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Posted by phantomrusher on January 27, 2011, at 21:18:43
So to make a long story short my wife cheated on me(only a kiss so she says) and i forgave her. then two weeks later i get suspicious and check her phone and find sext messeages from the same guy. so i forgave her again(maybe i shouldnt have). Now she is still talking to this guy because he is a "friend" even though she knows i really dont like it. Im not sure what to do she says shes still loves me but is not in love with me which i dont completly get. a little background... we have almost been married five years and have a 9 month old daughter. we have been together since highschool and havent had anything like this happend before. i dont know if im just being paranoid or what but it just hurts all the time and i dont feel like i can trust her. i happend upon this sight and hope i can get some non biased opinions. thankyou for any help
Posted by sassyfrancesca on January 28, 2011, at 14:52:08
In reply to losing my wife slowly, posted by phantomrusher on January 27, 2011, at 21:18:43
Hopefully, she will agree to counseling.
Sincerely, Sassy
Posted by johnj1 on January 30, 2011, at 8:39:46
In reply to losing my wife slowly, posted by phantomrusher on January 27, 2011, at 21:18:43
If she doesn't agree to couseling and doesn't agree to never talk to this guy again you don't have much hope. Personally I wouldn't waste my time with her if those 2 conditions are not met. There are PLENTY of women that would like a good guy.
Posted by floatingbridge on February 14, 2011, at 11:16:08
In reply to losing my wife slowly, posted by phantomrusher on January 27, 2011, at 21:18:43
Phantomrusher,
Are you both young? I ask because if you two have known each other since high-school, maybe she is just (I don't mean 'just' to diminish) looking for some space. Add to that becoming a mom. Maybe she truly is confused, acting out.
Does she work with this guy?
Sassy suggested counseling. If she doesn't agree to go, you could go to family counseling on your own. In case that sounds absurd, think of it as every person in a family is responsible for their own feelings and actions. And now you have a little child to raise.
I hope this is a passing event. Best of luck to you.
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Posted by lifeiswhat on April 3, 2011, at 3:37:27
In reply to losing my wife slowly, posted by phantomrusher on January 27, 2011, at 21:18:43
Ok I really want to the best for you I hope it works out.. Now let me start with the "kiss" I know you were very hurt but you love her so you forgave her. Now the "sexting" Ok she is not sorry at this point she did not regard your feelings and cr*pp*d on your forgiveness! So then we move on to "she is still talking to him because they are friends"! wow! uuumm No if she respected you at all she would stop talking to him. When a women has a sexual attraction to a man "Most of the time" it does not just turn back into a 'friendship'.. Now when she said she loves you but is not IN love with you.. "Iv said this before" it means she loves you as a person but not as a partner. She does not want to be with you as a lover any more! I would say leave.. Just to give her some space see how things go. You know the saying if its meant to be she will come back to you. Good luck!
Posted by lifeiswhat on April 3, 2011, at 3:52:31
In reply to losing my wife slowly, posted by phantomrusher on January 27, 2011, at 21:18:43
Ok I really want to the best for you I hope it works out.. Now let me start with the "kiss" I know you were very hurt but you love her so you forgave her. Now the "sexting" Ok she is not sorry at this point she did not regard your feelings and cr*pp*d on your forgiveness! So then we move on to "she is still talking to him because they are friends"! wow! uuumm No if she respected you at all she would stop talking to him. When a women has a sexual attraction to a man "Most of the time" it does not just turn back into a 'friendship'.. Now when she said she loves you but is not IN love with you.. "Iv said this before" it means she loves you as a person but not as a partner. She does not want to be with you as a lover any more! I would say leave.. Just to give her some space see how things go. You know the saying if its meant to be she will come back to you. Good luck!
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