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Posted by jay on April 12, 2006, at 20:14:13
OK..Here is a happy topic. Well...today I bought myself a burial plot. Now..no no no no..I have no intentions of using it until I reach a ripe old age. I just got it in case of..you know..accidents that are 1 in a million, etc. I don't want anybody to have to pay for mine. The nice thing is...it's just a hop away from where my best friend, at 19 years old and shot himself, is burried.
Now, most guys my age have these things done with a wife, and they have life insurance and all for kids and wife. I don't even have life insurance, otherwise I would. I am gonna buy myself a nice big house with no family to fit in it. I am going to buy a minivan with no kids to take to soccer games. ("Your time is running out..please insert 5 dollars in change.") Even if I had a baby with a women who didn't want to stick around or be a mother..that would really mean *something*. That sounds crazy...I know. A house doesn't make a home...don't leave me here alone. As far as superficiality..women are just as bad as men when it comes to looks and prestige. I am a social worker and work in non-profit because I *want* to...I'm never going to make no 80 grand a year. Tell that to some women and it's like they see *nothing* noble, or good in what I do...they just want the salary. (Came across that online.) I dress nice...groom myself nice and even though not in the best of shape..am working VERY hard at that. OK..I know what you are thinking...been around the block with this issue with Jay before. It reminds me of a song..."The Angels' share...in all of it's clandestine history...is seldom fair.."
It just makes me think about what people value in the world...after all of our history...horrible...a Holocaust...two world wars...the cold war, Vietnam, now the gutteral mess in the middle east, the birthplace of humankind (for some)...and because I put on 10 pounds, wore the "wrong" shirt, have just an average paying job, drive a used car, shaved all my hair off...I am not part of the secret things women talk about in Cosmo magazine. I am not part of any secret "manhood" thing...I don't read "Blender" or "Maxim"...why can't women be the same?
Sorry for the bummer...it just sucks right now.
Jay :-/
Posted by crazy teresa on April 12, 2006, at 20:22:50
In reply to This is how *horrible* being single feels.trigger?, posted by jay on April 12, 2006, at 20:14:13
I think you sound fantastic! Responsible, practical, realistic, content, mature, hard-working... What more could a nice girl ask for?
Posted by Deneb on April 12, 2006, at 20:30:23
In reply to This is how *horrible* being single feels.trigger?, posted by jay on April 12, 2006, at 20:14:13
Mind if I give you a hug?
(((((((jay))))))))
Deneb*
Posted by Phillipa on April 12, 2006, at 23:11:11
In reply to Re: This is how *horrible* being single feels.trigger? » jay, posted by Deneb on April 12, 2006, at 20:30:23
It's whats between the eyes that counts how good a person is and you are a good person anyone would be lucky to have you. Love Phillipa
Posted by wildcard11 on April 13, 2006, at 0:37:04
In reply to This is how *horrible* being single feels.trigger?, posted by jay on April 12, 2006, at 20:14:13
you seem like such a great guy that you will find someone. you never know what tomorrow could bring! you deserve to be picky and find a very sweet and caring woman to grow old with.
Posted by jay on April 13, 2006, at 15:53:24
In reply to Where are you meeting these women?, posted by crazy teresa on April 12, 2006, at 20:22:50
> I think you sound fantastic! Responsible, practical, realistic, content, mature, hard-working... What more could a nice girl ask for?
>Well thank you <blush> :) But...I am doing what is most popular...the web-date thing. It's next to impossible for me to meet women any other way.
Funny...I always get the same message..."You are a nice guy...BUT...". Like, I am not horrid looking (I don't *think* so..lol), yes I need to loose some weight, but I dress and carry myself well. It seems like many women my age (36) want some guy who is 25 or so. As I head to my 40's...I shed hair...women head towards menopause. Why can't people just accept this? Look at Sharon Stone...she is sick...plastic head to toe at 48. Even her plastic surgeon bragged about it. Anyhow...'nuff my ranting...and thanks again..really. :-)Jay
Posted by jay on April 13, 2006, at 15:54:19
In reply to Re: This is how *horrible* being single feels.trigger? » jay, posted by Deneb on April 12, 2006, at 20:30:23
> Mind if I give you a hug?
>
> (((((((jay))))))))
>
> Deneb*Thank you Deneb :)
Jay
Posted by jay on April 13, 2006, at 16:01:41
In reply to Re: This is how *horrible* being single feels.trigger?, posted by Phillipa on April 12, 2006, at 23:11:11
> It's whats between the eyes that counts how good a person is and you are a good person anyone would be lucky to have you. Love Phillipa
Thank you Phillipa. :) You are always the kind fabric that seems to help hold this place together.Best,
Jay
Posted by jay on April 13, 2006, at 16:15:50
In reply to she IS out there! » jay, posted by wildcard11 on April 13, 2006, at 0:37:04
> you seem like such a great guy that you will find someone. you never know what tomorrow could bring! you deserve to be picky and find a very sweet and caring woman to grow old with.
Thank you wildcard. :) It's just, well I've dated a little bit...but no relationship in about 7-8 years.:-( I've always been a long-term relationship kinda guy. Like I mentioned above...I don't know what it is..but there seems to be this thing with women in my age range 36-40, who think that they deserve a guy who is some hunky 25 year old. But, then again...I see examples..and these seem rare..like my sister, who is 46, and has always been very beautiful on the inside and out. She had done modeling in her 20's. She married a great guy who is kinda like me...he has a bit of flub on the waist, going bald...super..super kind, well mannered guy who would do anything in the world for you. They've been married 26 years, and have 3 beautiful kids. So...I dunno...you see the reality of the two opposites? I guess it boils down to random luck. Maybe I should try to find a GOOD webdating site...like eharmoney or something like that. I dunnnnnoooo.....:(Thanx,
Jay
Posted by wildcard11 on April 13, 2006, at 16:29:26
In reply to Re: she IS out there! » wildcard11, posted by jay on April 13, 2006, at 16:15:50
well i know that not all women want a younger man! and i *used* (lol), to model and i find guys w/ extra weight and bald sexy!!! but all in all, if the inside is ugly, it's all ugly! just don't give up so quickly and don't get down on yourself. they say it(the love bug), hits you when you least expect it ;o) and if they take off b/c of depression, etc., you're better off anyway!
Posted by Declan on April 13, 2006, at 21:39:50
In reply to This is how *horrible* being single feels.trigger?, posted by jay on April 12, 2006, at 20:14:13
You really bought a burial plot? I've been to so many objectionable funerals. A friend, when asked what arrangement he would like, said 'just roll me up against a tree stump and burn me'. My father ended up in a wall with one of those plaques. Bugger that.
Being single is clearly lonely for you, but family life is famous for being unhappy too. You're nice, and kind and sick of waiting.
Declan
Posted by zazenduck on April 14, 2006, at 9:18:37
In reply to Re: Where are you meeting these women? » crazy teresa, posted by jay on April 13, 2006, at 15:53:24
Jay have you tried Eharmony? It's a little different...and you can take it slow which is a good idea .
Posted by TexasChic on April 18, 2006, at 21:36:59
In reply to This is how *horrible* being single feels.trigger?, posted by jay on April 12, 2006, at 20:14:13
You sound like a male version of me (except for the shaved head and burial plot thing). I've been pretty bummed out about being 36 and single too.
I don't think the qualities you described are unique to women. There's plenty of shallow men out there too. I think we've just got to wade through all the losers before we find someone decent. (Now doesn't that sound like fun?)
BTW, at least your biological clock isn't ticking!
-T
Posted by Phillipa on April 18, 2006, at 23:14:53
In reply to Re: This is how *horrible* being single feels.trig » jay, posted by TexasChic on April 18, 2006, at 21:36:59
Hummm looking for some little chicks? In all that heat? Love Phillipa
Posted by TexasChic on April 19, 2006, at 18:19:09
In reply to Re: This is how *horrible* being single feels.trig » TexasChic, posted by Phillipa on April 18, 2006, at 23:14:53
> Hummm looking for some little chicks? In all that heat? Love Phillipa
He, he - little Texas chicks.
-T
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