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Posted by Deneb on December 20, 2005, at 21:52:55
Anyone else want instant gratification?
I'm impatient when it comes to waiting for responses to my posts.
I'm kind of selfish. I start a lot of threads because then there is more possibility that they will be answered.
My emotions also get magnified here. Inhibitations are next to zero. This equals big trouble.
I hope people realize that the real life me isn't like this.
Deneb
Posted by rjlockhart on December 20, 2005, at 23:16:49
In reply to Instant gratification, posted by Deneb on December 20, 2005, at 21:52:55
I get like that. But the fact is alot of people dont awnser my posts. I used to get rejection feeling. Then i just made up to myself, and stopped posting.
spriggy, phillipa, legwarmer, i think i seen awnser you posts, i dont know how many. Phillipa is usally the one that awnsers my posts, sometimes tamar. But you know what, i dont care, im not a spriggy fan, she has other stuff to do, all the others have there groups they hang with.
But the fact is just be happy that others post to you.
Something i wished i had.
Matt
Posted by rjlockhart on December 20, 2005, at 23:20:23
In reply to Re: Instant gratification, posted by rjlockhart on December 20, 2005, at 23:16:49
I wanted to say im sorry for misunderstanding sometimes what you post, i have a social problem, and i hate. I wished i had friends, but i just have to get out into the world and leave the past.
Im sorry. for anything.
Posted by alexandra_k on December 21, 2005, at 2:57:35
In reply to Re: Instant gratification, posted by rjlockhart on December 20, 2005, at 23:16:49
((((rjlockheart))))
i'm sorry you don't get many responses sometimes.
i think sometimes people just don't know how to connect.
but i think you are a part of the boards here.
i read your posts to catch up with how you are doing.
i'm sorry i don't know what to say sometimes...
but i do value your being here.
and i'd miss you if you stopped posting :-(
Posted by alexandra_k on December 21, 2005, at 3:01:16
In reply to Instant gratification, posted by Deneb on December 20, 2005, at 21:52:55
> Anyone else want instant gratification?
sometimes... for me... thats what cigarettes and drugs and alchohol etc are about...
> I'm impatient when it comes to waiting for responses to my posts.
hmm. i am sometimes too. i refresh and refresh and refresh (and wonder how my internet bill gets so big) hmm....
> I'm kind of selfish. I start a lot of threads because then there is more possibility that they will be answered.well... everybody wants responses...
and...
i am more impatient sometimes than others :-)
> My emotions also get magnified here. Inhibitations are next to zero. This equals big trouble.you do have some though...
i mean...
you don't want to get blocked...
and you don't want to hurt other people with what you say...
but sometimes... i swear i'd do anything at all (well... very nearly) for a cigarette... mmm cigarettes...
> I hope people realize that the real life me isn't like this.:-)
i'm off to have a cigarette ;-)
take care.
Posted by Phillipa on December 21, 2005, at 19:18:43
In reply to Re: Instant gratification » Deneb, posted by alexandra_k on December 21, 2005, at 3:01:16
Matt thanks I'm always there for you. Fondly, Phillipa
Posted by alexandra_k on December 22, 2005, at 12:21:59
In reply to Re: Instant gratification, posted by rjlockhart on December 20, 2005, at 23:20:23
> ((((rjlockheart))))
>
> i'm sorry you don't get many responses sometimes.
> i think sometimes people just don't know how to connect.
> but i think you are a part of the boards here.
> i read your posts to catch up with how you are doing.
> i'm sorry i don't know what to say sometimes...
> but i do value your being here.
> and i'd miss you if you stopped posting :-(
and that being said...
the reason i don't reply to your posts is that you don't acknowledge my responses. i have responsed to you a bit and have found that either you ignore my response completely or you kind of say thanks! then start a new thread asking exactly the same question again or something like that so i feel like my responses aren't valued.also... you have never posted to a thread that i have started. not once (to the best of my knowledge).
you might find...
that that is a recurrent pattern???
and that that is why you don't get more responses???
what i have learned from the boards...
is that there are an awful lot of posts.
and i don't know that anybody reads all of the posts on the board.
and of all the posts that people do read i don't think they respond to all of the posts they read either.how do they decide what posts to read?
how do they decide what posts to respond to?there is some stuff that various posters have said in the FAQ.
for me...
if people respond to my threads i tend to try and read their posts.
if they seem to have taken a lot of time / effort in their post then i especially try and tend to read their posts.
and i try... to return the favour.
sometimes... i'm not very good at that.
i was hoping to try and catch up with people before my internet access ran out... but... i'm out of time fairly much and have a whole heap of christmas shopping to do today (ugh).but i also read around according to topic etc.
and there...
if people thank me then i am probably more likely to read their posts.
if people seem to get something from what i have to say and write a thoughtful response to me then i tend to respond more to their posts.so if you want responses...
then you need to foster that.when i don't feel connected with the boards (with people on the boards) i find the fastest way for me to feel connected is to spend some time reading and writing thoughtful responses to other peoples posts. especially to other people who i know are likely to respond thoughtfully to my responses. then the next day... (or sometimes even the same day) bingo. responses :-) and i feel connected again.
whereas... if i try and maximise responses by starting new thread after new thread... people may stop reading... or may just post one liners...
sometimes there is a quality / quantity issue...
some things to think about.
perhaps
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