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Posted by CarolAnn on June 16, 2000, at 11:48:30
I think I'm becoming agoraphobic(sp?). I've realized lately that I just don't want to leave the house. It's not that I'm afraid of anything 'out there', I just want to stay *home*. The ironic thing is that I always feel better if I go out. Especially, having a toddler to entertain, getting out and about makes the time go faster('til my husband gets home). I keep putting off errands, we're so low on groceries right now, my poor baby has no milk. Luckily, I have to get my Xanax refilled today, which I can do at the grocery store(of course, I'll leave the house for my drugs!)
Well, I don't know what else to say, I just needed to talk to someone. thanx for listening. CarolAnn
Posted by danf on June 16, 2000, at 11:57:05
In reply to on top of everything else...., posted by CarolAnn on June 16, 2000, at 11:48:30
Look at the bright, not the dark. You are not an agro... that would be a tree. It's just the lethargy that comes from time to time.
You are a bright flower & the flowers do better in the sun. Go to the store, Please !
Every bit we fight that dread weight that pulls us down makes us stronger.
Go !
Posted by Greg on June 16, 2000, at 12:09:37
In reply to on top of everything else...., posted by CarolAnn on June 16, 2000, at 11:48:30
CarolAnn,
I don't think that wanting to stay in the house means you have agoraphobia. Now if you were petrified to walk out the door, that might be a different story. I think it's pretty normal for some of us. If I didn't have work and little league keeping me so busy I'd stay home all the time too. It's just such a hassle sometimes to get out and deal with things (that's why I sweet-talk my wife into doing things for me...) Besides, if I remember correctly, having a 2 year old doesn't leave a Mom time for much else anyway.
I hope that you are feeling well and the little one isn't running you too ragged. I think about you both often.
I'm feeling pulled in too many directions these days, but seem to be holding things together...so far. But being a Mom and Wife I'm sure you know that feeling only too well.
Hugs,
Greg> I think I'm becoming agoraphobic(sp?). I've realized lately that I just don't want to leave the house. It's not that I'm afraid of anything 'out there', I just want to stay *home*. The ironic thing is that I always feel better if I go out. Especially, having a toddler to entertain, getting out and about makes the time go faster('til my husband gets home). I keep putting off errands, we're so low on groceries right now, my poor baby has no milk. Luckily, I have to get my Xanax refilled today, which I can do at the grocery store(of course, I'll leave the house for my drugs!)
> Well, I don't know what else to say, I just needed to talk to someone. thanx for listening. CarolAnn
Posted by Shelley on June 16, 2000, at 13:02:52
In reply to Re: on top of everything else.... » CarolAnn, posted by Greg on June 16, 2000, at 12:09:37
Hi CarolAnn-
I can totally empathize with not wanting to go out! I agree with Greg, though- I think it is probably not agoraphobia, but the lethargy and 'avoiding' that comes along with being depressed.
I withdrew so much that I started to have everything delivered! Groceries, you name it. We even have a service in my city that brings videos and a bunch of other stuff (like junk food!) right to your door. It really contributed to my depression by allowing me to hole-up at home, and isolation is one thing that really hurts you in depression.
I really feel for you. I can barely take care of myself when I am depressed... I don't know how you do it, having a toddler. My heart goes out to you. At least the weather is getting nicer and everything is blooming, (well- here in the US), maybe you will enjoy short walks with the kiddo to a nice park or something?
Please try to get out a little bit. Sometimes somthing small happens along the way to make your whole day brighter : )
I know it's hard. But hang in there! Let us know what happens : )
Shelley
Posted by Cam W. on June 16, 2000, at 13:22:02
In reply to on top of everything else...., posted by CarolAnn on June 16, 2000, at 11:48:30
CarolAnn - I think I know how you feel. It is like me and my karate at times. I think, why should I go, I will just hurt the next day. But when I go, the workout leaves me feeling so much more refreshed, mentally. It is that initial push that I need help with. Somehow our minds say that this (eg going out) will not be good, that we don't want to deal with the unknowns out there in public. The unknowns usually remain as such (as experience tells us), but it is enough to trap us at home.If you need a mental push, just call on us. We can try to get you out of the door. I just usually try to ignore everyone (the public) when I feel like this and have to go out, but this is easier for a guy to do, because we are usually in a fog when we go out in public, anyway.
Maybe try to make a point of going out everyday, for a while, even if it is to just walk around the block or to the park with your child. The fresh air (as long as the wind is blowing and there is no smoke in the air) will do you a world of good.
On the sidelines cheering for you - Cam
Posted by tina on June 16, 2000, at 15:33:41
In reply to Re: on top of everything else...., posted by Cam W. on June 16, 2000, at 13:22:02
> I don't think you are agorophobic. I think you are just craving "down-time" Give it to yourself. You've earned it. Now if you are still in your house next year at this time, i'd worry. Take care, love ya--Tina
> CarolAnn - I think I know how you feel. It is like me and my karate at times. I think, why should I go, I will just hurt the next day. But when I go, the workout leaves me feeling so much more refreshed, mentally. It is that initial push that I need help with. Somehow our minds say that this (eg going out) will not be good, that we don't want to deal with the unknowns out there in public. The unknowns usually remain as such (as experience tells us), but it is enough to trap us at home.
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> If you need a mental push, just call on us. We can try to get you out of the door. I just usually try to ignore everyone (the public) when I feel like this and have to go out, but this is easier for a guy to do, because we are usually in a fog when we go out in public, anyway.
>
> Maybe try to make a point of going out everyday, for a while, even if it is to just walk around the block or to the park with your child. The fresh air (as long as the wind is blowing and there is no smoke in the air) will do you a world of good.
>
> On the sidelines cheering for you - Cam
Posted by Kerry on June 16, 2000, at 20:56:43
In reply to on top of everything else...., posted by CarolAnn on June 16, 2000, at 11:48:30
CarolAnn: Funny, the other day I was thinking the same thing about myself...did a little research on the internet and as mentioned above, I don't think I have it because I'm not terrified or petrified of leaving the house--I just don't want to. I keep putting off the grocery store, too--which gives me "permission" to eat crappily since there's nothing healthy around, which I know isn't great for my depression. My pdoc thinks I suffer from some social anxiety--I get real nervous/anxious in th grocery store and worry that people are looking at me funny like "why is SHE here? Don't share this air with me!" Often I won't leave because there's nothing clean to wear or I'm struck with the (frequent) every-piece-of- clothing-I-own-is-ugly syndrome. The bombardment of negative thoughts continues. Keep trying to get out, even if it's just to breathe a bit (especially since you have a toddler). Sorry if that sounds like stupid advice. I'm not too good at that, but I can empathize with you if that helps! -Kerry
Posted by CarolAnn on June 18, 2000, at 17:32:29
In reply to Re: on top of everything else...., posted by Kerry on June 16, 2000, at 20:56:43
I'm sorry it took so long to reply to your posts, but we had to go out of town for the weekend and just got home.
Thank you all so much for the much needed support, and the oh so gentle(truly) 'kicks in the butt'! The fact is, I know that what I really need is to get some regular exercise, BLEAH! Every night I say, tomorrow I'll start, and every next night, I say oh well guess I'll start tomorrow!
BTW, I did end up going to the store that day, maybe having you guys to gripe to, helped!
Peace and hope to you all! CarolAnn
Posted by NikkiT on June 19, 2000, at 11:07:52
In reply to on top of everything else...., posted by CarolAnn on June 16, 2000, at 11:48:30
carolAnn...
I get like this quite alot now too.... And Tesco (a major grocery store int he UK) simply deliver all my goods to my front door now!! Including my ciggies, and wine etc! WOnderful service!!
I hate leavingt he house - but when I gotta go to work, i gotta go, so I am forced out.
Good luck ((hugs))
Posted by danf on June 20, 2000, at 16:07:24
In reply to Re: on top of everything else...., posted by NikkiT on June 19, 2000, at 11:07:52
It is a crutch !!!!!!!!
We need to get out in the world & live, not stay in a bottle. That is for Genies & how many do you know ?
The dark home alone, we must fight. I robs our soul.
Every step outside gives us energy to fight the dark.
If we don't we will fade away.
GO !!!!!
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