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Posted by wildcard11 on April 14, 2006, at 10:37:39
~that a threat was made through a third party 'he will find me and i will pay before he goes back'...i think i'm in shock b/c restraining orders are a f*cking joke.
Posted by Phillipa on April 14, 2006, at 11:09:49
In reply to he is def. out and they called to warn me, posted by wildcard11 on April 14, 2006, at 10:37:39
Does he know where you live? Love Phillipa
Posted by wildcard11 on April 14, 2006, at 11:22:05
In reply to Re: he is def. out and they called to warn me » wildcard11, posted by Phillipa on April 14, 2006, at 11:09:49
~my brother and i have the same VERY distinct last name so public real estate records show...i don't think he is that smart...i swear i will kill him if he comes near my babies or me...
Posted by Racer on April 14, 2006, at 12:22:29
In reply to not that i know of but » Phillipa, posted by wildcard11 on April 14, 2006, at 11:22:05
I'm very sorry you're facing something like this. It must be terrifying for you, not to mention bringing up so much anger.
Have you talked to your local police about protecting yourself? Whether they can help in any way? What they can do to protect you?
For that matter, hard as it would be on you, can you stay with someone else until he does go back? Or can you petition the court to collect him because of the threat?
Speaking of which, have you contacted the prosecuting attorney about the threat?
I'm so sorry this is happening to you, and hope it stops soon.
Posted by muffled on April 14, 2006, at 12:41:06
In reply to he is def. out and they called to warn me, posted by wildcard11 on April 14, 2006, at 10:37:39
Restraining orders ARE a f*cking joke and noone will protect you but you and your own. I would keep a gun handy (but SAFELY). But keep in mind that if you use it, shoot to kill. Killing another human being, even vermin is a hard thing.
I'm so sorry this is happening to you.
So so sorry :-(
muffled
Posted by Racer on April 14, 2006, at 16:16:23
In reply to Re: he is def. out and they called to warn me » wildcard11, posted by muffled on April 14, 2006, at 12:41:06
After reading Muffled's post, I felt I had to say this:
Weapons in the house are generally more dangerous to the householder than to any malefactor. Sad, but true. All kinds of reasons, problems, etc.
One of the most important things to consider when you're thinking about having a gun for your own protection, is that it's not enough to be able to say that you could "shoot to kill." You never know what would actually happen if you were ever in a position to carry that out. You'd also, though, have to be able to "shoot to kill" WITHOUT STOPPING TO THINK ABOUT IT. That part is what convinced me never to have a handgun for protection.
You know what I had, though, that I felt safe would never be stolen and used against another innocent person, but I felt pretty confident would win me a few seconds to get myself to safety? A fire extinguisher. I kept a couple of them -- one right by my bed -- when I lived in a lousy neighborhood. My neighbor's gun was stolen, which meant one more gun in the hands of a criminal. I wouldn't want that.
I never had to use my fire extinguishers, for a weapon or for any other reason, but I still felt a whole lot safer for not having a gun.
Oh, and another thing to ask yourself, if you're thinking about getting a gun for protection: Are you more concerned with being safe? Or with harming anyone who tries to get into your house? If harming an intruder is more important than getting to safety, then by all means, get a gun...
(You do understand I have an opinion. For one thing, if I had ever had a gun, I would not be here posting this now. Which is another danger of having a gun in the house.)
Posted by wildcard11 on April 14, 2006, at 16:26:29
In reply to About weapons in the house, posted by Racer on April 14, 2006, at 16:16:23
i see your point. i actually have several guns, no handguns. i have been trained how to use them and if someone were to enter my home, i would shoot to kill w/o hesitation. too many things have happened to me and i will not allow it again. the justice system is awful. i am VERY cautious as i have children. i also keep a baseball bat in easy reach and a roll of copper wrapped in black electrical tape that would def. hurt if not kill w/ one blow to the head. i am also trained in Hakedo and kickboxing...i never wanted a gun on my home until 5 years ago. i am also trying to obtain a taser.
Posted by Phillipa on April 14, 2006, at 18:43:13
In reply to Re: About weapons in the house » Racer, posted by wildcard11 on April 14, 2006, at 16:26:29
Greg liked that rifle. He has a ton of them one under the mattress. He and I shoot them all the time at a Dad's house. It is legal as long as it is unconcealed. No kids in any of our houses.
Posted by muffled on April 14, 2006, at 18:51:45
In reply to Re: About weapons in the house, posted by Phillipa on April 14, 2006, at 18:43:13
I'm not actually allowed to purchase or possess a firearm as I had a controversy when I was gonna shoot myself :-(
I feel like a reject.
And racer is right, whatever the weapon, knife, bar, slug, don't matter. You MUST train to be able to USE it without hesitation or its of absolutely no use to you, and if fact can be used against you. This sort of training takes time and practice and alot of mental training to be able to hurt another person if necessary.
Its not as easy to use a weapon as you might think. For me it was primarily being able to overide my aversion to hurting another human being.
I could do it now.
I could kill.
Trained as a pre-teen.
Kinda makes me sad really.
Makes me feel bad inside too.
Sigh.
Sometimes life just f*cking sucks completely.
Muffled
Posted by madeline on April 14, 2006, at 19:04:56
In reply to Re: About weapons in the house, posted by muffled on April 14, 2006, at 18:51:45
I'm with you muffy, however, I DO have a shotgun and you'd better believe that if someone came in my house looking to do me or someone I love harm - I would put them down.
When things were out of my control, I was violated and hurt beyond all comprehension.
Now I'm in control, and I will be damned to the pits of hell before I will let it happen again.
I would not hesitate a bit.
Posted by ghost on April 14, 2006, at 19:58:26
In reply to he is def. out and they called to warn me, posted by wildcard11 on April 14, 2006, at 10:37:39
please try to stay safe. can someone stay with you? or can you stay with someone else?
thinking good, safe thoughts,
ghost
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