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Posted by spoc on May 26, 2004, at 16:33:45
In reply to Larry Hoover, posted by lil' jimi on May 26, 2004, at 10:57:03
Posted by lil' jimi on May 26, 2004, at 17:06:39
In reply to Re: Go Jimi! Proud to know ya, if I may : ) (nm), posted by spoc on May 26, 2004, at 16:33:45
Posted by spoc on May 26, 2004, at 17:15:48
In reply to Spoc, we mustn't tell the crew!,Capt. Kirk thnx! (nm), posted by lil' jimi on May 26, 2004, at 17:06:39
Posted by lil' jimi on May 26, 2004, at 17:27:08
In reply to Re: Ok dang, I gotta change my moniker! ;- ) (nm), posted by spoc on May 26, 2004, at 17:15:48
Posted by spoc on May 26, 2004, at 17:41:52
In reply to Spoc, we mustn't tell the crew!,Capt. Kirk thnx! (nm), posted by lil' jimi on May 26, 2004, at 17:06:39
Posted by lil' jimi on May 26, 2004, at 17:52:57
In reply to Woozy, scandalous affair w/ prettypretty Dr. Smith (nm), posted by spoc on May 26, 2004, at 17:41:52
Posted by spoc on May 26, 2004, at 18:02:02
In reply to Woozy, scandalous affair w/ prettypretty Dr. Smith (nm), posted by spoc on May 26, 2004, at 17:41:52
Posted by lil' jimi on May 26, 2004, at 18:06:41
In reply to This spoc is allll woman, baby; u'd like that grip (nm), posted by spoc on May 26, 2004, at 18:02:02
Posted by spoc on May 26, 2004, at 18:13:40
In reply to This spoc is allll woman, baby; u'd like that grip (nm), posted by spoc on May 26, 2004, at 18:02:02
Posted by lil' jimi on May 26, 2004, at 19:27:31
In reply to Signs were there..ever see me in hot tub episodes? (nm), posted by spoc on May 26, 2004, at 18:13:40
Posted by spoc on May 26, 2004, at 20:53:51
In reply to as that scene began, my set exploded into flames (nm), posted by lil' jimi on May 26, 2004, at 19:27:31
Posted by lil' jimi on May 26, 2004, at 21:23:01
In reply to Re: No problem, just order Trekkies Gone Wild ;- ) (nm), posted by spoc on May 26, 2004, at 20:53:51
Posted by lil' jimi on May 26, 2004, at 23:13:56
In reply to to boldy go where no man has gone before? who knew (nm), posted by lil' jimi on May 26, 2004, at 21:23:01
Posted by spoc on May 26, 2004, at 23:50:20
In reply to to boldy go where no man has gone before? who knew (nm), posted by lil' jimi on May 26, 2004, at 21:23:01
Posted by kid47 on May 27, 2004, at 11:09:14
In reply to Ok, for a few bucks more they'll put up a fight... (nm), posted by spoc on May 26, 2004, at 23:50:20
Vulcan, you.....could you be any cuter with those pointy little ears and that ever so logical take on the universe. You've been quite coy and aloof here lately. I was concerned that perhaps Klingons had kidnapped you and attempted to mind meld you into complete submission. If that is in fact the case, be aware that I find submissive Vulcans totally irresistible. Karen Kay has once again run off with one of those ugly little creatures from the Planet of the Geeks and left me earthbound to fend for myself. The battery in my phaser is completely dead, so as you can see I am totally helpless. If it's not too much trouble could you beam me up please. I am frightened and very vulnerable to attack from one of several opportunistic entities that prey on the helpless, confused, and just a tad bit crazy beings like myself. I hope this doesn't sound too needy, but I am almost out of food and my supply of benzos is dangerously low. Bones is drunk as usual and the Captain was last seen with yoeman what's her name heading for the Motel 6. You are my only hope!! spoc...spoc...do you read me?.....dam cheap a$$ Radio Shack communicator....
Posted by lil' jimi on May 27, 2004, at 12:14:23
In reply to Ok, for a few bucks more they'll put up a fight... (nm), posted by spoc on May 26, 2004, at 23:50:20
Posted by spoc on May 28, 2004, at 13:41:10
In reply to spoc you little....., posted by kid47 on May 27, 2004, at 11:09:14
....oh MY! Alone in a room with two charming and dashing boyz for over 24 hours, and I didn't even know it! I'm blushing! I feel so vulnerable, yet so beautiful! Aren't you glad I admitted Spoc was a girl??
Kid, kid, kid. I am already eating dust for breakfast and lunch today; the dust of you surely being gone daddy gone by now. No wonder you are considered such an elusive tease around here -- even when I stumble over my keyboard and hard drive trying to get to your side when you summon me, you are by then only a sweet but dissipating scent on the thread. Slipping through my hungry fingers yet again. Ahh, the best things in life are often ephemoral. But to answer your question, no, my pointy little ears *couldn't* be any cuter, and neither could a lot of my other equipment. So exactly who is missing out on what here?
But I would never be coy with you sweet pea! Lest ye want the broken record to be played again, suffice to say I am only now doing what I must do to start extricating eyeballs from monitor and see if I still have a physical dimension and other mediums I am capable of concentrating on. It may take the Jaws of Life or a surgical procedure by now. And...tragically...it's only going to get worse, i.e. better. I do so hate to fade away right when I was starting to get to know some people, and hope that you will remain uncured indefinitely so that you will always be here when I stop by. It's all about me -- I think everyone agrees to that in the registration process these days.
For now, I have imposed limits on myself that mainly allow me only to skim titles at the speed of light and yank the board pages down rapidly to look at new threads at the bottom. Even then foregoing most responding, and soon possibly not to incorporate even daily checks. If I stop by and if I see it, I would of course always come running to anyone crying out to me specifically, which happens oh so often.
BUT BEAR WITH ME -- I will be a regular contributor again as soon as these things happen: 1] I accept that I really should get into therapy and probably onto a med; 2] I am officially dxed as obsessive compulsive (time wasting, avoidant, unfocused, not to be trusted with diversionary things like the Internet); 3] I am successfully treated; 4] have my career, finances, personal time and schedule in balance, and 5] can then return again to surf, read, post and frolick in moderation. Now, THAT doesn't sound like it will take too long, does it??? See you on the next recreational shuttle to Pluto! Don't forget your Speedo, and SPF 4,000,000! ;- )
But Kid, don't feel bad, KK has again thrown me over as well. She even implored me to claim I am a very happy person and then I heard her snoring while I was trying to comply. I tagged her and informed her that she was "it" several times, to no avail. And she never told me that hide 'n seek was over, and left me balled up under the sink and unfed for days. And, yes, I WILL beam you up and protect your precious vulnerable butt, IF you will be my personal secretary up here, arranging for me to keep my life and time in order. And other various and sundry chores, like cleaning my apartment and doing my laundry. And take messages for me at the site whenever I'm gone, will you? This will be unpaid work, but many would kill for the opportunity regardless, so consider yourself lucky.
And, here's an I.O.U., which obviously has a value greater than cash:
(snip)......(snip).....(snip)
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- I.O.U.:
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- 37 clever turns of phrase
- 23 snickers
- 18 guffaws
- 196 stupefyingly brilliant observations
----------------------------------------------Ok, stop reading now, the rest doesn't pertain to you. I know I can trust you to respect that.
=======PSSSST! Jimi! What are doing later? Kid tries and everything but he's just kinda bland, ya know? And your cajun accent is just knocking me out, or is that the passion of the blues I detect? And where DID you get those leather pants?? What a fit! Where's the hot tub, let's go!!!!
Posted by lil' jimi on May 28, 2004, at 14:21:19
In reply to Re: Heaven's to Betsy, where's my chaperone??, posted by spoc on May 28, 2004, at 13:41:10
hi spoc,
i'm glad to know you too, if i may ...
you are very cute ... you flatter me to bits ... thanks .... .... it is very sweet of you and much appreciated ... ... and i am not worthy ... still, thanks ...
but you see, folks who know me might believe i could be leading you on ... and i don't even like that i have you at this disadvantage here ... ... so i feel i must close certain speculation(s) so we may play fair insofar as we play here ...
personal babble disclosure:
my wife and i have this incredible 5 year old boy who is my greatest achievement and owns my soul ... well, he share's the title with his mom ... we'll be married 18 years this august ... ... i am 53 and retired last august
... and a democrat and a buddhist.
i have taking 10 milligrams of lexapro a day for more than a year now.now ... we (i) don't need to get stressed about not stressing anything that needed to be stressed or is understressed or overstressed... ... ... we just would Not want to bring any distress to you ... ... nor me neither, you!
and i do get to feel ... okay .... now
you understand, friend?which blues shall we dance too?
they buried jim morrison in my leather pants.
you and your hot tubs ... ... who could resist?take care beauty,
~ jim
Posted by spoc on May 28, 2004, at 15:48:55
In reply to my personal Truth in Babbling Policy » spoc, posted by lil' jimi on May 28, 2004, at 14:21:19
Tee hee, thanks for breakin it to me gentley, but I am indeed prepared to deal stoically with the fact that I may never be able to have the objects of my fancy here... and that there's ever so slight a chance that I may never meet anyone here face to face at all... And in the meantime, rules prohibit me from posting pornography to them or encouraging freaky cyber stuff... so we should be safe! But I understand that my presence and allure feel so tangible that some are driven to cover themselves from the possibility that they may find themselves wishing to track me down and possess me in real life, leaving family and emotions in havoc... So I respect you for that...
But are you really sure you even *have* a wife and child? It could be a hallucinogenic side effect of the meds you're on... *<giggle>*
Besides, I can barely fend off all the real life suitors beating paths to my door as it is, I really couldn't handle any more! ;- )But seriously jimi, I think all those things you describe about yourself are stellar, and so sweet is it to hear a man boast often and contendedly about his wife and family. I respect that very highly. When I used to allow myself relationships, I wouldn't settle for less than signs of the potential for a guy to be cut from that very cloth! (So yes, I was fine with being alone for long stretches..... Just kiddin boys!) There are an abundance of clues to be picked up on in how people weigh in on and handle various matters, even seemingly unrelated to such determinations. And I'm bettin it can be told from a mile away that you're a good guy! :- )
How else could I know that? Because due to the magic of archives, I am more familiar with you than would otherwise be possible (don't worry, I'm not searching you out, I just have an out-of-control hobby of reading the archives). So, who has who at the disadvantage here? Hey jimi, have ya fed peas to any polar bears out near an ice hole recently? Hee hee!
Ok, as you were! I wasn't really here, you're hallucinating again. Really, ask anyone else besides yourself if they can see this post and they will answer no. Possibly the thing I am best known for -- besides supreme wisdom of course -- is droning on endlessly about how Internet addiction is ruining my life, and that I am now disengaging and therefore may not respond at some points. Is anyone laughing yet? This is getting...what, pathological? YES! Ok, say it with me in the America Online guy voice, "Goodbye!" ;- )
Posted by lil' jimi on May 28, 2004, at 16:39:22
In reply to Re: my personal Truth in Babbling Policy, posted by spoc on May 28, 2004, at 15:48:55
hi spoc,
i hope it was gently ... ... i wanted a minimum of impact ... ... but we were getting too close to my discomfort zone and i could presume you wouldn't want me there ...
i much prefer you have me at the disadvantage ... ... you can find out more about me than my friends know in the pBFaith archives ... that's where i buried my secrets ... . (shhhh! ... don't tell anyone!)
i need to go do a googled search for "pBabblemania" for you ... ...
thanks for being a good sport ...
and the continuing nice compliments ...
... you're too kind ... and so funny!carry on,
~ jim
Posted by spoc on May 28, 2004, at 19:10:19
In reply to re: psychoBabblemania, posted by lil' jimi on May 28, 2004, at 16:39:22
> i need to go do a googled search for "pBabblemania" for you ... ...
<<<<< EEEEK! I'm not only a PB newbie but a whole message board newbie... fear I never quite found my own voice. You'll see lots of dry, Vulcan-like, logical rambles about PC and Google tips (my claim to fame here is the "Search options and examples" link now appearing under the search slot -- yep, that's on accounta meeee!).... Occasional dispensible posts to the med board... and some pointless dissertations on what it's like inside this particular head... and my shining relationship (not) with the last and practically only T (analyst) I tried .... Other than that, jumping willy nilly and randomly into small talk threads...
See, I've haunted without a real purpose so far... Problems galore but not in treatment of any kind, so not much to ask or add as of yet... Hopefully picking up some pointers though.... THEN! Merely a few weeks ago, KK and Kid invited me into the PB Flirt game, a style to which I had heretofore been a stranger, as could be seen in the archives (actually, the lack of such behaviors has even been noted and sometimes complained of in my real life)!
But rest assured that it is like way totally just a random dart toss with no component of reality behind it... I feel about as inclined to post or passionate about such things as I am when I am changing my oil or clipping my toenails... (well, that's a lie about changing my oil... but only cuz I no longer have a car).
Ok, WHOOOSH! I'm gone again, if I was indeed really here at all. Look forward to our next crossing of upright paths! ;- )
Posted by lil' jimi on May 30, 2004, at 0:35:35
In reply to re: psychoBabblemania, posted by spoc on May 28, 2004, at 19:10:19
Posted by lil' jimi on May 30, 2004, at 1:27:13
In reply to i made up 'psychoBabblemania', now no message box (nm) » spoc, posted by lil' jimi on May 30, 2004, at 0:35:35
that was weird ...
went to post my last message to you, but
the message box was missing on the "enter you post" ...
i reloaded the page, went back to your message to re-click the "go to form" button ... every time; no message box .. i gave up and decided i'd just post everything in the subject line like we used to do ...so then i click the "go to form" button in reply to my own sublect line post ... there's the message box back from its houdini act ...
weird, but better ... really doesn't matter though ... a curiosity
"pBabblemania" is a pure fabrication on my part, right? ... but the search i suggested wasn't to research about you ... ... i like what you tell me about you just fine .. ... .. i'm not much of a pb archive diver ... hard enough for me to keep up with the present goings on ... ...
i find/found your flirting very sweet and perfectly non-threatening or anything like that ... ...
and the anonymity of posting can let us enable some of our under-utilized potentials ...a little practice never hurt ...
i hope you feel okay . .. ... and that we are cool with each other ... ...
cool?
~ jimokay a new posting challenge here ... repeated attempts to post this message by clicking our always good for a laugh "Submit your post" button brought up my previous subject-line-only post asking for my confirmation ... ... then i discover 7 opened browser windows each asking me if i wanted to save mt message since i'd closed the massage window without submitting my post ... ... maybe it's just not my night
will it work this time?
no,this will be my third try ...
fingers crossed!
~ j
Posted by lil' jimi on May 30, 2004, at 1:34:36
In reply to Re: i made up 'psychoBabblemania', now no message, posted by lil' jimi on May 30, 2004, at 1:27:13
... and that last message was not editable because when i got to the page where one may revise one's submission .... there was no message box to revise in ...
let me say that this is the rarest of events for me ... in all of my pb posting, i have never had this much rigamarole trying to get my browser to deal with dr. bob's servers ... ....
and now i may see how this one goes ....
good luck,
~ jim
Posted by spoc on May 30, 2004, at 10:03:48
In reply to Re: i made up 'psychoBabblemania', now no message, posted by lil' jimi on May 30, 2004, at 1:27:13
Too weird! I also have never had that happen before! Obviously a system problem right now. It happened when clicking on "Go to form" from your first message here, but not from the second. Then, I went back to your first message to experiment some more, and from the few times I tested it, it looked like there might be some correlation to opting to carry over the person's text into the reply box. The times I did that were the times I would get no box. If I left it at "Your message only," it didn't seem to happen. Obviously, either way, this ain't how it's supposed to be!
But at least for now, if indeed carrying text over is a factor, people can not do so and then copy and paste from the post they're responding to that displays below the reply box. Or -- as you noticed, just clicking on a different message to "launch off of" also seemed to work for me. But wow, I may not get to edit this huh? Eeek, I am the typo master, and always need much editing! So let me express my horror in advance should I end up having to submit this all mangled. The obsessive compulsive in me sez, copy your reply and just keep "Go(ing) back" and starting a new form to carry out any editing, but that's a good example of unnecessary steps I take that give me a headache! <----- <hee hee, that is what I ended up doing! Not hard, cuz it was loaded in my mouse and I only had to click it into the fresh box>
I do really hope, however, the site is never capable of posting our responses with no review/confirm step appearing at all! That wouldn't be fun. Well, for anyone wanting to be uncivil without being held accountable until it was fixed, I guess it could be fun! Ok ok enough, me and my tangents over the silliest or most boring things! Ya know it's funny though, when I saw your "NM" last night I thought what you were saying, in response to me having boasted about "Search options and examples," was that you had invented psychoBabblemania as well as the "NM" posting option!
Anyway! Of course we are cool, jimi, I know you're a good guy and nothing you ever say would ever be meant with less than good and considerate intentions, towards anyone. That's the kind of bottom line I try to look it in general these days, unlike when I was younger, and would only go by the end result of how *I* felt. Because I do happen to be pretty self-conscious, and easily mortified, thinking something has reflected on me like a beacon in a not-good way when in reality it is usually something no one even gave a second thought to. I have this need to always clarify what I'm really like, even when it doesn't matter.
Like if someone had it in their head for some reason that my favorite color is burgundy; or that I eat a lot of red meat; or that the only thing that takes me an ungodly amount of time to do is get gussied up to go out (when in reality, *everything* takes me an ungodly amount of time, as I am OCD); it will bug me and each time it surfaces I will have this compulsion to make sure what I really meant/am is understood... Even when what was being expressed was acceptance, or agreement, or a compliment on the thing I think they have gotten mixed up. Well those aren't good examples but good ones are escaping me at the moment.
Anyway, here, that compulsion was making me wish you could see clips of my real life, wherein I never play the s*x or innuendo card at all, and am pretty much known to be impervious to having it played on me as well. I don't want to risk attracting anyone based on anything other than substance, and that kind of discourse pattern also bores me in real life. Actually it is one of the things I am proud of on the social level, because even here in the cut-throat singles scene of a big city, I manage to be witty and non-prudish enough without those things, and it's worked in my favor. So this situation was especially ironic.
But see, why would I need a stranger to know that, why do I assume the worst in the first place, why do I feel like I need to explain and justify myself all the time? Those are the keys to one of my biggest issues actually.
(In the midst of my "clarifying" an event or misconception, which I will be seeing as a character issue, I will often be told to "RELAX" and that I am making too big a deal out of something; which for someone wound up like a toy poodle at the moment, only tends to exacerbate it...)
So I was dismayed to think that someone may have gathered that 'flirting' or making innuendo was my natural style, even if it didn't matter at all to them. It was just so completely the "luck of the draw"/random/isolated/tongue in cheek for me to have taken that angle, and wouldn't have persisted, that I had to laugh ironically to myself that I had managed to come off so strongly to the other extreme that a warning, just to be safe, and kinda repeated/rephrased a few times, appeared to be in order.
Then of course I worried that maybe I did sound genuinely crass and pornographic, here before the whole world. It was so like my typical "luck" that this would crop up with the first poster I spoke to that way, outside the bubble of KK and Kid.
BUT see, I know that you would have no way of knowing that, and I know you mean only the best, and I know as anyone else can by reading this far that it is me who has that aforementioned problem with thinking about things too much and noticing things that most people probably never notice.
Whew! I thought maybe I had pulled off seeming casual about it all in my last reference, but you are obviously a very perceptive man, and I thank you for caring enough to ask and even thinking of asking. I hope I haven't further embarrassed myself here! My self-consciousness in general is something I need to work on, because often after posting something I have thought, OH MY HEAVENS!!!! How could I have let that all hang out, how exquisitely humiliating!!! But then when I ask myself rationally if whatever it was was an extreme thing to tell about oneself in comparison to other things I see people telling about themselves all around me here, I have to answer that I am being silly. But I do feel a physical sense of fear and remorse many times after clicking "submit." I have this idea that I am destined to be misunderstood, everywhere, for some reason!
Good grief, ok just let me be the one to say it: "RELAX, spoc!" All is very well because I know it is me; and because I know that everyone has every right to be comfortable and uncomfortable with the things they are, so they can't be wrong; and you were only speaking from your heart; and you are a good guy. Thanks again for following up jimi! :- D
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