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Posted by lynn971 on February 14, 2006, at 20:01:09
I am so angry at the lady who told my child she wanted to beat the hell out of her. Then she found out her daughter did not tell the truth, and called to apologize.
She only apologized because her daughter was wrong. She needs to apologize for speaking to my child that way. You dont speak to someone's child like that. If you have a problem, you talk to the parents.Oh, I dont want to be mad, but I am!!!!!!!!!!!
Posted by LegWarmers on February 14, 2006, at 20:07:35
In reply to I do not want to be angry, posted by lynn971 on February 14, 2006, at 20:01:09
> I am so angry at the lady who told my child she wanted to beat the hell out of her.
um, I can't believe someone did that?!?! That is outrageous!
> Oh, I dont want to be mad, but I am!!!!!!!!!!!
Id be so angry as well. I wouldnt let that go either, thats very scary that someone would speak to a child that way.
can you talk to her or is she insane? Can you talk to the police? she sounds unstable...Im not aware that it is ever 'normal' to speak like that, sorry... Im stunned.
Posted by LegWarmers on February 14, 2006, at 20:15:35
In reply to Re: I do not want to be angry, posted by LegWarmers on February 14, 2006, at 20:07:35
If it were me, Id call up the family, including the daughter and have a meeting with the six of you. all these things should be addressed and it should be made clear to the girls that they need to fight thier own battles.
IMO, there is no room for aggression from parents, towards their childrens' friends. Thats teaching bad behavior im my opinion...no wonder the kid has problems. Id be angry too, very angry
Posted by Gabbix2 on February 14, 2006, at 21:11:07
In reply to I do not want to be angry, posted by lynn971 on February 14, 2006, at 20:01:09
Well if she spoke that way to your daughter, it's no doubt that she speaks like that in general, No wonder her child has no self esteem, and is afraid to tell the truth.
I feel really bad for everyone involved
I'd be angry too, and I'm not a mom, but I hear that people who don't have kids cannot fathom the sort of protectiveness that comes over you.Is there a chance that you could maybe tell her that it's just not a good way to speak to any child.. period, and why it isn't?
I'm not assuming there is, I know with some people you just can't. And if she has a severe anger problem all it will do is embarrass them, and they'll take that out on the child.You never know though, maybe it will be the beginning of her learning something.
From the sounds of things, she didn't have a healthy upbringing either.
Posted by Gabbix2 on February 14, 2006, at 21:12:20
In reply to Re: I do not want to be angry » lynn971, posted by Gabbix2 on February 14, 2006, at 21:11:07
No wonder her child has no self esteem, and is afraid to tell the truth.
Sorry I didn't read your post until after.
You basically just said that..
Posted by Gee on February 14, 2006, at 21:13:10
In reply to I just read what happened, posted by LegWarmers on February 14, 2006, at 20:15:35
I would also be angry. Could you let your daughters school know what happened, and maybe see if they could mediate a meeting between the two families?
How is your daughter doing? It must be a pretty tough situation for her to be in!
Posted by TexasChic on February 14, 2006, at 21:16:42
In reply to I do not want to be angry, posted by lynn971 on February 14, 2006, at 20:01:09
> She needs to apologize for speaking to my child that way. You dont speak to someone's child like that. If you have a problem, you talk to the parents.
This is pretty much what I said in my post that went wonky. You have every right to be angry! Its harder to forgive someone who has hurt someone you love rather than yourself. She really should apologize to your daughter. But her actions were so out of line I don't know if I'd really want her to speak to my daughter anymore.I think as long as your daughter knows this type of behavior isn't acceptable to you, and she should let you know anytime an adult mistreats or threatens her, she should be secure knowing her mom will not let anything happen to her. And once you feel she is okay, you may be able to let it go. Holding on to the bitterness does nothing to hurt the ones responsible, it just eats away at you.
Those people definitely have issues.
-T
Posted by sleepygirl on February 14, 2006, at 22:12:17
In reply to I do not want to be angry, posted by lynn971 on February 14, 2006, at 20:01:09
It's perfectly understandable that you'd be quite angry. I don't envy you in this situation. She should have know A LOT better than to EVER talk to ANYONE that way!!
Posted by Phillipa on February 15, 2006, at 0:08:55
In reply to Re: I do not want to be angry » lynn971, posted by sleepygirl on February 14, 2006, at 22:12:17
Have you asked your daughter how she feels about the situation? Fondly, Phillipa
Posted by Sabrina0805 on February 15, 2006, at 2:58:09
In reply to I do not want to be angry, posted by lynn971 on February 14, 2006, at 20:01:09
I understand your anger. My neighbour's child spent every day of a school holiday here, playing with my son and his toys. The child is 2 years older than my son, very overweight and a bit of a bully. The next holiday he chose to ignore my son. When my son, in his innocence, tried to find out why, the older boy said that his mother had said my son was using him. I was livid. I'm still trying to figure out how on earth my son used him when he was in my house, eating my food, playing with my son's toys and never saying thank you.
What a horrible and unnecessary situation for your daughter, you and your family to be in.
How is your daughter feeling now?
Sabrina
Posted by crazy teresa on February 15, 2006, at 8:28:34
In reply to I do not want to be angry, posted by lynn971 on February 14, 2006, at 20:01:09
Just don't let it consume you.
And trust that God will work it out for you.
Posted by damos on February 15, 2006, at 17:20:35
In reply to I do not want to be angry, posted by lynn971 on February 14, 2006, at 20:01:09
Hi Lynn,
Sorry I'm only just catching up with this. I think you've been remarkably restrained in the circumstances, and have every right to be angry and outraged. It's just so unfair that those feelings can't take back what was said to your daughter and that probably makes your feelings even more intense.
I was left speechless reading your original post. What you did proves beyond doubt yet again is what a great mom and really good person you are.
So sorry that happened to you both.
(((((Lynn and Daughter)))))
Posted by lynn971 on February 15, 2006, at 20:00:32
In reply to I do not want to be angry, posted by lynn971 on February 14, 2006, at 20:01:09
Your support is so appreciated. My daughter tells me that she is fine. I know that she will be ok.
The little girl has been very nice to her at school since the incident happened. I told my daughter to be nice, but not to be real chummy with her.
I told the school what happened in case something else comes up.
Now, I just need to let it go. I have prayed and asked God to help me forgive because I cannot do it on my own.
Love you,
Lynn
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