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Posted by Deneb on June 16, 2006, at 0:08:03
I just read something someone wrote here and I feel their sadness and pain. I'm usually too caught up in myself to notice what others are feeling. I realized something. People pretend. People can pretend to be well, but they are often screaming with pain inside. This is very different from how I express myself online, but I do the same thing in real life. Some people do this even while online. They are in a corner all by themselves, not speaking of their pain. No one noticing. Suffering in silence.
Me, I'm an open book online. Secrets? What secrets? I write what I feel when I feel it, with little to no regard for others at times. I have the exact opposite problem.
I've discovered that the "happy" person I may be posting to may actually be miserable inside. When I'm happy I tend to forget that others are still suffering. I assume that everyone else is just as happy as I am.
I have to remember that people here have problems. Most people here are not happy. That is why they are here in the first place. I don't know why I never really noticed that.
I can read people writing that such and such a medication isn't working for them, but what I don't realize is that what they are saying is that they are still in terrible psychic pain. Most of the time I don't realize that people are suffering. I don't notice it unless they blatantly state it. I have to learn to think outside of myself. I hope I'm doing that.
I bet Dr. Bob sees the suffering within people. Maybe that's why we never see Dr. Bob really happy. I bet Dr. Bob isn't self absorbed.
I have to learn to be more sensitive and not so self absorbed.
Deneb*
Posted by Racer on June 16, 2006, at 1:36:14
In reply to I saw sadness within a person, posted by Deneb on June 16, 2006, at 0:08:03
> > I have to learn to be more sensitive and not so self absorbed.
>
> Deneb*Deneb, honey, try this one on for size: instead of trying to learn to be "more sensitive and not so self absorbed," how about learning how to be Deneb? Who are you, when you're alone? Is that someone you could learn to be when you weren't alone? Is that someone whom you could be satisfied with being?
I'll bet a lot of people would like her, whoever she is.
Posted by llrrrpp on June 16, 2006, at 8:58:45
In reply to I have a better idea for you to try... » Deneb, posted by Racer on June 16, 2006, at 1:36:14
Hi Deneb*
So many times, I have been feeling icky, ugly, low, depressed, lonely (fill in infintite negative adjectives) and I read one of your Happy Deneb posts and you make me smile. It's okay to express yourself on the boards. You may think that you're not helping anyone else by being "self-absorbed" and only posting stuff that you are interested in. But see, that's not true- When you write about your new hamster, or your enthusiastic Bob-love, you are sharing it. Even if I don't respond, i read the bob-love posts and you make me giggle or at least smile. Smiling really helps me. Also, when you write about your pain, and your struggles, it helps too, because others' struggles help us put our own in perspective.Racer's right. Just be yourself. Within the limits of civility, feel free to write about yourself, learn to be comfortable with you, for who you are. I like you just fine. i like most people just fine. I like all kinds of people. You don't have to try to change your style just because... It's okay just to be Deneb 100% Deneb*. We support you no matter what :) Sadness/pain/bob-love/existential angst/etc
we can handle it, if you can :)I think you're one of the most open, clear people on Babble. You're complex, but you share all sides with us- the giddiness, the fear of dying, the struggles of becoming an adult, the process of being treated for mental illness. Thanks for sharing all of this. It really helps.
yours,
-ll
Posted by ron1953 on June 16, 2006, at 12:33:48
In reply to I saw sadness within a person, posted by Deneb on June 16, 2006, at 0:08:03
Posted by Phillipa on June 16, 2006, at 14:11:23
In reply to one-hundred-percent Deneb*, posted by llrrrpp on June 16, 2006, at 8:58:45
Ah Deneb you can be so sweet when you talk about your new Hampster and buttertart being his name. I like all things about you. Love Phillipa
Posted by Deneb on June 16, 2006, at 23:42:05
In reply to one-hundred-percent Deneb*, posted by llrrrpp on June 16, 2006, at 8:58:45
Thanks llrrrpp! :-)
I'm glad it's okay to be me here. I worry sometimes about writing about myself too much. I'm glad I can help people.
((((((((((((llrrrpp))))))))))))))
Deneb*
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