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Posted by Susan47 on December 3, 2004, at 16:09:05
Have, that we don't know about? Wouldn't it be interesting to know in advance who will show up at our funeral? I believe those are our friends, whether we acknowledge it or not. And whether they acknowledge it, too! Some of the people who're the nastiest to us, will miss us the most if we're gone. I mean, theoretically. There's a need expressed in every relationship. Susan, go away.
Posted by cubic_me on December 4, 2004, at 15:21:04
In reply to Funerals, How Many Friends Do We Really, posted by Susan47 on December 3, 2004, at 16:09:05
Don't go away Susan, I love your musings.
I have thought about this too - I wonder who would care enough to come.
Posted by Susan47 on December 4, 2004, at 22:56:09
In reply to Re: Funerals, How Many Friends Do We Really » Susan47, posted by cubic_me on December 4, 2004, at 15:21:04
Well, cubic me, I've been thinking that there might be another side to that, too. I suppose there'll be people there who just want to gape at my cold, old embalmed self ...
But the people who CRY, are those our friends?
Posted by octopusprime on December 5, 2004, at 0:03:10
In reply to Re: Funerals, How Many Friends Do We Really, posted by Susan47 on December 4, 2004, at 22:56:09
a former friend of mine said he would decorate his grave like a disco
complete with spinning disco ball
and the groovy tiled floor
get the dj out
and we could all dance on his gravebut i think my funeral would just be a drunken wake
with the obligatory reading from winnie the pooh
and write on my bench looking out on the pacific ocean (for there will be no headstone)
"so it goes"the end.
Posted by sunny10 on December 5, 2004, at 14:33:42
In reply to Re: Funerals, How Many Friends Do We Really, posted by Susan47 on December 4, 2004, at 22:56:09
don't think that just because tears are not shed that the person has deep feelings...
remember disassociation?? As a tool for our momentary survival? A lot of people practice that!!!
And, no, I don't think you're weird to muse like this. Almost everyone I know has thought about this- we've had discussions about it!
I do like the idea of celebrating a life rather than gathering like buzzards or something... the disco ball thing gets my vote.
But, hon, musing is okay- dwelling on the subject isn't. Are you okay? I missed you. It seemed too weird to post you when you couldn't post back (just me, I guess...)
I'm glad you're here. You've been a great help to me!
This is the end of the thread.
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