veggies and fruit while the rest of us are stuffing or faces with turkey and pie. Maybe you should tell the food pushers that you have gone vegan for health reasons and eat only vegan foods around them. My sister is very thin, by the way, and my mother never pushes her to gain weight.
I am sorry they are food pushers. I mean honestly if you were allergic to nuts would they force you to eat pecan pie? Cyber slaps to them all.
Poet
Posted by Racer on December 3, 2008, at 23:40:19
In reply to Re: Holidays and eating disorders » Racer, posted by Poet on December 3, 2008, at 13:45:58
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> My sister does not have an eating disorder ... she is a vegan. ... Maybe you should tell the food pushers that you have gone vegan for health reasons and eat only vegan foods around them.
LOL! There is one tiny problem with that approach: the only things I'll usually eat at family gatherings are the meats! The other things are usually pretty vile....But it's a good point. Other than a couple of comments about, "It's good -- you should try this," or "aren't you going to have some," the comments were made to my mother the next day, not to my face... But I still felt uncomfortable, so I guess I can work on that without worrying about the rest of them....
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> I mean honestly if you were allergic to nuts would they force you to eat pecan pie? Cyber slaps to them all.
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> PoetSadly, yes -- they wouldn't believe it. And could you make that a *real* slap?
xoxo
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