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Posted by Kath on November 13, 2007, at 10:41:04
Just want you to know you're in my thoughts.
luv, Kath
Posted by TexasChic on November 13, 2007, at 19:24:30
In reply to Zenny - I'm thinking of you; how are ya hun?, posted by Kath on November 13, 2007, at 10:41:04
Posted by zenhussy on December 4, 2007, at 18:30:35
In reply to Zenny - I'm thinking of you; how are ya hun?, posted by Kath on November 13, 2007, at 10:41:04
lots of pain, tears, laughter, more tears, more pain, laughter, numbness, fatigue
that about sums it up for now. not an easy time of year to face loss. never is easy but especially not when it is a usual gathering time for the far flung families in different countries.
gonna have to find that stocking post of old to use this holiday season to serve as reminder of the kind and good in this world and the love. always remember the love.
festival of lights starts tonight....trying to remember the miracle of light and the love that light brings. sigh. cry. = (
Posted by Kath on December 10, 2007, at 20:13:24
In reply to thanks for askin' Kath and TexasChic..., posted by zenhussy on December 4, 2007, at 18:30:35
>>
> gonna have to find that stocking post of old to use this holiday season to serve as reminder of the kind and good in this world and the love. always remember the love.
>
> festival of lights starts tonight....trying to remember the miracle of light and the love that light brings. sigh. cry. = (
What stocking post?This is a VERY hard time of year to lose a loved one. Years ago my Dad died on Dec 3rd. I remember being in such a daze.
My thoughts are with you & I send my love.
It sounds like you're gently accepting your grieving as it's evolving & accepting yourself exactly 'where you are'. I am glad about that. It's really important to be SO gentle & accepting of ourselves at a time like this.
I remember years ago having a miscarriage - a very early one, but I was devastated. My then-husband, after a few weeks sort of said, "So how long are you going to go on like this?" - Sort of 'when are you going to snap out of this?
I am still pleased to remember 'snapping out of' my normal mousey way of 'being' & saying that I'd take precisely however long I needed to grieve in whatever dammed way I happened to do it!!!Anyhow TC - you're all in my thoughts & I send love your way.
luv, Kath
Posted by zenhussy on December 11, 2007, at 15:53:55
In reply to Re: thanks for askin' Kath and TexasChic... » zenhussy, posted by Kath on December 10, 2007, at 20:13:24
>>>What stocking post?<<<
this one: http://preview.tinyurl.com/yrfj69
was feeling oh so woe back then. was on lamotrigine and made us dumber than a bag of doorknobs. was in poor health and it was first holiday after several years of relationship.
looking back now can see how fortunate we were and still are even w/ this year being the first w/o ma. much improvement in areas of meds and therapy since '03. lots of hard work, many long painful to endure med trials and adjustments. years of chipping away at the layers in therapy and sticking w/ it even when most wanting to run.
>>>It sounds like you're gently accepting your grieving as it's evolving & accepting yourself exactly 'where you are'. I am glad about that. It's really important to be SO gentle & accepting of ourselves at a time like this.<<<it is a struggle but one that is quite obvious in its overwhelm. disease and disorder have taught us to choose battles over the years and this is one we know we'll not win. there is no fight here rather the challenge to release and allow...accept. so much more easily written than practiced.
>>>I remember years ago having a miscarriage - a very early one, but I was devastated. My then-husband, after a few weeks sort of said, "So how long are you going to go on like this?" - Sort of 'when are you going to snap out of this?
I am still pleased to remember 'snapping out of' my normal mousey way of 'being' & saying that I'd take precisely however long I needed to grieve in whatever dammed way I happened to do it!!!<<<so sorry for your loss but hot damn what a great response you gave!
trying hard not to place timeframe on grief. such a strangely different place than in the grips of depression and distorted thoughts from depression. grief is its own weirdness.
Posted by ClearSkies on December 11, 2007, at 20:44:07
In reply to what stocking post? this stocking post from '03 » Kath, posted by zenhussy on December 11, 2007, at 15:53:55
Thanks for linking to such a beautiful thread :-)
Don't think I knew you then. Or if I did, shame on me.
CS
Posted by littleone on December 12, 2007, at 0:14:16
In reply to what stocking post? this stocking post from '03 » Kath, posted by zenhussy on December 11, 2007, at 15:53:55
> it is a struggle but one that is quite obvious in its overwhelm. disease and disorder have taught us to choose battles over the years and this is one we know we'll not win. there is no fight here rather the challenge to release and allow...accept. so much more easily written than practiced.
This sounds like such a hard lesson learnt and you expressed that so well.
Sitting quietly with you.
Posted by zenhussy on December 25, 2007, at 11:28:01
In reply to Re: what stocking post? this stocking post from » zenhussy, posted by ClearSkies on December 11, 2007, at 20:44:07
Posted by zenhussy on December 25, 2007, at 11:36:18
In reply to Re: what stocking post? this stocking post from '03 » zenhussy, posted by littleone on December 12, 2007, at 0:14:16
>>>zenhussy said---- it is a struggle but one that is quite obvious in its overwhelm. disease and disorder have taught us to choose battles over the years and this is one we know we'll not win. there is no fight here rather the challenge to release and allow...accept. so much more easily written than practiced.<<<
>>lo said--This sounds like such a hard lesson learnt and you expressed that so well.
Sitting quietly with you.<<Thank you littleone. often it is the sitting in silence knowing one is not alone that helps the most. blessings for that kind gesture from you.
and the compliment we've expressed something well? *blush*
that's sweet to this cognitively handcuffed mind. aw shucks.
watched wonderful life the other night thus the sub. line quote. tears us up every time. sentimental schlock to some and seasonal affirmation to others.
our most grateful blessings to the friends here over the years who've kept us alive and going. may we all find our ways day by day and be showered with more joy than darkness, more love than hate, more acceptance than intolerance....yadda yadda peace on earth.
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