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Posted by Colleen D. on October 22, 2004, at 22:48:18
and it went very well. He explained everything and gave me the paperwork to get the ball rolling. I do not feel hesitant at all, especially when my husband drank his dinner tonight and got sick afterward. Ugh. I will definitely be sleeping separately from him tonight! I didn't even get upset with him because now I know it is just a waiting game. My lawyer wants a $1000 retainer and then charges $170 per hour, but my case doesn't appear to be too complicated except for the child custody issues, and it's going to break my heart to take my kids away from their daddy but daddy needs to get well before he can be any kind of real daddy to them. Now I just have to come up with $1000. We're broke - only $400 in savings and just barely getting by otherwise. My folks can't afford to give me a loan like this so I'm not sure what I'm going to do. Does anyone know of an agency, etc. that helps out low income woman in my position?Using a credit card seems awfully tempting right now, but it soulds as if I would be solely responsible for that debt should I take that route. I MUST find a job soon so we can start talking about all of the details.
Thanks again ladies for all your support. I has taken me getting to know people like you that has given me the courage to go for this...I have taken too much sh*t for too long from this man! And I truly believe he could be a wonderful father with some help.
Colleen
Posted by alesta on October 23, 2004, at 6:10:02
In reply to Well, I saw my lawyer today..., posted by Colleen D. on October 22, 2004, at 22:48:18
hey, colleen,:)
i am so glad to hear that things went well with your lawyer, and that you're handling things well. that's so great!
i really don't know too much about getting financial help..all i can think of is welfare, if you qualify. or perhaps a job would cover the expenses, like you mentioned. i do know that things have a way of working out.:)
<I has taken me getting to know people like you that has given me the courage to go for this...I have taken too much sh*t for too long from this man!
colleen, that is so great to hear you say that. i'm really proud of you! you're doing it, hon, you're doing it!! you should be proud of yourself! you are a strong person. things will only get better from here, sweetie. :-)
Take Care of You!
amy
Posted by antigua on October 23, 2004, at 12:23:55
In reply to Well, I saw my lawyer today..., posted by Colleen D. on October 22, 2004, at 22:48:18
I'm really happy you met with the lawyer. The money will come from somewhere, just keep looking. You are brave to have taken the first step to helping your children--and you--escape from this destructive life. Do you have anything worth selling? silver, jewelry?
antigua
Posted by just plain jane on October 23, 2004, at 20:32:10
In reply to Well, I saw my lawyer today..., posted by Colleen D. on October 22, 2004, at 22:48:18
Colleen,
Congratulations on taking the first step.
Things could get pretty hairy, but I'm sure you'll be able to handle it. After all, you have God and PB supporting you. :-)
When I lived in Port Huron and needed to get divorced I called Social Services and asked them if there was legal aid for someone in my situation. There was, then. I know you probably prefer to go with this lawyer you have already seen, but... legal aid is always an option.
What ever you do, whomever you deal with, please, please, DON'T let anything slide. Ask, comment, disagree, just make sure you say what's on your mind. Anything you want to know should be answered, not brushed off with a "that'll all be taken care of" or any other blow offs.
I had already been through it when I got divorced here where I live now. I had an attorney. The first thing I told him, and stressed often, was that I wanted my surname changed. He always assured me, yeah, yeah, it'll be taken care of.
So, we get to court, I mention it again to my attorney while we are waiting. He says, yeah, it's in here, and pats my folder. I say, I'd like to look at that. He acts offended, but I just took it from him and opened it up. LEafing through the papers I see NO MENTION of my name change. I point this out to him. He says, oh, well, don't worry, I'll bring it up while you're on the stand.
I'm on the stand, the lawyer presents my case, the judge says okay, looks like everything's in order... and the DUMBA$$ attorney had still said NOTHING about my name. I had to address the judge myself.
"It appears that my lawyer forgot an important part of my divorce." And I state my request.Yes, my attorney was embarrassed in front of about fifty people. But I got my name change incorporated in the divorce.
Not that you have a similar desire, but my point being, make SURE your lawyer or legal aide has things exactly the way you want them. Be prepared for the unexpected from hubby. Divorce proceedings have a weird way of changing the man's behavior... waaay for the worse. They'll say and do things you'd never imagined.
Or, you could have a smooth, simple divorce. Which I hope you do.
And that starts with the money for the retainer. BTW, the $170 an hour comes out of the retainer until it's gone. just in case you didn't know -- you'd be surprised how many people don't!
Got any vehicles paid off you could get a loan against? Borrow $20 from each person you know who would lend it? (I'm reaching here)
just plain jane
Posted by Fi on October 25, 2004, at 14:27:27
In reply to Well, I saw my lawyer today..., posted by Colleen D. on October 22, 2004, at 22:48:18
Hey, well done coping so well with that visit!
I do hope you find the cash somehow.
Fi
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