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Posted by heaven help me on June 12, 2006, at 22:38:04
Can I jsut say that today I am sad? My daughter left for a 2 month mission trip and I miss her so much. I still feel like my Geodon/Lamictal is a good combo for me, and I have sustained a very mild hypomanic stae for some time which has been great, but today, I am just sad. I think it's just circumstantial. But if I am comin' down, is this what it would look like? And what else should I be watching/prepared for? Do the meds balance the down ride too? Just sad.
blessings
mary
Posted by highone on June 12, 2006, at 22:48:35
In reply to Can I just be sad?, posted by heaven help me on June 12, 2006, at 22:38:04
Yes, you can be sad although it doesn't feel good it still happens to me too. Take care I hope you feel better! :)
Posted by Jakeman on June 12, 2006, at 23:59:26
In reply to Re: Can I just be sad?, posted by highone on June 12, 2006, at 22:48:35
> Yes, you can be sad although it doesn't feel good it still happens to me too. Take care I hope you feel better! :)
Sad is a normal human emotion, a gift in a way that can give us insights. Let it be.
~Jake
Posted by Phillipa on June 13, 2006, at 11:30:47
In reply to Re: Can I just be sad? » highone, posted by Jakeman on June 12, 2006, at 23:59:26
Most people would be sad if someone they cared for went away I wouldn't worry keep yourself busy. Love Phillipa
Posted by Declan on June 13, 2006, at 18:36:46
In reply to Can I just be sad?, posted by heaven help me on June 12, 2006, at 22:38:04
My son left home this year. We got on really well, and I miss him a lot. But it's good that he's not here because he would feel obliged to cheer me up (just by being here). The sadness of a child leaving home well is a good sadness.
Declan
Posted by heaven help me on June 13, 2006, at 22:15:57
In reply to Re: Can I just be sad?, posted by Declan on June 13, 2006, at 18:36:46
nm
Posted by heaven help me on June 13, 2006, at 22:17:17
In reply to thank you. (nm) » Declan, posted by heaven help me on June 13, 2006, at 22:15:57
nm
Posted by bassman on June 14, 2006, at 6:32:59
In reply to Can I just be sad?, posted by heaven help me on June 12, 2006, at 22:38:04
A guy that I've worked with for three years and who is a close friend is leaving the company I work for and I've been sad/depressed/angry for 4 months! I think part of a person going out of your life for awhile is that you know that in some way, the relationship will be different in the future-that is the common experience-and that hurts. No med needed for that; we all suffer grief from loss. I hope you find meaning and comfort, even as you hurt...
Posted by KayLen on June 14, 2006, at 13:16:02
In reply to Can I just be sad?, posted by heaven help me on June 12, 2006, at 22:38:04
> Can I jsut say that today I am sad? My daughter left for a 2 month mission trip and I miss her so much. I still feel like my Geodon/Lamictal is a good combo for me, and I have sustained a very mild hypomanic stae for some time which has been great, but today, I am just sad. I think it's just circumstantial. But if I am comin' down, is this what it would look like? And what else should I be watching/prepared for? Do the meds balance the down ride too? Just sad.
> blessings
> mary
$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$Hi Mary!
That is such a great question. I used to try and analyze all my feelings sift through and try to pick ..which is real...which is from depression ...all the time. Today I simply look at the situation....in your case i would say it is normal to miss your daughter so I would say it is a real feeling and not one brought on by depression. After using your senses this way most likely you wont have to even look and compare you will begin to realize the diference between ...what is real and what is not {as real as i know those feelings get}...hope your doing good Mary!!
Posted by CEK on June 14, 2006, at 18:33:38
In reply to Re: Can I just be sad? » heaven help me, posted by KayLen on June 14, 2006, at 13:16:02
Mary, I hate that you are feeling so sad about your daughter leaving? Have you gotten to talk to her yet? I think it's completely normal to feel sad over her leaving. If you didn't I'd have to say that you were on some pretty strong stuff to keep that feeling away. Meds aren't going to take that feeling away from you unless it was a magic pill. But imagine how bad it might be if you weren't on the meds during this time. I bet if your daughter knew how bad you felt that it would sadden her. I know with what she is going away for I'm sure she probably thought that you'd be so proud of her that the sadness wouldn't be so bad. I know you are proud of her. I would be too. One thing that is good, is that she has left temporariy and for a very good reason. Something God has drawn her to do.(you're good example also) It would be so much worse if she left for good and on bad circomstances to live a life not according to what she was taught. I have you in my thoughts and prayers.(Yes, my prayers!) I hope the sadness will lift soon. Love, Cara
Posted by yxibow on June 14, 2006, at 23:57:04
In reply to Can I just be sad?, posted by heaven help me on June 12, 2006, at 22:38:04
> Can I jsut say that today I am sad? My daughter left for a 2 month mission trip and I miss her so much. I still feel like my Geodon/Lamictal is a good combo for me, and I have sustained a very mild hypomanic stae for some time which has been great, but today, I am just sad. I think it's just circumstantial. But if I am comin' down, is this what it would look like? And what else should I be watching/prepared for? Do the meds balance the down ride too? Just sad.
> blessings
> maryHaving real emotions is a normal part of life. If we medicated ourselves away we would be, well, emotionless. And that is what happens to me somewhat with Seroquel because all neuroleptics to some degree blunt emotion. So my reactions to things can be delayed. Or I may have to purposely listen to sad music to even bring out a crying spell to release some emotions.
In fact, while my medications are a necessary evil to prevent me from experiencing a worsening of a problem so far only partially covered, not cut, psychotherapy may be able to delve into the emotions better if we could cut the medications. Unfortunately I wouldn't be feeling terribly good. Its a catch-22 and occurs also with SSRIs blunting emotion as well.
Not everything is a pathology. We, with our various ilnesses have a tendency to microanalyze that some emotion might be due to a transmitter imbalance when a few bad hours in a day might just be, a typical human swing, which can last many hours and then return when we resolve our internal conflicts. Now if one were feeling things like this days on end, then its a different story, but not a true emotion like that.
-- feel betterJay
Posted by bassman on June 15, 2006, at 5:30:38
In reply to Re: Can I just be sad? » heaven help me, posted by yxibow on June 14, 2006, at 23:57:04
Wow, what a great post. I especially liked the part about "micro-analyzing" our emotions. For me, I know I do exactly that and I do it out of fear: "I'm depressed/intensely anxious, does that mean the AD isn't working at all now and ...and..."
Probably some therapists still feel that taking meds slows the therapeutic process and therefore should be avoided because emotional pain is a great motivator to resolve inner conflicts. But to paraphrase the post, we have to live our lives the other 99.7% of the time we aren't inching along on what we hope is some external world interaction-that happened sometime-that we have internalized and has contributed to our discomfort. Maybe.
Perhaps the center of this question has to do with the stigma of mental illness that is manifested by the uncaring people around us that believe that their experience with "normal" sadness and anxiety is exactly like that of the person with severe depression/anxiety/etc. When the line between "normal" and pathological emotional states becomes blurred, as it does when external events are powerful, then we ask ourselves if these uncaring people are correct, that we are just "making a big deal", "being too sensitive" [pick your favorite hurtful, uncaring phrase]-and further that we are being weenies for taking meds. And we cause ourselves even more pain by that analysis.
Posted by heaven help me on June 18, 2006, at 18:42:38
In reply to Re: Can I just be sad?, posted by bassman on June 15, 2006, at 5:30:38
nm
Posted by bassman on June 18, 2006, at 19:56:19
In reply to she called last night!!!!!!! Yeah!!!! :) (nm), posted by heaven help me on June 18, 2006, at 18:42:38
She's still with you; just in a different way. :>} Happy news.
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