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Posted by rjlockhart on June 10, 2007, at 0:46:54
Right now................. im sitting calm.
My eyes are i would say i bit angry, im very hurt but at the same time im want to do something.
I have friends but some think i dont have good social skills,
My eyes now are buring with fire.
I assure you im not doing this for attietion, this is going on in my head.
Is it something that will go by morning?
Please just tell me what do you think it is, or its just some psychological state im in about thinking about things that make me angry.
Rj
Posted by Quintal on June 10, 2007, at 1:17:20
In reply to What disorder do you think i have?, posted by rjlockhart on June 10, 2007, at 0:46:54
People who see you in your everyday life will probably have greater insight into your personality and behaviour than anyone here. We're limited in scope because we can only know what you tell us. I think I read a post a while ago from someone you introduced to the board. I can't remember what they said off the top of my head but it would be interesting to know what they might say with regards to the title of this thread? Lets see if I can find it........ oh, here it is:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/social/20061005/msgs/694527.html
Q
Posted by Racer on June 10, 2007, at 1:37:53
In reply to What disorder do you think i have?, posted by rjlockhart on June 10, 2007, at 0:46:54
Matt, you know we can't diagnose you. What's more, no matter how enticing it may be right now, you don't really want to have all that many diagnoses -- they'll interfere with your life in many ways, Matt. Even if they're controlled through medication or therapy, many psychiatric diagnoses do interfere with things like insurance, some jobs, etc.
How about working on some behavioral interventions, including cognitive reframing, and focus on mental *health,* rather than mental illness?
Posted by rjlockhart on June 10, 2007, at 1:38:13
In reply to What disorder do you think i have?, posted by rjlockhart on June 10, 2007, at 0:46:54
Well back then, i didnt justify my actions. Right now im ANGRY very angry, to the point, im not even going to say....about something that happened. At someone, Im not trying to throw some dumb f*ck pity party for myself, who cares really? NO ONE!
I learned that a couple months ago, its advice trying to get from people in life about how you present yourself.
Plus the pathetic trash woman at work, i broght her flowers, she said throw them in the trash or give them to the manager. I dont do flowers, and im not a couselor either, i should of said you know what i should of just brough a bag of trash because thats what you are
So yes i rerember that post and that poster, i didnt justify why, that was just a thought i had, which i didnt do later in time obviosly or i wouldnt be posting here i would be in Iraq by now. That was a dumb thought. Really.
I just need adivce how to look at life.
I hope she will get it in time.
Posted by rjlockhart on June 10, 2007, at 1:46:33
In reply to Re: thanks but please read this, posted by rjlockhart on June 10, 2007, at 1:38:13
the woman im refering too is in the above post.
The one taht harrases me, puts me down, i brought her flowers, she said throw them in the trash, PLUS i got a ticket for going to get them to her, she said "lucky you" now leave me alone.
What else she said is your a panzie, you cant take jokes so im not speaking to you, and im not a counselor, so bye. I was on the phone after i stormed out of the GAP. She is very ruthless.
[well im sorry but really what i should of said to her was fine im a panzie and your pathetic for 40 year old woman who puts down people, like trash.]
I am dead serious this woman makes me incridebily reactive, even if i think of her right now ill say something i should not.
Posted by Quintal on June 10, 2007, at 2:14:16
In reply to Re: thanks but please read this, posted by rjlockhart on June 10, 2007, at 1:38:13
I agree with Racer that therapy would be more helpful and more likely to result in lasting changes than a diagnosis and medication alone with problems like this. CBT can be helpful with learning skills in logic, critical thinking and organization. Counselling is usually warmer and more comforting for emotional pain.
I had a domineering and manipulative mother so I'm not unsympathetic to the thorn in your side but I think you're right about needing to learn about how to present yourself properly to people. Medication won't teach you these skills and it's not an illness that can be diagnosed (I'm not saying you don't have a mood disorder in addition to this), this is something you need to talk about to another person face to face, and preferably a professional because things can get messy when you try enlist friends as therapists.
Q
Posted by Racer on June 10, 2007, at 10:17:17
In reply to Re: racer, posted by rjlockhart on June 10, 2007, at 1:46:33
Matthew, I don't get the feeling that you're hearing what I'm saying. Let me try this again.
Here's a question for you. Please just answer the question, rather than reacting to it:
Do you think that I have never come into contact with the sort of person you're describing?
Guess what! I've come into contact with this sort of person. So has nearly everyone on this board. I'd bet nearly everyone over the age of 18 in this country has come into contact with this sort of person.
And we still have the choice of not reacting to them. That's what we learn, if we're lucky or if we're smart: how to make the choice not to react to them. Not to feel bad at what they say to us.
That's a choice you can make, to learn new ways to repond to her. But it's your choice. So is continuing to react the way you do now. That's also a choice, and you have the right to make it.
But no one can "make" you feel anything.
Posted by Phillipa on June 10, 2007, at 12:00:52
In reply to I have a couple of questions for you » rjlockhart, posted by Racer on June 10, 2007, at 10:17:17
It is hard if your're a sensitive person like I am as I take things to heart and get hurt all the time too. Love Phillipa
Posted by Johann on June 10, 2007, at 14:43:34
In reply to Re: thanks but please read this » rjlockhart, posted by Quintal on June 10, 2007, at 2:14:16
I agree and think this is very well said.
I would only add that a good therapist should be able to employ a CBT skills when necessary, in the context of a warm, psychodynamic approach.
> I agree with Racer that therapy would be more helpful and more likely to result in lasting changes than a diagnosis and medication alone with problems like this. CBT can be helpful with learning skills in logic, critical thinking and organization. Counselling is usually warmer and more comforting for emotional pain.
>
> I had a domineering and manipulative mother so I'm not unsympathetic to the thorn in your side but I think you're right about needing to learn about how to present yourself properly to people. Medication won't teach you these skills and it's not an illness that can be diagnosed (I'm not saying you don't have a mood disorder in addition to this), this is something you need to talk about to another person face to face, and preferably a professional because things can get messy when you try enlist friends as therapists.
>
> Q
Posted by rjlockhart on June 10, 2007, at 14:48:03
In reply to I have a couple of questions for you » rjlockhart, posted by Racer on June 10, 2007, at 10:17:17
yes i can ignore her, you know i slept it over the night.
I feel like an alter personality was talking last night, well it was me, but im not like that.
But i think maybe what happened was i blew up over a series of events that happened, and i just went balasictic on the boards.
I can have a very kind heart, actaully i was until this woman started her stuff with me and chose to be mean back to her.
I understand yes there are people that are like this, it just depends on how the personality traits get along. I realized that.
I didnt say somethings last night because i knew i would really regret it, and plus it was wasting my time really on thinking about this.
To go (transitioning) my friend shelton, if he doesnt want to be a friend, thats fine......... there are others out there. I just need to get some good social training on what to say. And not tell someone my WHOLE life story in 5 min. That usally scares people off (ROFL) (To be exact, i've definetly scared about 4 people away) ROFL. Who cares.........
But thanks for the advice.
By the way i do not have a psychologist because my mother controls everything, she doesnt want to pay for one, and currently right now i dont have the money. I just talk with my innerself about it, and i did im coming back to earth now.
Thanks
R
Posted by gardenergirl on June 10, 2007, at 15:26:25
In reply to Re: I have a couple of questions for you » Racer, posted by Phillipa on June 10, 2007, at 12:00:52
> It is hard if your're a sensitive person like I am as I take things to heart and get hurt all the time too. Love Phillipa
Still, if you were completely indifferent to that person, you wouldn't feel anything about what they did. It's your own feeling of caring what that person thinks that produces the hurt reaction to her behavior. That's where it becomes a choice.
gg
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