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Posted by Phillipa on August 19, 2005, at 20:04:10
To me this is a very important question. I used to not worry about money at all when I was working but since I've been on Disability I feel I have no power and that was always important to me. My husband doesn't have a full time job either as he quit. And one other factor I'm getting old and it makes everything more serious to me. So what do you think . If you're very young you have a future to look forward to or parents who support you. Thanks, Fondly, Phillipa
Posted by thuso on August 19, 2005, at 22:15:37
In reply to Does Money Make You Happy or At Least Having Enoug, posted by Phillipa on August 19, 2005, at 20:04:10
> To me this is a very important question. I used to not worry about money at all when I was working but since I've been on Disability I feel I have no power and that was always important to me. My husband doesn't have a full time job either as he quit. And one other factor I'm getting old and it makes everything more serious to me. So what do you think . If you're very young you have a future to look forward to or parents who support you. Thanks, Fondly, Phillipa
>I'm curious to hear what people say. I'm young and definitely have a future to look forward to. Unfortunately, I don't have parents who are at all financially supportive and actually kicked me out to the curb to live in my car for a year.
I just don't want to sacrifice too much if the rewards having money gives you are not at least equal to what I'm sacrificing. I understand that money does not equal happiness, but there is plenty of evidence that shows lacking money causes all sorts of problems too. I'm just starting a career (next week!), so I've got decisions to make as to how much I want to work and sacrifice to climb that lovely corporate ladder.
I hope a lot of people respond to this thread with their opinions. :-)
Posted by coley on August 20, 2005, at 1:26:19
In reply to Does Money Make You Happy or At Least Having Enoug, posted by Phillipa on August 19, 2005, at 20:04:10
I constantly wory about money. My boyfriend owns his own business, and I still am not in the right place as far as a career is concerned. My anxiety constantly compels me to screw up in school, and I hate the kind of work I do now. I worry about money till 5 AM all the time!
Posted by Declan on August 20, 2005, at 1:29:22
In reply to Does Money Make You Happy or At Least Having Enoug, posted by Phillipa on August 19, 2005, at 20:04:10
Hello Phillipa!
Money does not make you happy at all, but you need a certain minimum and not having that will make things much worse.
It's a worry, thinking of how you are going to support yourself through the last years, isn't it?
Declan
Posted by justyourlaugh on August 20, 2005, at 15:53:37
In reply to Re: Does Money Make You Happy or At Least Having Enoug » Phillipa, posted by Declan on August 20, 2005, at 1:29:22
does not make one healthy..
but puts a bottle in my cupboard everyday..
Posted by alexandra_k on August 20, 2005, at 16:02:04
In reply to Does Money Make You Happy or At Least Having Enoug, posted by Phillipa on August 19, 2005, at 20:04:10
Well... I think money is more important than most people are prepared to admit to...
I mean...
Money doesn't buy you happiness. That is for sure. But money buys you OPTIONS. If you want something. If you want to do something. If you want to live in a nice environment. Take advantage of some of the things in that nice environment. I'm sure its easy to see that one would have more chance of being happy in a nice apartment somewhere than one would have if one had to make do without that apartment.
But there is a balance...
And that can be hard to find.One doesn't want to end up with no free time to really enjoy things and take advantage of the opportunities...
But conversely one doesn't want to end up with too much free time and nothing much to enjoy.I dunno.
Its an individual thing I guess...
Posted by Sonya on August 20, 2005, at 16:07:50
In reply to Does Money Make You Happy or At Least Having Enoug, posted by Phillipa on August 19, 2005, at 20:04:10
With my husband's and my combined income, we do pretty well; but I'm not happy. I never go shopping -- I don't want to buy anything. I need new clothes for work but I can't bring myself to shop for them. So basically money right now is sort of pointless for me. I often wonder why I work (guess it keeps me out of trouble, heh, heh).
Peace....Sonya
Posted by fairywings on August 20, 2005, at 23:27:26
In reply to Does Money Make You Happy or At Least Having Enoug, posted by Phillipa on August 19, 2005, at 20:04:10
hi phillipa,
it doestn't make you happy, but if you have enough $, it's one less thing to agonize over. we have enough to pay the bills, it's not always been that way. we fight less, so we're happier because i don't have the anxiety and worry.
fw
Posted by Sebastian on August 21, 2005, at 11:25:32
In reply to Does Money Make You Happy or At Least Having Enoug, posted by Phillipa on August 19, 2005, at 20:04:10
I'm sure there is some type of job you can do. Some thing on the computer, telemarketing from your home.
Posted by wildcard on August 21, 2005, at 12:48:55
In reply to Does Money Make You Happy or At Least Having Enoug, posted by Phillipa on August 19, 2005, at 20:04:10
Well my friend, i have had more than i've known what to do with and none to do anything with and to be completely honest...i was the happiest ever when i had no $ to my name, no bed to sleep in and if i could find that place again i would go in a heartbeat. I do not think it had anything to do w/ money at all...i think it was much deeper. Just hang on-we'll be roomies soon!!
Posted by Declan on August 21, 2005, at 13:18:17
In reply to Re: Does Money Make You Happy or At Least Having Enoug » Phillipa, posted by wildcard on August 21, 2005, at 12:48:55
When I was young I didn't worry about money (someone looks after you then) and for a few years had almost none. But your needs ratchet up, you need this that and the other. Or you think you do. In my late teens the unemployment benefit for 18yo was A$4.85pw, I managed to live on that. (Lots of stolen sandwiches from the university refec). Strange how much it all changes as you get older.
Declan
Posted by fairywings on August 21, 2005, at 17:42:22
In reply to Re: Does Money Make You Happy or At Least Having Enoug » wildcard, posted by Declan on August 21, 2005, at 13:18:17
That was my thought too. As we get older we sometimes have less of that free spirit, and more physical and psychological needs. I have so many fears and phobias, I don't think I could ever live like that again, and would never want to.
fw
Posted by FlyingKangaroo on August 22, 2005, at 21:27:57
In reply to Does Money Make You Happy or At Least Having Enoug, posted by Phillipa on August 19, 2005, at 20:04:10
When I was broke it was most important to me. Now Im not so broke and it doesnt seem so important but i guess when you have a family to feed it really is
Posted by Dominique on August 25, 2005, at 16:06:22
In reply to Does Money Make You Happy or At Least Having Enoug, posted by Phillipa on August 19, 2005, at 20:04:10
Like the saying goes "money doesn't make you happy... it just makes life easier." My husband has been out of work and back in school for 3 1/2 years now. Since then, I've had to move in w/ a family member - but I do take care of her (elderly woman); and trade in my new car for a lesser value. My husband gets so stressed b/c he knows that his not making any money, is stressing us both; I just prefer to not tell him everytime I receive a bank statement about a bounced check. We live check to check; just like I grew up. But I know that when he finishes school, we'll be better off (paying the bills that is); not necessarily happier. I've learned to live with it as the norm; and adjust my life (as much as possible). I hope that you or your husband may find some financial assisstance from the government/state or a small job, payable by cash to help you both out.
Smiles
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