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Posted by Dinah on December 8, 2008, at 13:44:24
I've been trying to convey what I need from my employers for a long time. I tried Friday and got a very negative response which made me too agitated to settle down for a good while.
I tried today, well at any rate, I tried something. And I sort of got what I wanted. That is, I've been trying to express my difficulty in balancing the demands of multiple bosses, and wanted to have someone help me prioritize, filter, etc. I'd gone through the boss I wanted to do it, the one I wouldn't mind having done it, and I didn't bother asking the one who was too busy to do it. So I finally, with nowhere left to turn, approached the boss who no one in their right mind would want to do it, and he was happy to oblige. It says a lot about how badly I think I need this that I would be willing to put myself under the direct control of someone who can be... difficult to please.
He usually is very nice to me, though. It might possibly end up ok. I think he mostly respects me. And he knows I get upset easily and have the tendency to cry. So he is generally nice with me.
Anyway, I took some Risperdal and will hopefully calm down my skitterish nerves enough to focus very soon.
Posted by Dinah on December 8, 2008, at 14:37:18
In reply to Work :(, posted by Dinah on December 8, 2008, at 13:44:24
Maybe I'm being over negative.
I do hear him yell a whole lot.
But... Of all of them, he was the nicest and most compassionate to Daddy and me when Daddy was dying.
And... I suppose sometimes I yell back.
Posted by Phillipa on December 8, 2008, at 20:47:18
In reply to Re: Work :(, posted by Dinah on December 8, 2008, at 14:37:18
Dinah sounds like it might be a good fit. And you have history with this man. Hope it works out. Love Phillipa
Posted by Tabitha on December 9, 2008, at 2:04:57
In reply to Re: Work :(, posted by Dinah on December 8, 2008, at 14:37:18
Well if he's the only one willing to do it, it's kind of like fate or something. Good for you for finding a possible solution and taking a risk with this person. I hope it works out better than you suspect.
Posted by Midnightblue on December 9, 2008, at 13:05:27
In reply to Re: Work :(, posted by Dinah on December 8, 2008, at 14:37:18
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> But... Of all of them, he was the nicest and most compassionate to Daddy and me when Daddy was dying.
>
Dinah,That is HUGE. Maybe he really is a good guy.
MB
Posted by Kath on December 10, 2008, at 21:08:51
In reply to Re: Work :(, posted by Dinah on December 8, 2008, at 14:37:18
Maybe he WILL turn out to be the best choice after all.
Good for you for being an advocate for your needs Dinah. You're a good example.
I cross my fingers that things work out well. I know this has been an ongoing struggle.
luv, Kath
Posted by Dinah on December 11, 2008, at 0:45:02
In reply to Re: Work :( » Dinah, posted by Kath on December 10, 2008, at 21:08:51
My therapist thinks I did a very stupid thing. He said "You did WHAT?!!!"
Ah well. The likelihood is that he'll forget he ever agreed to do it.
I think I'm burned out. But my job pays for my therapy, so I need to try to keep it.
Posted by Tabitha on December 11, 2008, at 2:53:37
In reply to Re: Work :(, posted by Dinah on December 11, 2008, at 0:45:02
I'm not getting it-- he thinks it's stupid because?
Posted by Dinah on December 11, 2008, at 6:39:19
In reply to Re: Work :( » Dinah, posted by Tabitha on December 11, 2008, at 2:53:37
Because he's seen me upset too many times before. He's difficult and often angry. He doesn't yell at me. But he does get angry, and sometimes pressures me to try to motivate me. Which doesn't work very well since I'm more flight than fight.
However, my nerves are all ajangle right now from anxiety. So maybe I ought to put it aside for a while until my deadline has passed. My perceptions about my job might well be askew at the moment.
Posted by Kath on December 11, 2008, at 15:30:10
In reply to Re: Work :( » Tabitha, posted by Dinah on December 11, 2008, at 6:39:19
Wish they could be in person Dinah.
I don't think I could handle having a therapist get angry with me!!! Yikes.
I send my love & support, Kath
Posted by Dinah on December 11, 2008, at 16:49:10
In reply to ((((((((((you))))))))) » Dinah, posted by Kath on December 11, 2008, at 15:30:10
Oh, not my therapist. Well maybe once or twice but not in a bad way.
My boss.
Too many "he"s. :)
Posted by Kath on December 11, 2008, at 17:37:40
In reply to Re: ((((((((((you))))))))) » Kath, posted by Dinah on December 11, 2008, at 16:49:10
OHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH.
Good. Well hopefully the boss will show his nice side more than his angry side.
luv, Kath
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