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Posted by clubfitter on September 1, 2011, at 9:16:35
In particular, your doctors or therapists. When you are sitting there pouring it out, desperately trying to explain the terror and desperation knowing that when you leave, you have your agony to return to....while they go back to what seems like 'normalcy'.....relatively speaking
Posted by B2chica on September 1, 2011, at 9:40:10
In reply to Do you resent those in good health?, posted by clubfitter on September 1, 2011, at 9:16:35
i dont resent them. as i see it they are the only ones that can clearly help me.
anyone with severe pain whether it physical or emotional to a degree they focus on themselves or relate to themselves, sometimes too much... only one clear of that can focus soley on me and my needs using a clear head, and educated thoughts...instead of relating their lives in.NOW when it comes to support, i totally want someone who has been there, or near someone who's been there so they have an idea of what i'm going through.
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Posted by B2chica on September 1, 2011, at 10:26:09
In reply to Do you resent those in good health?, posted by clubfitter on September 1, 2011, at 9:16:35
i dont resent others that are in good health.
however i often feel bad (toward myself) that i am glad there are others that suffer as i do so that i have someone to relate, someone to share with. and someone to interact on a level of intimacy about dysfunction/disease.i truly dont wish this on anyone else. but i am very grateful there are others.
its a paradox for me that i struggle with.
Posted by Phillipa on September 1, 2011, at 10:59:34
In reply to Re: Do you resent those in good health?, posted by B2chica on September 1, 2011, at 10:26:09
I don't resent them just say lucky them they are normal how do I also get there. Seems like they are so calm and content. Content would be lovely. Phillipa
Posted by Bob on September 1, 2011, at 14:14:18
In reply to Do you resent those in good health?, posted by clubfitter on September 1, 2011, at 9:16:35
> In particular, your doctors or therapists. When you are sitting there pouring it out, desperately trying to explain the terror and desperation knowing that when you leave, you have your agony to return to....while they go back to what seems like 'normalcy'.....relatively speaking
I have definitely had these feelings now and then, depending on how I am doing. It's often people I'm close to that I resent.
Posted by sleepygirl2 on September 1, 2011, at 14:55:29
In reply to Do you resent those in good health?, posted by clubfitter on September 1, 2011, at 9:16:35
Mostly no, I kind of hope that others are pretty healthy, that their lives are pretty good.
Somebody's got to be enjoying life.
Posted by Christ_empowered on September 1, 2011, at 20:12:48
In reply to Re: Do you resent those in good health?, posted by sleepygirl2 on September 1, 2011, at 14:55:29
I've never resented my docs for being "healthy"; I have resented them for labeling me and saying certain behaviors were indicative of disorder when they weren't harmful to anyone (not even me) and would probably fall under the category "personal idiosyncrasy/weirdness" rather than "disease."
I also resent people--especially a certain ex-counselor of mine--who confuse "normal" with "healthy." If being "normal" was actually good for, we wouldn't have people vegging out in front of the TV or facebook for hours a day, escaping their "normal" existence, now would we?
sorry about the rant. Good question.
Posted by clubfitter on September 1, 2011, at 20:37:12
In reply to Re: Do you resent those in good health?, posted by Christ_empowered on September 1, 2011, at 20:12:48
I just wish they could feel what we feel if not just for a day or two. I honesty want all those around me to suffer like I do. Just to realize the magnitude to which it has escalated. It's selfish and awful. But Im tired of trying to explain how bad it is. It sounds like exaggerating and loathing. Like Im trying to win some sort of contest...being the most depressed person. I wonder how much they think about your pain when you leave. Probably not at all. They are likely trained to "let it go."
Posted by Phillipa on September 1, 2011, at 21:12:01
In reply to Re: Do you resent those in good health?, posted by clubfitter on September 1, 2011, at 20:37:12
That's true RN's taught the same as you have more one to care for at a time the smiley face goes on to next patient. Not to say that some don't stick with you. But if the docs took it to heart they would fall ill and not be able to practice. Phillipa
Posted by Chris O on September 2, 2011, at 17:07:24
In reply to Do you resent those in good health?, posted by clubfitter on September 1, 2011, at 9:16:35
"Do you resent those in good health, in particular your doctors or therapists?"
Short answer: Heck, yes!
Long answer: It depends on how bad I feel, and how I perceive people treat me. But I definitely struggle with resentment of those I perceive as "healthier than me" during my daily interactions. It's always a struggle.Chris
Posted by emmanuel98 on September 2, 2011, at 20:05:14
In reply to Re: Do you resent those in good health?, posted by clubfitter on September 1, 2011, at 20:37:12
I have been feeling better and my T told me she measures my well-being by how worried and fearful she gets about me. So they don't just let it go. It impacts them. When I was seeing my p=doc for therapy, I once asked him what it was like for him and he said it's intense. It's intense on both ends, not just for me. He said you have to learn to some extent to not carry it around with you, but no matter how experienced you are, patients' pain impacts you and is hard to leave behind.
So I don't resent my therapists at all. I know they have gone above and beyond for me when I have been in terrible distress. I know they become distressed too, though obviously they need to learn to deal with it.
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