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Posted by pekostar on November 22, 2003, at 12:37:36
I have honestly come to the end of my rope. I do not know what to do anymore. My husband is so suspicious and jealous. He is truley tearing us apart, tearing me apart. My entire life I dealt with a abusive father, an alchololic mother and for so many Years I thought I had come out such a strong person considering the circumstances. my dr. decided that I have chronic post traumatic stress syndrome. I agree. But right now all I want to do is go to BED!!!! sleep the day away. The medications wont work if the situations dont change....SO HOW DO I MAKE THEM CHANGE? I have always been such a loner....and right now all I want is to run far far away. I feel perfectly crazy.
Posted by Flipsactown on November 22, 2003, at 15:33:31
In reply to help me cope (long), posted by pekostar on November 22, 2003, at 12:37:36
I can understand why you are depressed. I have been married 30 years to a woman who is so insecure that she has accused me of womanizing at least ten times. No matter how much I tell her I love her she continues to hurt me by not trusting me. She does not realize how much this hurts me even when I tell her. She thinks I am being overdramatic and continues to be insecure. The last 2 years I was very depressed as my 30th wedding anniversary was approaching because I was thinking to myself how I was going to have to live with this person, who does not trus me, even after 30 years. Thank God I was able to get my depression under control with the addition of lamictal. I am also taking prozac and remeron. Currently, I am coping very much better with my wife's insecurities thanks to the lamictal. I don't know what will happen next in this marriage, but at least, I have a clear head (no depression) to deal with it. Please don't be discouraged. Go to counseling even if you have to go alone, like I do, because my spouse refuses to go to counseling. I see a therapist every month primarily to deal with chronic back pain I suffered in a traffic accident and also talk about my marital situation. There is always hope.
Flipsactown
> I have honestly come to the end of my rope. I do not know what to do anymore. My husband is so suspicious and jealous. He is truley tearing us apart, tearing me apart. My entire life I dealt with a abusive father, an alchololic mother and for so many Years I thought I had come out such a strong person considering the circumstances. my dr. decided that I have chronic post traumatic stress syndrome. I agree. But right now all I want to do is go to BED!!!! sleep the day away. The medications wont work if the situations dont change....SO HOW DO I MAKE THEM CHANGE? I have always been such a loner....and right now all I want is to run far far away. I feel perfectly crazy.
Posted by pekostar on November 23, 2003, at 12:46:22
In reply to Re: help me cope (long) » pekostar, posted by Flipsactown on November 22, 2003, at 15:33:31
We talked (loudly) and he "says" he will go to my Doctors appointment with me. Things can get so confusing when your not sure whether your dealing with my own coping issues....or If it is his issues making mine worse!!
Sometimes I wonder If I will ever be truely "better".
I won't give up, But sometimes I feel Like sending my parents the bill. I wouldn't be so screwed up if they had acted like responsible adults in the first place.
I keep reading all these posts of how everyone here hates their meds. Heck, I am grateful for mine. I've slept so much in my depressive states that I shouldn't have to sleep any for the next 8 years. And when I was awake....no one could stand to be near me. I will do anything to get better. After 15 years of switching/canceling doctors, I am ready to be normal. And I haven't felt this normal before.
Sorry about the babble.
Posted by KimberlyDi on November 24, 2003, at 8:25:00
In reply to help me cope (long), posted by pekostar on November 22, 2003, at 12:37:36
Get a therapist to help you sort through one problem, one issue, at a time. Even if you left this husband, with your childhood, you would probably repeat the experience with the next relationship. It's going to be ok. The right anti-depressant will do wonders in assisting you through this rough time.
Best wishes!
KDi in TX> I have honestly come to the end of my rope. I do not know what to do anymore. My husband is so suspicious and jealous. He is truley tearing us apart, tearing me apart. My entire life I dealt with a abusive father, an alchololic mother and for so many Years I thought I had come out such a strong person considering the circumstances. my dr. decided that I have chronic post traumatic stress syndrome. I agree. But right now all I want to do is go to BED!!!! sleep the day away. The medications wont work if the situations dont change....SO HOW DO I MAKE THEM CHANGE? I have always been such a loner....and right now all I want is to run far far away. I feel perfectly crazy.
Posted by KimberlyDi on November 24, 2003, at 8:32:59
In reply to Re: help me cope (long), posted by pekostar on November 23, 2003, at 12:46:22
No apologies necessary. Life will change, no doubt about that. If you are stronger, you will have more influence on how it changes (for better or for worse). And hubby's... my my. They can surprise you. My husband, after months/years of avoiding marriage counseling, actually lined the sessions up to save our marriage.
At times, you can feel like a leaf being blown around by the wind, with no control over your fate. You need individual therapy to help you get your feet back underneath yourself, to be balanced.
You can do it. :)
KDi in TX> We talked (loudly) and he "says" he will go to my Doctors appointment with me. Things can get so confusing when your not sure whether your dealing with my own coping issues....or If it is his issues making mine worse!!
> Sometimes I wonder If I will ever be truely "better".
> I won't give up, But sometimes I feel Like sending my parents the bill. I wouldn't be so screwed up if they had acted like responsible adults in the first place.
> I keep reading all these posts of how everyone here hates their meds. Heck, I am grateful for mine. I've slept so much in my depressive states that I shouldn't have to sleep any for the next 8 years. And when I was awake....no one could stand to be near me. I will do anything to get better. After 15 years of switching/canceling doctors, I am ready to be normal. And I haven't felt this normal before.
> Sorry about the babble.
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