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Posted by Jay_Bravest_Face on May 22, 2010, at 1:09:03
Wow, it's been a "few days" since I last visited. Sorry folks...just experiencing too much of "life" to get on with "living".
Top Headlines:
*Jay gets new wheels: buys a brand new Mazda M6..tires inflated with nitrogen (oooowwwwoooaahhhh..) Price: a few $$$$$$$$ too much *$#@
*Jay almost loses his job because he fails a basic safety training course. (Not my fu*kin' fault...as*shole who was teaching it was a little teen-aged baby..) I re-take the training again next week, and I HAVE to pass....urrggggggg
So, as always, the topic of "Women" is on the table. I should start my own business.."How to wreck a romance in two weeks or less (and let the 'other' use the fact that you say that (previous), against you!)". Now, I have been going through women...errr...dates, like...well, like quite a bit. Hmmph. And I am the one who is supposed to have a mental disorder? Well...here goes: One of my dates flipped out on me and told me to get lost because I called her back 5 days after our second date. No, it wasn't because it was too late...but because I must be some kind of weirdo, who stalks women and is very controlling. And, all of this was even just barely after I said "hello...". And, I even let her know that I had got us (sold out) tickets for a concert in July that she had *really* wanted to go to. After I mentioned that, she just told be I could not "count on ever seeing her again" and *boom*..she was gone! Okay, I will leave commentary until the end...that was JUST too creepy!Okay, I meet this other woman, and we had met off of an online dating service. We had been talking for many, many months, and only live about 5 minutes from each other. Anyhow, she was/is a teacher, and seemed to like to rule her life as if everybody around her where students. First date: nice bottle of red wine in a Mexican bistro...excellent! Second date: dinner at a very nice seafood and steakhouse place...errr...good, but she brings something up (no, I don't mean, like, throw up..lol) that really throws me for a 180 degree loop. She says to me "I saw my ex fiancé the other day, on (the dating website we met on)"..and she goes on.."You know how easy it would be for me to get him back, marry him, and have kids....he would be such an excellent father..". So, if that doesn't kill the mood???!!! Then, that night, when I drop her off at home, she grabs me and starts making out with me. I admit, I am kinda infatuated with this woman. She is my usual craving: She looks like the actress Helen Hunt a bit: Blonde hair (blonde's drive me crazy!!), natural shape, smart, yummy yummy...etc. :P But, Holy Sheep Dip, I guess red wine makes some women very...ummm..turned on, as well. (Yes, and my "George Clooney" looks just drive 'em crazy!)Dreaming again...sorry..lol.
So if you are still actually reading this...congradulations!..haha. But, third date, well it was a nice Sunday morning brunch in a quaint and beautiful little town along the Border. And guess what is one of the first thing she says? "I saw (ex-fiancé) online yesterday, and I was really tempted." I am just like, okay, I will be nice and just stay quiet and calm. Also, mind you, by this time, we had both communicated to each other that we where only interested in something long-term, committed, and hopefully leading to marriage and kids. This is about 3 weeks now, and we agree that we are going out "mutually exclusively". But, I still have those "ex" comments stuck in the back of my mind..lol...and..:(. Sweet AND Sour...
So, I drop her off, we have a very nice little kissing "session"..lol, and I feel a bit better.Well, that night I was checking my email, and I had noticed she had mostly never gotten back to my emails from the past. (Must be about 10 or so now..) So, I sent her a very nice letter, asking her in a very kind and diplomatic voice, that whenever she gets a chance to, could she possibly get back to one of my emails. I told her I understood some people didn't like using email, and I could certainly take the time and wait, no problem. So, I get a call from her the next day..."Hi Jay...I think we are going to have to cancel our date on Friday." "Why?" I ask. She says "Well, I thought you where being very demanding and selfish in that email you sent to me. I need my room to do as I wish." I said.."The only reason I brought it up is because writing in a physical, printed form sometimes helps me communicate better." She didn't buy it...that was a deal-breaker...and bye-bye!
Oh, there are a number of other stories to tell in between as well. So many woman...lol. Ohhhh..I forgot to tell you about this stripper who ripped me off for a 100 bucks. Next week....Thank you...and my tears are slowing down a bit...goodnight...
Jay
Posted by manic666 on May 22, 2010, at 13:37:47
In reply to Women, Work, Money, help pRetty please!!! :(, posted by Jay_Bravest_Face on May 22, 2010, at 1:09:03
jay my buddy//you sure can pick um, i like you you make me laugh//you give life a shot thats cool///do you actually have sex with these women you never get to that bit /// keep it out there buddy
Posted by violette on May 22, 2010, at 18:00:43
In reply to Women, Work, Money, help pRetty please!!! :(, posted by Jay_Bravest_Face on May 22, 2010, at 1:09:03
Youve stated several things here.
- You are having trouble controlling impulses (buying an extravagant car)
- You risked losing your job when you failed a course but it wasnt your fault; the instructor was ________.
- Your dates are rejecting you but that isnt your fault either-the women are ________.About the romantic interests:
-You called a woman 5 days after a date, which led her to reject you, thinking of you as the controlling type who stalks women. Sounds like she has intimacy issues.
-The teacher you became involved with a woman who has hinted a strong potential to become unavailable to you several times in her references to her ex. You are infatuated with her. When you tried to get closer, expressing your thoughts on her not returning your emails, she rejects you. Sounds like she has intimacy issues.
-The stripper ripped you off for $100. Again, a woman who might be unavailable, perhaps indirectly as many men would also be competing for her.Do you see happen to see a pattern here in the women with whom you are romantically interested in?
Posted by manic666 on May 23, 2010, at 3:34:58
In reply to Re: Women, Work, Money, help pRetty please!!! :(, posted by violette on May 22, 2010, at 18:00:43
jay is his own man ///if he wernt he would go down//he is well off the wall but aloveable an get on the way he feels cool//he would be the first to say his track record with women needs a bit of inprovment//but he keeps trying
Posted by Phillipa on May 23, 2010, at 12:25:18
In reply to Re: Women, Work, Money, help pRetty please!!! :(, posted by manic666 on May 23, 2010, at 3:34:58
Jay I've seen a 180 degree change in your personality. It seems like its unavailable women to be just a thought. Phillipa
Posted by Jay_Bravest_Face on May 23, 2010, at 16:01:22
In reply to Re: Women, Work, Money, help pRetty please!!! :(, posted by manic666 on May 23, 2010, at 3:34:58
> jay is his own man ///if he wernt he would go down//he is well off the wall but aloveable an get on the way he feels cool//he would be the first to say his track record with women needs a bit of inprovment//but he keeps trying
Hey, thanks very much manic :) It's like that "Tubthumping" song.."I get knocked down...but I get back up.."...pissing the night away..lol. I really get a hearty smile from your observations of my fumblings. It's like a no-frills Monty Python..hahaa. Thanks bud...Jay
Posted by Jay_Bravest_Face on May 23, 2010, at 16:10:39
In reply to Re: Women, Work, Money, help pRetty please!!! :(, posted by Phillipa on May 23, 2010, at 12:25:18
Thanks Phillipa. It may be because I call "a spade...a spade!". I call it all like it is, in particular when it gets to the uncomfy zone. If somebody is being rude, I will say "Umm..hey, I am a bit uncomfortable with that.." And then they will blow up in my face. hahaa. I think, though, it's that I go after women who are hard-to-get. Maybe at 40, it is a little silly to act like this, but mind you, I have had some very amazing, committed, long-term relationships. It is quality, not quantity, I guess...lol. Thanks..
Jay :)
Posted by Jay_Bravest_Face on May 23, 2010, at 16:23:21
In reply to Re: Women, Work, Money, help pRetty please!!! :(, posted by violette on May 22, 2010, at 18:00:43
Hey, thanks for your reply. :) Yes, there is an unhealthy pattern, and some 'toxic' stuff in there. But, quite often the 'bad' stuff doesn't reveal itself until down the road a bit. I used to be in such bad shape psychologically and mentally, that I hardly ever met women offline for dates. Now, it is like second nature. I know there is one little area that I *really* have to work on. I can sabotage a potential romantic relationship before it really begins because I don't want to be the one to get hurt. If I get even the *smallest* BAD VIBE off of them, I will attack and destroy...heh. Don't get me wrong, I am never violent physically, and at the most say a couple of bad words.
So, anyways...thanks for your comments. :)
Jay
Posted by Jay_Bravest_Face on May 23, 2010, at 21:53:58
In reply to Re: Women, Work, Money, help pRetty please!!! :(, posted by manic666 on May 23, 2010, at 3:34:58
I am sure you'd be happy to hear I got laid a number of times there bro. But I figured it out...for the high prices I paid for dinners and wine and such, I mind as well have called some upscale Escort agency..lol. At least they will put out the kind of sex I want...hahaa. And no, it is not just that I want all rough and such, but when woman lay there like a corpse...hmmmm. Well, that is, until I go **** ** ****...ahmmmm..(edited for adult content..lol..)
Jay
Posted by manic666 on May 24, 2010, at 2:38:27
In reply to Re: Women...And Yes..Manic..I did... » manic666, posted by Jay_Bravest_Face on May 23, 2010, at 21:53:58
jay you seem happy //thats all i care about /// whatch out for the ladyboys an keep in the pink ?????????????????? if you get my drift
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