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Posted by LiLi80 on March 5, 2002, at 21:14:03
He wants me to take a month off of school to go to DBT. I cant do this. But refusing treatment is like admitting you dont want to get better. My insurance sucks and wont pay for anyway else. My pdoc wants me to go to a specific program, and no othe program will take me in my state. I cant take a month off. I am senior in college. struggling to just graduate in May. and i cant ask my school to let me either. I am sueing my school for discrimation. My pdoc says all he needs is to write a note to them. I said yeah right and he said the MD after his name will be enough. I think he is crazy to think that my school wont try to screw me over. I am sueing them! he doesnt get this. They will expel for this. I cant take a month off, but i want to do DBT. My insurance is gone once I graduate too. I have to be better by May, otherwise no meds no therapist no nothing. I dont know what to do. HE makes me feel like i have no choice in this, like i should be ashamed to say no and refuse treatment. I hate this
Posted by sid on March 5, 2002, at 23:31:36
In reply to My pdoc is NUTS!, posted by LiLi80 on March 5, 2002, at 21:14:03
I hate to say this, but you need to look at your options carefully. Perhaps his suggestion is the best that could happen to you, perhaps not.
I know I continued going to school with depression and I wish I had taken a break to help myself get better faster. I tried to do it all at once and ended up messing my life up for a longer period of time. I now realize that my health is more important than any degree, and that once I got my health back, going back to school would have been much easier.
Can you talk about this to someone else than your pdoc? A friend? A family member? A counsellor or therapist?
Good luck with this... things will improve with time.
- sid
Posted by trouble on March 6, 2002, at 7:08:57
In reply to My pdoc is NUTS!, posted by LiLi80 on March 5, 2002, at 21:14:03
I second everything Sid had to say, I wish he would have been my advisor when I was in college.
Your doctor says he can keep your school from expelling you. I would present his signature to the school authorities to get their official reaction. If they ok it, then turn out to in fact "screw you over", that's just more grist for the ongoing law suit.
>>I want to do DBT.
But you only have til May to get this for free, and if you're assured that you're not going to get expelled from school, is that a green light then?
BTW The DBT I went to lasted SIX months, so it sounds like you'll get a lot of intensive education during the month you'relearning it. The whole thing sounds like a great adventure to me, to drop your academic studies for a while, go away for a month, and learn about the way your mind is put together could be an interesting proposition. You can always catch up on the mainstream academics but the DBT opportunity may not come around again, and who knows it might prove more useful right now, might even enhance the future academics you take on.
Of course, the choice is yours, but it's significant that your pdoc is coming on strong and making you feel guilty about your possible refusal. This could be nothing more than wounded paternalism on his part and thus easily dismissable, or he could be distraught that you won't let him take care of you. If you find yourself fixating on the dynamic btwn the two of you the only way out is to ask him what's going on.
It's a lot. These are complex decisions to sort out, and you're on a deadline to boot, so try to go easy on yourself, BREATHE, remember nothing is irreversible and you are not alone.
trouble
Posted by LiLi80 on March 6, 2002, at 7:35:28
In reply to Re: My pdoc is NUTS!, posted by trouble on March 6, 2002, at 7:08:57
I know its probably the last opportunity i have for DBT, but its my last semester and I just want to pass. I dont care about grades anymore, i would be happy with all D's. I dont know ... My pdoc says its free but my insurance says I have to pay still. Its all screwed up. I still odnt know what I am going to do. And my school would say it was ok and then take it back. They did that to me on other things. I hate my stupid school, I just want out.(Graduate I mean)
Posted by Bill L on March 6, 2002, at 8:26:29
In reply to Re: My pdoc is NUTS! » trouble, posted by LiLi80 on March 6, 2002, at 7:35:28
Why don't you call Student Affairs to ask about the student health insurance program. Tell them about what your doctor wants you to do and ask if the insurance coverage would be available. When you get the information, give the person your e-mail address and ask them to send you an e-mail confirming that your coverage will remain in effect. That way you can print the response and have it in writing.
I know you just want to graduate but having the insurance coverage can be a really big benefit.
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