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Posted by Emily Elizabeth on May 11, 2006, at 23:36:35
In reply to Re: Anyone know about Androcur? » ed_uk, posted by curtm on May 11, 2006, at 17:59:25
Could the excessive sex drive be a symptom of poorly controlled bipolar stuff? Does it increase when your other manic symptoms increase? Figuring that out might provide some clue abt the proper course of action to treat it.
Best,
EE
Posted by Caedmon on May 12, 2006, at 0:30:09
In reply to Re: Anyone know about Androcur?, posted by Emily Elizabeth on May 11, 2006, at 23:36:35
Maybe this is extreme - but probably not so extreme - what about risperidone? It might help with impulse control as well as diminish your sex drive.
- C
Posted by curtm on May 12, 2006, at 10:41:22
In reply to Re: Anyone know about Androcur?, posted by Emily Elizabeth on May 11, 2006, at 23:36:35
When we do make l***, my mood is very (I mean VERY) complacently Dr. Jeckyl-like for about a week, but that's pushing it. I don't feel any triggers at all during this period.
Then I start feeling the Mr. Hyde mood starting to creep back. At two weeks, I start getting very irritable and making inderect remarks making l*** again. She says, "We just did did not long ago."
By three weeks time, I have become arrogant and more direct about it. By four weeks, her cycle has come, so there's another week. By five weeks I quit making comments and just keep it inside, still frustrated. At six weeks frustration start to subside. At seven weeks it doesn't bother me anymore.
BUT about eight weeks I start trying to ignore her that way because I don't want to go through the cycle again. I'm afraid to make l*** because it happens EVERY time!
It's NOT about how often we make l***, I just want the mood cycle to stop! That is why I am so concerned about it. Pleae help.
Posted by ed_uk on May 12, 2006, at 12:45:59
In reply to The cycle goes like this- » Emily Elizabeth, posted by curtm on May 12, 2006, at 10:41:22
Hi Curt
It doesn't sound like your sex drive is unusually high. Suppressing your libido with drugs probably wouldn't be helpful.
Ed
Posted by bassman on May 12, 2006, at 13:09:37
In reply to The cycle goes like this- » Emily Elizabeth, posted by curtm on May 12, 2006, at 10:41:22
As the expression goes, you aren't oversexed, you are underloved-and I'll bet, damn angry/hurt/feeling-unloved about it. Boy, have I ever been in your boots. You need not take a drug for the situation, but maybe you should consider taking a powder!:>} Sorry, but I know first-hand how you feel. My advice is that you need to talk to lady friend and find out what the story is and whether the two of you can come to an agreeable compromise or if there is more to the situation from her perspective...best of luck.
bm
Posted by curtm on May 12, 2006, at 13:37:55
In reply to Re: The cycle goes like this-, posted by bassman on May 12, 2006, at 13:09:37
You ARE correct in most of the sense, but there is still the underlyinig issue of bipolar mood swinging that comes into play. I think that has a major influence. So I am trying to kill two birds with one stone. I don't know. Never mind..
Posted by Declan on May 12, 2006, at 14:33:02
In reply to Right mood, wrong time » bassman, posted by curtm on May 12, 2006, at 13:37:55
In this world it's asking a lot to expect 2 people to live together and satisfy each other sexually. You sound quite normally interested in sex and quite normally frustrated. Tolstoy was probably wrong, but you can adapt the "War and Peace" opening to 'Each happy sexual relationship is alike, but every unhappy one is unhappy in its own way'. This oolong tea doesn't cut it (4am wakenings) and I'm waiting for my tianeptine (no sexual side effects) to arrive. Don't worry, Curt. You are 36 or so? Your libido will die soon enough. I'd recommend you restart cannabis, but this is the wrong board, and it's possibly bad advice.
Declan
Posted by curtm on May 12, 2006, at 14:47:46
In reply to sex and stuff, posted by Declan on May 12, 2006, at 14:33:02
Posted by bassman on May 12, 2006, at 15:43:23
In reply to sex and stuff, posted by Declan on May 12, 2006, at 14:33:02
That's really funny, in a very dark way (namely, because it's true). Sort of like when they suggested that the Rolling Stones tune, "Let's Spend the Night Together", in deference to the age of musicians, should be renamed, "Let's Take a Nap Together". And you don't have to be 50 to feel that way...
Posted by curtm on May 12, 2006, at 18:53:28
In reply to sex and stuff, posted by Declan on May 12, 2006, at 14:33:02
I'm not trying to convince anyone. You're right. It's probably not an addiction (even though I am highly addiction prone.) I am just saying I don't like the mood swings that are associated with it. It's not when, where, how often, how good. I could not care any less about that (well maybe a little.)
It's probably just a general bipolar mood swing that I assimilate into everything else, just to make excuses. Ya think?
Posted by bassman on May 12, 2006, at 19:05:44
In reply to Missing my point I think » Declan, posted by curtm on May 12, 2006, at 18:53:28
So the point is that you don't like the emotional rollercoast that is occuring during, but probably isn't caused by, the sexual frequency; and you don't feel deprived. How'd I do?
Posted by Declan on May 12, 2006, at 19:36:10
In reply to Missing my point I think » Declan, posted by curtm on May 12, 2006, at 18:53:28
Just trying to cheer myself up on a slow morning, Curt. That's about it.....but truly, you wouldn't want to muck your hormones up or whatever it is that that stuff would do. Or take drugs to lessen your sex drive. That said, I don't understand bipolar. I have mood swings, reactive ones, but I've never been optimistic enough to say I'm hypomanic.
Declan
Posted by curtm on May 12, 2006, at 22:38:11
In reply to Re: Missing my point I think, posted by bassman on May 12, 2006, at 19:05:44
The more I talk about it, the more I realize what it is I'm tryng to say.
I guess to put it simply, its a "trigger"
And f***, I happened to have the thread up on the computer when I went to make my kid a sandwich and she read the whole f;in thread. I had some serious explaining to do. Gddmit! I had an anxiety attack. She thought it was about her. It's about me, not her.
*******************People like us just don't understand.
Please RSVP anyone
Posted by curtm on May 12, 2006, at 22:39:34
In reply to Re: Missing my point I think, posted by curtm on May 12, 2006, at 22:38:11
Posted by curtm on May 12, 2006, at 23:44:31
In reply to I meant to say people NOT like us don't understand (nm), posted by curtm on May 12, 2006, at 22:39:34
I meant to say people NOT like us don't understand.
Posted by Declan on May 13, 2006, at 0:33:07
In reply to Shint! I shouldnt have even started this!, posted by curtm on May 12, 2006, at 23:44:31
Don't worry, Curt. I walked into a wall last night.
Posted by gardenergirl on May 13, 2006, at 11:21:36
In reply to Re: Shint! I shouldnt have even started this! » curtm, posted by Declan on May 13, 2006, at 0:33:07
> Don't worry, Curt. I walked into a wall last night.
I thought I was the only one who did that? :)gg
Posted by bassman on May 13, 2006, at 11:33:14
In reply to Re: Missing my point I think, posted by curtm on May 12, 2006, at 22:38:11
Tight moment, but maybe it is a good introduction to talking to her about some of those issues-might I suggest you are blaming yourself for everything? Even if you believe it has nothing to do with her (but then why did you feel like you wanted to do something about it and why did she read your e-mail? I know I'm getting towards the edge of advice here, but I just have the feeling this isn't all about mood swings...)
If you feel these comments are too personal/intrusive, I'm really sorry and maybe I'm barking up the wrong tree. Just trying to help.
Posted by curtm on May 13, 2006, at 12:58:50
In reply to Re: Missing my point I think, posted by bassman on May 13, 2006, at 11:33:14
Posted by Larry Hoover on May 13, 2006, at 21:00:56
In reply to The cycle goes like this- » Emily Elizabeth, posted by curtm on May 12, 2006, at 10:41:22
> When we do make l***, my mood is very (I mean VERY) complacently Dr. Jeckyl-like for about a week, but that's pushing it. I don't feel any triggers at all during this period.
>
> Then I start feeling the Mr. Hyde mood starting to creep back. At two weeks, I start getting very irritable and making inderect remarks making l*** again. She says, "We just did did not long ago."I'm not sure I'm understanding what you're saying, curt. Two weeks since the one time, and none since?
> By three weeks time, I have become arrogant and more direct about it. By four weeks, her cycle has come, so there's another week.
Now four weeks since? And what's wrong with sex during menses?
> By five weeks I quit making comments and just keep it inside, still frustrated. At six weeks frustration start to subside. At seven weeks it doesn't bother me anymore.
Seven weeks since?
> BUT about eight weeks I start trying to ignore her that way because I don't want to go through the cycle again. I'm afraid to make l*** because it happens EVERY time!
You make love once in eight weeks, and you're surprised you're frustrated? Better get none than only a bit?
> It's NOT about how often we make l***, I just want the mood cycle to stop! That is why I am so concerned about it. Pleae help.I have read every post in the thread following this one, twice over, and I'm not sure I really understand you. Am I dense? Different? Densely different? Do you want to go to Babblemail? Do you want me to go to Babblemail?
Lar
Posted by curtm on May 13, 2006, at 23:31:02
In reply to Re: The cycle goes like this- » curtm, posted by Larry Hoover on May 13, 2006, at 21:00:56
>> I'm not sure I'm understanding what you're saying, curt.
>> You make love once in eight weeks, and you're surprised you're frustrated? Better get none than only a bit?
Yes. I am confused why I am frustrated. I must be starting to sounding like a real dork. Shint!
curtm (from above, rephrased) I am just saying I don't like the mood swings that seem to be associated with it. It's not when, where, how, how often, how good. I could not care any less about that. Is it probably just a general bipolar mood disorder that I assimilate into everything else, just to make excuses?
Maybe I really don't know what the heel I am talking about.
Posted by Larry Hoover on May 14, 2006, at 10:35:55
In reply to Re: The cycle goes like this- » Larry Hoover, posted by curtm on May 13, 2006, at 23:31:02
I think this thread belongs on Relationships, and Bob/deputies do a cleaner job of moving it than could I.
> >> I'm not sure I'm understanding what you're saying, curt.
>
> >> You make love once in eight weeks, and you're surprised you're frustrated? Better get none than only a bit?
>
> Yes. I am confused why I am frustrated. I must be starting to sounding like a real dork. Shint!No. Not sounding like a dork. Only if I judged you, and only if I judged you, wrongly.
I fear you are in a relationship, one in which one party is perfectly happy to get it thrice per annum, and in which another party is so disturbed by the failure to have his needs met that it threatens sanity itself.
It is not her duty to meet your needs, but, how is it that a man in Canada seems to care more for how this is affecting you than does a woman in the next room?
If I am right, I mean.
If you knew you were alone in this, it would be different.
It sounds as if your sexual interaction is incompatible with your mental health. What say you?
Lar
Posted by curtm on May 14, 2006, at 11:15:27
In reply to Re: The cycle goes like this- » curtm, posted by Larry Hoover on May 14, 2006, at 10:35:55
Posted by Larry Hoover on May 14, 2006, at 12:14:48
In reply to I am incompatible with myself! LOL (nm) » Larry Hoover, posted by curtm on May 14, 2006, at 11:15:27
Unfortunately, dude, you go with you, wherever you are. There ain't no way (that I will endorse) to get around that.
Lar
Posted by Donna Louise on May 15, 2006, at 6:16:10
In reply to Re: Shint! I shouldnt have even started this! » curtm, posted by Declan on May 13, 2006, at 0:33:07
> Don't worry, Curt. I walked into a wall last night.
This whole thread is cracking me up. I could make a pun at almost every line. so sorry Curtm, I know this has got to be frustrating, and that you have been the one to bring out some great humor in babbleland. I feel so at home amoung folks that walk into walls and such. And it is really nice to laugh about it than have the usual rage of destroying the damn wall for being in my way..
And there has to be the one very important way that you can compatable with yourself while you are working this other out. Now that sentence definately sends this to another board.Donna
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