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Posted by seldomseen on January 30, 2008, at 12:34:03
Over work stress. I have a huge deadline in 12 days and just hit a major major major snag (never, ever, rely on anyone else to do something, ever, ever, ever)
Fortunately, I have not yelled at anyone, done anything overtly destructive to myself or property. In fact, I have handled it with a lot of professionalism.Signs of stress are beginning to show through, however.
There is a significant amount of pacing and hyperventilating involved. Sensitivity to sound and light. Coupled with a headache, stomach ache and nausea.
To counter, lots of water drinking and positive direction of the stress.
I just needed to let someone know that I was at sub-threshold losing it.
Seldom.
Posted by Daisym on January 30, 2008, at 13:32:52
In reply to total utter freakout., posted by seldomseen on January 30, 2008, at 12:34:03
I'm in the same place only there isn't much I can do about the potential blow up. I tried to talk about it in therapy but it made me crazy since he wanted to try to problem solve and I wanted to scream "do you think *I* haven't thought of all that!!!?"
Try to keep breathing. Pay attention to your neck and clenched hands. I tend to pound my keyboard hard when I'm like this. And stay warm. I've found that shivering makes me even more tense.
I'll send lots of energy and psychic-tape your way to help hold it all together.
Posted by Dinah on January 30, 2008, at 17:56:25
In reply to total utter freakout., posted by seldomseen on January 30, 2008, at 12:34:03
Congratulations on handling it well. And I understand that it's only partial comfort when you're feeling so badly stressed.
Deep breaths, focus, and break everything down into small manageable chunks. (And I agree completely about reliance. I am lousy at delegating because of that.)
Posted by Dinah on January 30, 2008, at 18:00:40
In reply to Re: total utter freakout., posted by Daisym on January 30, 2008, at 13:32:52
> I'm in the same place only there isn't much I can do about the potential blow up. I tried to talk about it in therapy but it made me crazy since he wanted to try to problem solve and I wanted to scream "do you think *I* haven't thought of all that!!!?"
An endless source of dispute between my therapist and me. It's very seldom he actually says anything that hasn't occurred to me, and it just isn't at all helpful. I don't scream, but I generally cry and get silently angry, and he's gotten good at backing off.
I'm sorry about your stress too. I hope the blowup is smaller than you fear. Find a nice desk to hide under when it happens. (I dream of having a desk like George Costanza.)
I keep my Risperdal bottle in my pocket when I go to the office. My purse just doesn't seem close enough. :(
Posted by Daisym on January 30, 2008, at 19:37:12
In reply to Re: total utter freakout. » Daisym, posted by Dinah on January 30, 2008, at 18:00:40
He actually self-corrected on this one. At my next session he said, "it seems that you are pretty good at problem solving and perhaps, here with me, you just need to be able to kevetch about things."
When I was shopping I found a bottle of Kevetch-pills. I bought them for him and he said, "you need these! No wait - they are to stop you from kevetching - I'm keeping these from you!"
:)
Posted by Kath on January 30, 2008, at 20:55:44
In reply to total utter freakout., posted by seldomseen on January 30, 2008, at 12:34:03
You sound pretty 'together' for being so stressed out. Congratulations.
I hope things turn out okay & sorry you're having to go throught this.
luv, Kath
Posted by Phillipa on January 31, 2008, at 0:05:50
In reply to Re: total utter freakout. » seldomseen, posted by Kath on January 30, 2008, at 20:55:44
Sometimes I'm glad I don't formerly work anymore. I'm so sorry. Phillipa
Posted by karen_kay on January 31, 2008, at 7:41:55
In reply to total utter freakout., posted by seldomseen on January 30, 2008, at 12:34:03
first of all, i always agree with you on never counting on someone else to get somethign done! i do't know how many times i've been burned on that one!!
i'm glad to hear (read, whatever) that you handled it well. huge deadlines stink like rotten bananas (ever had one? a rotten banana stinks!!). but, it sounds like you're in control of the situation and handling it well!
good job and good luck on your deadline! we're proud of you for not losing 'it' and ending up walking the streets naked shrieking!
take care of yourself dear, and if you need support (other than a bra) you know where to find it!
kk
Posted by seldomseen on January 31, 2008, at 10:45:50
In reply to total utter freakout., posted by seldomseen on January 30, 2008, at 12:34:03
Thanks for all of your support and advice. This just sucks is all. I am really tired, and the "trauma" hits first thing in the morning you know?
I wish I could get away from it just for a minute or two.
Not even my kittens help that much - and they are the univeral palliative.It's just going to be a tough haul through to the end.
I'm going to need you.
Seldom
Posted by LlurpsieNoodle on January 31, 2008, at 18:05:46
In reply to Thanks to all - update, posted by seldomseen on January 31, 2008, at 10:45:50
You are doing all the right things. Delegate the supporting to others. Let us sit with you through these next few days. let T and/or pdoc help you through this. Let the kittens be kittens
ll
Posted by Kath on February 1, 2008, at 17:12:48
In reply to Thanks to all - update, posted by seldomseen on January 31, 2008, at 10:45:50
Well you know we're here & please just keep on posting okay?
Kittens are wonderful. I do so wish I'd had my wonderful 'Ginger' (who adopted us; landed on our doorstep) when he was a little ball of fluffy soft orange.
luv, Kath
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