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Posted by TexasChic on November 5, 2006, at 19:45:13
I've been setting up my myspace page and through mutual friends I stumbled across cuteboy's page. He's in a freaking relationship damn it! And it obviously serious. He called her his better half and she talked about how she loved him and made cute jokes and stuff. AND she's young and skinny! I can't stop crying. I never would have thought this would upset me this bad this late in the game. I just hate him and all the f*cking people at that last job of mine (I saw posts from some of them too). I can't believe our mutual friend never said anything.
-T
Posted by Phillipa on November 5, 2006, at 19:50:21
In reply to God I hate him!, posted by TexasChic on November 5, 2006, at 19:45:13
T I'm so sorry. Love Phillipa ps you're better than he is anyway.
Posted by TexasChic on November 5, 2006, at 20:16:29
In reply to Re: God I hate him! » TexasChic, posted by Phillipa on November 5, 2006, at 19:50:21
How could I ever have thought he was interested in me?! How could anybody be? I'm just a big fat slob.
Posted by madeline on November 5, 2006, at 20:17:30
In reply to God I hate him!, posted by TexasChic on November 5, 2006, at 19:45:13
There was a guy that I was engaged to, we were a month away from the wedding and I called it off.
It was a very tough time for me.
Well, anyway, I left that town and about a year later was back visiting my parents. On my way out the door to go home, I just happened to pick up their local paper because it had some coupons I wanted.
I got home, browsed through the paper and BLAM there was my ex-fiancee's wedding anouncement.
It hit me like a ton of bricks.
So, to make a long story short, I can certainly sympathize.
PS - I don't know you, but I am sure you are beautiful.
Maddie
Posted by TexasChic on November 5, 2006, at 20:19:40
In reply to Re: God I hate him! » TexasChic, posted by madeline on November 5, 2006, at 20:17:30
Thanks Phillipa and Maddie. I'm just temporarily tripping out and needed to vent it somewhere.
Posted by TexasChic on November 5, 2006, at 20:26:45
In reply to Re: God I hate him!, posted by TexasChic on November 5, 2006, at 20:19:40
Okay, I wrote our mutual friend and asked why he didn't tell me and this is what he wrote:
You know, its really none of my business if he
has a girlfriend or not and neither is it yours. And
when he does have a girlfriend I'm not going to go
around announcing it to every girl that likes him. You
need to stop obsessing over him, he's a good ten years
younger and not interested. Quite frankly I'm tired of
this high school drama you're stuck in.WTF??? He's always been so sweet! I don't know what the f*ck that's all about, but it sure wasn't what I needed right now.
Posted by TexasChic on November 5, 2006, at 21:28:40
In reply to Re: God I hate him!, posted by TexasChic on November 5, 2006, at 20:26:45
Posted by Phillipa on November 5, 2006, at 21:44:12
In reply to Re: God I hate him!, posted by TexasChic on November 5, 2006, at 20:26:45
T some sound advise. My husband is l3 years younger and it didn't matter in the beginning but now I'm aging. I figure when he's ready for retirement I'll be lucky to be alive and he'll have to push me in a wheelchair. So leave the young ones alone. And find someone your own age or a bit younger or older by a few 2-3 years. No more you will be happy for a while and then it will be gone.Love Phillipa
Posted by TexasChic on November 5, 2006, at 22:20:37
In reply to Re: God I hate him! » TexasChic, posted by Phillipa on November 5, 2006, at 21:44:12
I appreciate your advice, but right now its hard to think about it that way. When I'm over being so upset, I will keep it in mind. God, I swear, someytimes the only thing that keeps me on this earth is my nephew.
Posted by rainbutterfly on November 5, 2006, at 22:33:34
In reply to God I hate him!, posted by TexasChic on November 5, 2006, at 19:45:13
He sounds like an absolute *sshole!!!!! I'm so sorry Tex :-(
xo butterfly
Posted by TexasChic on November 5, 2006, at 23:02:30
In reply to Re: God I hate him! » TexasChic, posted by rainbutterfly on November 5, 2006, at 22:33:34
Thank you Rainy. I know at least part of the problem was me getting obsessed with a guy like I sometimes do. But I truly don't thing I was completely mistaken in thinking he might be interested in me. But whatever, its over now. I'm through crying and have reached out to a few friends.
I don't know if this feeling will last, but all I want to do right now is go work out at the fitness center at work until the pain keeps me from thinking of anything else. Then whem I'm all skinny and hot, finding some way to flaunt the hell out of it to all these haters! Like I said, we'll see.
-T
Posted by Damos on November 6, 2006, at 15:19:00
In reply to God I hate him!, posted by TexasChic on November 5, 2006, at 19:45:13
Hi TC,
Now I was sure TC stood for Totally Captivating, cause that's sure how I remember you being on our 'date' ;-) Poor boy, doesn't know what he's missing.
Delightful
Enchanting
Engaging
Facinating
Warm
Funny
Pretty darn gorgeous &
All-round wonderful.Yep that's our TC. Wishing you the love you hope for and deserve. But till then, you can ride in this boy's balloon anytime.
(((((TC)))))
Posted by Gabbi~G on November 6, 2006, at 15:19:26
In reply to Re: God I hate him! » TexasChic, posted by madeline on November 5, 2006, at 20:17:30
I can completely relate to that, it's the most helpless, inner scream that just doesn't seem to go away. It's like no matter where you go there it is.
And for some reason (so many women go through this) you can't stop torturing yourself wanting to find out the details.It is awful, it's just an indescribably awful feeling, but it does fade.
Leaves your apartment one hell of a mess, but it does go away.
Posted by corafree on November 6, 2006, at 15:33:00
In reply to God I hate him!, posted by TexasChic on November 5, 2006, at 19:45:13
I'm so sorry hon'! I'm in a bit similar situation.
cf
Posted by TexasChic on November 6, 2006, at 18:45:11
In reply to Re: God I hate him!, posted by corafree on November 6, 2006, at 15:33:00
Especially you Damos. I couldn't seem to shake off the depression until I read your email. :-)
-T
Posted by TexasChic on November 6, 2006, at 18:48:01
In reply to Re: God I hate him! » madeline, posted by Gabbi~G on November 6, 2006, at 15:19:26
> It is awful, it's just an indescribably awful feeling, but it does fade.
> Leaves your apartment one hell of a mess, but it does go away.I'm holding you to that!
-T
Posted by TexasChic on November 6, 2006, at 21:09:09
In reply to Re: God I hate him! » Gabbi~G, posted by TexasChic on November 6, 2006, at 18:48:01
Here's what I wrote to my guy 'friend' who was so mean:
"I just have a couple of things to say to you, and then you won’t be bothered by me again. First of all, I am quite aware that (cuteboy) is not interested in me. When I sent you that email I was temporarily upset at having seen the guy I liked all happy with his girlfriend. I don’t think this means I am obsessed with him, it was simply a gut reaction. After a short while I was fine. What kept me upset though was your response. You were intentionally hurtful and insulting. This is apparently how you’ve always felt about me but I was simply unaware. That being the case, please do not contact me again."
I still feel disbelief that he said what he did to me. If I could only explain how unlike him it was. That's what made it so shocking and upsetting. And that's why I wrote what I did to him. He obviously isn't the person I though he was. And I don't think he would have said what he did if he had any intention of continuing the relationship. Its just so weird.
I want to move to a cabin deep in the woods and become a hermit. I'd only come out a few times a year for supplies. My only human contact other than those times would be babble. Sometimes that fantasy sounds so good.
-T
Posted by Phillipa on November 6, 2006, at 21:38:49
In reply to My so called friend, posted by TexasChic on November 6, 2006, at 21:09:09
Me too we'll all be in babbleland. Love Phillipa
Posted by TexasChic on November 7, 2006, at 5:40:57
In reply to My so called friend, posted by TexasChic on November 6, 2006, at 21:09:09
About the ex-friend, not cuteboy. Although I think that makes me sad too, the other is what's upmost in my mind. Its just one great big ball of sad inside me. Hopefully I can shake it off. Its just, now I know all that time we were writing back and forth and he was thinking how it was all a bunch of high school drama. It makes me feel stupid. I also can't reconsile what he wrote with the person I knew. I thought the email would make me feel better, and it did some, but I realized I still keep half way hoping to see an email from him every time I check it. Sigh. Hopefully today will be better than yesterday.
-T
Posted by SatinDoll on November 7, 2006, at 6:16:34
In reply to I woke up sad, posted by TexasChic on November 7, 2006, at 5:40:57
(((((texaschic))))) Could it be possible that that email wasn't from him but maybe a girlfriend or wife of his? A lot of couples share email sometimes. What gets me is that you seem to think this is so our of character for him, maybe it wasn't him.
Posted by karen_kay on November 7, 2006, at 7:01:55
In reply to Re: God I hate him! » TexasChic, posted by Phillipa on November 5, 2006, at 21:44:12
13 years? good grief, and i've been accused of a misdemeanor. yours might be a felony in my state! :)
isn't it nice to know that we'll die before they do (and they'll be ruined from women forever!)?
Posted by TexasChic on November 7, 2006, at 11:35:54
In reply to Re: I woke up sad, posted by SatinDoll on November 7, 2006, at 6:16:34
Yes, its him. Other than the subject matter, it sounds like him. And I can now look back and see when he avoided answering questions I asked. Why couldn't he have just said he doesn't feel comfortable talking about it?
I think the reason all this keeps sticking with me is he made it sound like I have been behaving like an inmature little girl (when here I thought I was confiding in him). So its not only the fact that it bothers me to know someone thinks of me that way, but I also have to wonder if its true! I know I am socially behind when it comes to guys and dating. So now I feel like I've made a complete fool out of myself. And I can't help but wonder if he shared any of this with cuteboy. How do I stop these things from going round and round in my head?
-T
Posted by TexasChic on November 7, 2006, at 11:38:15
In reply to Re: I woke up sad » SatinDoll, posted by TexasChic on November 7, 2006, at 11:35:54
Posted by MidnightBlue on November 7, 2006, at 13:52:33
In reply to ^First part for SD, the rest a question for all^ (nm), posted by TexasChic on November 7, 2006, at 11:38:15
Just change. You can do it! You got a great new job and are working out now in the gym. If you can do that you can improve your social/dating life!
Babysteps!
MB
Posted by TexasChic on November 7, 2006, at 14:23:43
In reply to Re: ^First part for SD, the rest a question for all^ » TexasChic, posted by MidnightBlue on November 7, 2006, at 13:52:33
You're right, I know you are. Its just easy to get discouraged.
Its funny, ever since my guy friend wrote that email I've being completely focused being upset with him. It kind of overshadowed the original thing I was upset about. But now my focus has switched back to the upset about seeing cuteboy with his girlfriend. I keep picturing them in my head and I almost start to cry.
I can't even imagine liking anyone else the way I liked him. I know that's a false feeling (at least I hope so), but it still hurts. So I guess the answer is to get out there and meet some guys. Otherwise I'll never find that one that's going to make me say, "Cuteboy who?"
-T
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