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Posted by 10derHeart on May 27, 2005, at 9:55:34
In reply to Re: There Was One Thing Said I Didn't Like At All... » 10derHeart, posted by Damos on May 26, 2005, at 22:34:13
...like these..
>>You're one of the gooderest eggs going round 10der you really are<<
I think I will need them this weekend and beyond...
Think I will keep readingthem over and over maybe.
Can't seem to get a handle on my mood at all and keep slipping into zombie/whocares mode.
Which triggers anxiety because my daughter and SIL are coming to visit in 8 days and my house is a disaster. Yes, a real disaster. Not exaggerating.
All household stuff except the basics that would get you cited, say, if the health department stopped by, have gone undone for weeks.
Overwhelmed to the max and ADD in in full swing.
ahh...ADD and depression - a joyless cocktail :-(
I HAVE to work on it..but how to when you just don't care...Well, there's my ever so cheery whine for today....
It will get better
It will get better
I am a gooderest egg
I am.
I am.
Damos SAID so!
Posted by anastasia56 on May 27, 2005, at 10:37:44
In reply to Collecting up words... » Damos, posted by 10derHeart on May 27, 2005, at 9:55:34
you ARE the gooderest egg! you're also a lot of other things that are great too.
my mother is a lot older than you but she has ADD issues that keep her house looking jumbled alot. When she has company coming we just take big boxes and toss in pretty much all the junk, then throw them in the closet.
When/if she needs the stuff she'll know where to get it.
The trick is to do this fairly close to the guests arriving so there isn't time to mess it up again.
You can do this visit. Being ON can be therapeutic in small doses. Invent naptime or some such thing to cut the time together into manageable time frames.
((((10derheart))))
ana
Posted by 10derHeart on May 27, 2005, at 21:37:48
In reply to Re: Collecting up words..., posted by anastasia56 on May 27, 2005, at 10:37:44
Thanks, ana, you always give me a welcome boost!
But...just to clarify, I ADORE my daughter and son-in-law. And I'm not just saying that, and meaning...but they really annoy the cr*p out of me and are stressfull to have stay in my house...
No, no. In fact, I could tell her on the phone right now I can't get their room liveable and they'll just have to help me when they get here. She wouldn't even flinch. I'm blessed with an uncommonly loving, tolerant and easy-going child.
Her husband is just as sweet, too.They lived with me for 5 months last year and know all about the ADD behaviors. We all got along famously.
ALL the pressure to perform is put on by me. I am SO excited they are coming. Just was freaking out a little over wasting away days of time because of depression. Since they can only stay 4.5 days because of their jobs, I don't want one second of time spent on chores, clearing messes and so on. No way.
I haven't seen them in 10 months. So, I will probably *schedule* every waking moment to be with them - which will be great fun, bonding and awesome for 4.5 days :-)
Didn't mean to give a different impression.
Feel much better today - dang depression just picks its own days and knocks me down for 12 hours. Makes no sense at all.
I LOVE the tossing everything in boxes method! I will use that this time if need be. ('course, my closets are a total disaster, too....)
Posted by anastasia56 on May 27, 2005, at 22:27:00
In reply to Re: Collecting up words... » anastasia56, posted by 10derHeart on May 27, 2005, at 21:37:48
it made me smile hearing how much you like them. I have a great relationship with my mother too and i know what a huge part of my life that is. Have a wonderful time!
Posted by Damos on May 27, 2005, at 23:16:03
In reply to Collecting up words... » Damos, posted by 10derHeart on May 27, 2005, at 9:55:34
Dearest 10der,
Trust me you are so much more besides. To love and be loved so unconditionally by your daughter and SIL is a wonderful thing. I've actually spent about 2 hours contemplating cleaning bathroom but still haven't lifted a finger yet. But I will, I definitely will - today. Just in case you decide to drop in :-)
(((((10der)))))
Posted by 10derHeart on May 27, 2005, at 23:37:13
In reply to Re: Collecting up words... » 10derHeart, posted by Damos on May 27, 2005, at 23:16:03
> Trust me you are so much more besides.
((damos)))
>To love and be loved so unconditionally by your daughter and SIL is a wonderful thing.
Yes, it is. It was pretty awful last summer when they got married and moved away. Within 2 weeks of my ex-T. doing the same (uh...not the getting married part for him-he already was/is). It was an overwhelming summer for me :-( Now they live 5 hours from him, coincidentally, and I live 2000+ miles from all of them...
But I'm sort of better now. Really. In most ways.
She is the light of my life, though. And picked a superior man to marry...yeah!!
> I've actually spent about 2 hours contemplating cleaning bathroom but still haven't lifted a finger yet. But I will, I definitely will - today.
Oh, my, do I know this feeling. I must have had 8-10 periods of obsessive, repetitve thoughts about chores and projects yesterday (project=make a phone call), while on the couch, alternately sleeping (after 7.5 hours sleep the night before..?!?), feeling like doo-doo and crying. Sheesh, if the power of the mind actually translated into action, I'd be bored to tears my place would be so clean and tidy from all those detailed, organized thoughts planning things, but the truth is...
...I never did clean the bathroom yesterday. Or today.
>Just in case you decide to drop in :-)I wish. Don't tempt me.
I could see me playing with puppy while you're "insanely" *still* trying to clean that bathroom (which I wouldn't use 'cause I'd be too nervous....or is it that I'd have to use it 'cause I'd be so nervous...eek) and not have me notice....;-)Oh, bother. Dumb bathrooms should be self-cleaning anyway, right?
You soothe my spirit - both depressed and not. Quite a talent you have there, sir :-)
Posted by Damos on May 29, 2005, at 16:55:26
In reply to Re: Collecting up words... » Damos, posted by 10derHeart on May 27, 2005, at 23:37:13
Yay for me. I did it, straight after babbling, got up off my ever enlarging *ss and did it - okay except for the shower screens (hate them - will do them tonight) everything else is sp*ck and span. LOL about not using my bathroom, I get kinda weird about other peoples bathrooms too.
I actually think I've discovered a new disorder AND Attention Non-existence Disorder. There are day when my brain is like so much soggy mashed potatoe. But I do my best - well try to at least, but some days I just manage to get get nowhere at 'warp' speed. And poor old Scotty's down there in the engine room screaming "I canna give 'er any more Cap'n!"
BTW, Miss McDog loves meeting new friends and would happily take all the attention you could give and more.
Sorry to hear they all moved so far away that's gotta be hard. But as long as there's love and connection the distance aint quite so bad.
It's funny you meantioned the sleeping stuff. I could easily have slept all 48 hours of the weekend and still not had enough. Don't know why but sometimes I just get that way. No I do know it's my coping mechanism always has been. Must be related to the work stuff. Was good yesterday too - did a whole hours worth of exercise. Boy am I out of shape.
Lots of love 10der, lots of love.
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