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Posted by Kath on June 16, 2006, at 15:56:58
Every June I go camping by myself up North at Killbear Provincial Park for about a week & a half. I leave Monday. WOOHOO. Just hope the mosquitoes aren't too bad! I've had a throat infection, so haven't got everything ready yet, but am not doing too bad.
Finally son & girlfriend's landlord tried to cash the May & June cheques, & they bounced.
Landlord phoned & said they needed to talk & figure things out & that even if they figure things out he still might give them their notice.
Little money; no job; etcetera.BUT the good thing is that I AM FEELING pretty detached!!!!!!!!!! This is nothing short of a miracle!!!!!!!!! I HOPE it lasts!!!!!!!!
My 'self-talk' is - 'well, they brought this on themselves...what can they expect...they'll deal with it'. THIS is VERY different self-talk from what I usually have.I'm wondering if it's partly a result of some 'energy work' I did about my son's situation from age 13 to now, & its emotional impact on me. I wrote a post on Alternative Board June 15 about a treatment or method called TAT.
This method seems to be helping me amazingly.The website is www.tatlife.com
Normally, knowing that I'm going away for almost 2 weeks & then back a few days & then my husband & I gone for a week - normally having this son-thing happen with that schedule would be making a nervous wreck of me. Normally I'd be frantic & my stomach would be feeling sick but NOPE. I'm also feeling 'way more detached about my daughter's serious environmental illness.
I am sooooooooo thankful, but also sort of SCARED that the detachment won't last! Yikes
:-)) Kath
Posted by AuntieMel on June 16, 2006, at 18:50:50
In reply to Going camping Monday/ Son update, posted by Kath on June 16, 2006, at 15:56:58
Good job. You have to treat them like an adult for them to behave like one, I think.
Why grow up if mommy will always bail me out?
Posted by Phillipa on June 16, 2006, at 21:21:52
In reply to Re: Going camping Monday/ Son update » Kath, posted by AuntieMel on June 16, 2006, at 18:50:50
So true the voice of experience talks. Love Phillipa
Posted by Kath on June 16, 2006, at 21:35:52
In reply to Re: Going camping Monday/ Son update, posted by Phillipa on June 16, 2006, at 21:21:52
Yup - & the less I know about details the better. I'm glad I'm going to be away.
:-)) Kath
it does feel weird to NOT be worrying & tying myself in knots but I can get used to it EASILY.
;-)
Posted by Dinah on June 16, 2006, at 21:46:09
In reply to Re: Going camping Monday/ Son update, posted by Kath on June 16, 2006, at 21:35:52
I think that's terrific, Kath.
I wish my parents had gotten there with my brother, and with me too I guess.
In the end it's probably the best thing for the kids as well as the parent.
I hope you have a wonderful rejuvenating camping trip.
Posted by Kath on June 18, 2006, at 9:22:43
In reply to Re: Going camping Monday/ Son update » Kath, posted by Dinah on June 16, 2006, at 21:46:09
Thanks Dinah
I'm hoping this detached feeling will last during whatever upheavals happen if they get 'kicked out' of their place!
Thanks for your wishes about my holiday. I think it'll be just great for me.
Hoping you're well.
:-) Kath
> I think that's terrific, Kath.
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> I wish my parents had gotten there with my brother, and with me too I guess.
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> In the end it's probably the best thing for the kids as well as the parent.
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> I hope you have a wonderful rejuvenating camping trip.
Posted by TexasChic on June 18, 2006, at 18:35:32
In reply to Re: Going camping Monday/ Son update » Dinah, posted by Kath on June 18, 2006, at 9:22:43
I have similiar issues with family members, although its probably even harder when its your kid. Just try to keep in mind what you are doing is HELPING him. I mean, what it, heaven forbid, something happened to you? How would he care for himself? Making him take responsibility for himself now is a GOOD thing.
-T
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