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Posted by Dinah on March 25, 2003, at 17:58:48
she yelped for help :(
Posted by Dinah on March 25, 2003, at 18:21:53
In reply to help help, posted by Dinah on March 25, 2003, at 17:58:48
my therapist is mad at me :(((((
he says he's frustrated, but what "frustrated" really means is as mad as you can get at a client
i know better i really do. i know how to make parents not mad at me
Posted by Dinah on March 25, 2003, at 19:14:23
In reply to Re: ow ow ow ow ow ow ow ow ow ow ow ow ow ow ow, posted by Dinah on March 25, 2003, at 18:21:53
Posted by Dinah on March 25, 2003, at 19:14:56
In reply to Re: It's okay that you're therapist is mad at you (nm) » Dinah, posted by Dinah on March 25, 2003, at 19:14:23
Posted by Dinah on March 25, 2003, at 19:15:45
In reply to Re: People get mad all the time (nm) » Dinah, posted by Dinah on March 25, 2003, at 19:14:56
Posted by Dinah on March 25, 2003, at 19:16:23
In reply to The world goes on and relationships survive anger (nm) » Dinah, posted by Dinah on March 25, 2003, at 19:15:45
Posted by Dinah on March 25, 2003, at 19:16:57
In reply to Re: But my therapist is mad at me. Waaaaahhhhhh. (nm) » Dinah, posted by Dinah on March 25, 2003, at 19:16:23
Posted by lostsailor on March 25, 2003, at 19:19:19
In reply to Re: ow ow ow ow ow ow ow ow ow ow ow ow ow ow ow, posted by Dinah on March 25, 2003, at 18:21:53
Posted by Dinah on March 25, 2003, at 19:22:22
In reply to Re: Oh shut up you big baby. (nm) » Dinah, posted by Dinah on March 25, 2003, at 19:16:57
And even if he does, you will survive. You're a big girl and don't need your mommy.
Do so!!!!
Do not!!!!
So!!!!
Not!!!!
So!Not!So!Not!So!Not!So!Not!So!Not!
Posted by Dinah on March 25, 2003, at 19:25:09
In reply to Re: ow ...I must really pi** mine off then!!...lol (nm), posted by lostsailor on March 25, 2003, at 19:19:19
:-)
Posted by Dinah on March 25, 2003, at 19:43:17
In reply to Re: He is not going to terminate you. » Dinah, posted by Dinah on March 25, 2003, at 19:22:22
So you don't have to worry. Really. I wouldn't lie about that.
Posted by Dinah on March 25, 2003, at 19:59:53
In reply to Re: He is not going to terminate you. » Dinah, posted by Dinah on March 25, 2003, at 19:43:17
Posted by sienna on March 25, 2003, at 20:13:36
In reply to Re: He is not going to terminate you. » Dinah, posted by Dinah on March 25, 2003, at 19:43:17
Oh Dinah i have been there
in fact i have had hard time not feeling like my doctors arent mad at me lately. they offere help i take it then i think they are mad for me using them so much. Im sorry yours said hes frustrated i know that can hurt a lot.
but he wont ternminate you it will be ok and it will work out fine. you are a wonderful person and i know he wants you to feel better. he wouldnt want yuo to worry so much about htat. i say this from how you have talked aobut him before. Im just sorry you ar eso upset about it.sienna
Posted by OddipusRex on March 25, 2003, at 20:14:35
In reply to Re: He is not going to terminate you. » Dinah, posted by Dinah on March 25, 2003, at 19:43:17
I had a phone session with my Pdoc yesterday and I called him something quite scrub out your mouth with Ajaxish. (I WAS provoked.) And he called me back and apologized and congratulated me on my vocabulary.
Try it. Everyones on edge even shrinkos. They won't melt if you get angry. Why do you think he's mad at you?
> So you don't have to worry. Really. I wouldn't lie about that.
Posted by paxvox on March 25, 2003, at 20:37:48
In reply to help help, posted by Dinah on March 25, 2003, at 17:58:48
Ah........so, is this a question, a statement or an answer? You posted so many responses to your own post that I'm confused. Splain.
PAX
Posted by bozeman on March 25, 2003, at 21:08:48
In reply to Re: help help, posted by paxvox on March 25, 2003, at 20:37:48
This is Dinah's adorable effort at a self-love (or self-revelation) post. She's actually doing quite well, I think.
You go, girl . . . . you wildly intellectual highly dedicated deeply devoted adorably wonderful hardworking fool you!!!
<grin>
bozeman (who probably needs to do a self love post too, to remind her of why she shouldn't jump back into a relationship with the contrite ex-boyfriend)
Posted by Dinah on March 25, 2003, at 21:09:18
In reply to Re: help help, posted by paxvox on March 25, 2003, at 20:37:48
Sorry, pax.
It's just that the matter was of the utmost urgency and, no one else being available, I had to help myself.
Unfortunately I proved obdurate and help rejecting to myself.
Posted by Dinah on March 25, 2003, at 21:20:54
In reply to Re: He is not going to terminate you., posted by sienna on March 25, 2003, at 20:13:36
Thanks Sienna,
He's always trying to tell me that it's ok for him to get mad at me (and vice versa). That he'll get over it and he won't terminate me. But I still feel stark terror when he admits to anger, even when he disguises it as frustration. I'm not at all good with anger. And I'm pretty mad at myself for making him mad.
Sigh.
Posted by Dinah on March 25, 2003, at 21:30:20
In reply to Awww sweet tulip he won't leave you. » Dinah, posted by OddipusRex on March 25, 2003, at 20:14:35
Hi Oddipus.
I'm impressed that you impressed a pdoc. Mine is unflappable.
Oooohhhhh, he's angry all right. That you're playing games with me (I certainly don't intend to) I really just don't know what to do with you anger. :((
Need to make it ok somehow. I panic when he's mad at me.
Posted by Dinah on March 25, 2003, at 21:41:34
In reply to Re: help help ---Dinah » paxvox, posted by bozeman on March 25, 2003, at 21:08:48
lol. yes, i'm trying. but i just don't believe me.
So boyfriend is contrite now. Hmmmm. Make sure you're totally clear on how wonderful you are and just how much you deserve before you even entertain his entreaties. :)
Posted by likelife on March 25, 2003, at 21:50:16
In reply to help help, posted by Dinah on March 25, 2003, at 17:58:48
Ouch. Sounds like you're in the loop--you know, the one in which you (by which I mean one, not just you specifically) circle round and round telling yourself yes/no/yes/no...What about a detour? What happens when you get mad back at him? Or frustrated at his frustration? And so on. I have always been impressed by your compassion for others. Why is it that we always have so little compassion or understanding for ourselves?
My therapist recently told me that I have been "tough," and that others, including several pdocs have agreed. Sigh. I sat on it a while, and then opted to forget it because I just didn't know what to do with it.
Feel better, please?
Posted by kara lynne on March 25, 2003, at 21:53:23
In reply to Re: help help » bozeman, posted by Dinah on March 25, 2003, at 21:41:34
Tell all!
Posted by Dinah on March 25, 2003, at 21:56:04
In reply to Re: help help » Dinah, posted by likelife on March 25, 2003, at 21:50:16
i was going to roll over and show my soft underbelly.
confess to all and promise to do better.
he'll tell me of course that it isn't necessary. that's what they all say once i'm in appeasing mode.
Posted by likelife on March 25, 2003, at 22:04:33
In reply to Re: i can't *do* mad » likelife, posted by Dinah on March 25, 2003, at 21:56:04
Mad gets all wrapped up in passive-aggression, and then minor, though quite infrequent, explosions for me, which leave my husband saying, "Huh?" and my therapist saying, "borderline."
Anyways, I'd want to tell you the same, that it's not necessary to promise to do better. You're doing your best, I'm sure. And I feel sad at your need to make it better--which is often the same as mine. The question is always whether the tension and anxiety you're undergoing now can be helpful in any way--if this is a pattern you've been looking to change.
Just for good measure ((Dinah)).
Who's "they all"?
Posted by Dinah on March 25, 2003, at 22:14:34
In reply to i hear you » Dinah, posted by likelife on March 25, 2003, at 22:04:33
>
> Who's "they all"?I'm fully aware that I project a lot of parental issues onto my relationship with my therapist. (grin) Fortunately that's what he's there for.
I explode too. Or rather I implode. I mainly do self directed anger and aggression. My therapist keeps trying to tell me that that is as bad as hurting someone else. But I don't get that *at all*. I'm quite sure that he doesn't believe it either.
thanks for the hug.
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